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News to Me: Kissing and Chemistry

You know how after a first kiss, your friends ask you if there was any chemistry? Well, it turns out that question is right on the money. According to a recent article in Scientific American, there are multiple chemical reactions that occur when we kiss, which affect all sorts of emotional responses including bonding, stress levels, attraction, compatibility, and of course, sexual arousal.
Perhaps the most interesting point the article makes, is this:

The researchers found an unusual flurry of activity in two brain regions that govern pleasure, motivation, and reward. . . . Addictive drugs such as cocaine similarly stimulate these reward centers, through the release of the neurotransmitter dopamine. Love, it seems, is a kind of drug for us humans.

I knew there was a reason that I love foreplay — I'm hooked on kissing. The article also mentions that a first kiss is an indicator of genetic compatibility with a mate. It rings true for me, but how about you? Has a kiss ever influenced your attraction to someone?


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Angela2602603 Angela2602603 5 years
That first kiss can be electric. It can make you lose all perspective and your clothes fall off. I haven't kissed many guys, but without chemistry kissing is boring. When you have chemistry it makes your head spin and leads to something more. How can it not? Without that chemistry how can you have a relationship?   
nopenope nopenope 9 years
Definitely true. Before I met my boyfriend (of almost 2.5 years), I was talking with this guy from work. We ended up making out and damn was that kiss HORRIBLE. It felt wrong and he felt wrong. That kiss was the reason I stopped seeing him. There was no chemistry at all and I couldn't be with him romantically after that. Almost two weeks later, I met my love and that first kiss was AMAZING. The amazing has only gotten stronger, too. But, my favorite kiss in our relationship completely sealed the deal about 5 months in. We were already living together for about a month at that point. He woke up before me, looked at me and said he decided I was too beautiful not to kiss. I woke up with from his kiss and all I could say was "" I completely love his natural smell/taste and vice versa. His boysmell is dreamy. Our chemistry is perfect. :)
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
im going to be blunt: kissing is a huge thing. i have ditched guys bc i felt no spark. and i also slept with someone purely for the fact that he was the most amazing kisser that i ever kissed (and am still with him two years later ;-)) kissing is SO important to me
miosotis miosotis 9 years
I love kissing my fiance. (I want to kiss him NOW, but I can't :() GlowingMoon, I agree with you! (although my nose isn't so sensitive). I love to sleep with my fiance's T-shirts because I can feel his natural scent. (I'm in a long-distance and I miss him a lot)
Meike Meike 9 years
GlowingMoon, I couldn't agree more!! You're right. Good natural scents are a total turn-on. I love breathing in the natural scent of my man.
AucuneRancune AucuneRancune 9 years
I agree with above comments that a kiss is a deal maker or breaker. I would never date someone whom I did not enjoy kissing. Hmmm, I shared a first kiss recently that was quite enjoyable and this article is convincing me that I should kiss him some more :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I'm in the minority here. As much as I enjoy kissing, the deciding factor for me is how the man naturally smells. I suppose I have a very sensitive nose. There were times when I was attracted to a man, but once I got close enough to smell him (like sitting next to him), I was completely turned-off. They didn't have offensive body odor. I just didn't like how they naturally smelled. I've had experiences where the opposite happened. There were men who I was not particularly attracted to, but when I got close enough to smell them (like giving a hug hello or goodbye), I became deeply attracted. I loved their natural scent. I got weak in the knees. It's weird. I guess it's all about my nose. :)
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
Kissing is yummy anyway and when you meet someone you really like who is a good kisser then even better. I don't think it's all that shocking a discovery. I can't say that if I loved someone and they were a bad kisser I would get rid of them but it wouldn't make me happy. Fortunately I found the one guy who I love and is the best kisser ever. He kisses like me so we are very compatible and we both like the same things in a kiss.
Meike Meike 9 years
I am completely and utterly addicted to kissing my honey. That first Fireworks...
bastille_75 bastille_75 9 years
Oh BTW - I have some friends who say they do not like the way their husbands/boyfriends/SOs kiss. I do not get that! Can somebody explain this to me??
bastille_75 bastille_75 9 years
YES!!!! If I guy is not a good kisser or there is no chemistry - forget about a second kiss and/or date!!! My last great kiss was so good, I got into a car accident immediately following the kiss (i've been out of town since then), we are going out again tomorrow night - I'm tempted to take a cab!!!! He texted me to say he's looking forward to kissing me again!!! (I texted back to say "don't count your chicks before they hatch J/K"- a girl's gotta play a little hard to get ;) he doesn't need to know how much I've been looking forward to another marathon kissing session!!!!
elmendoa elmendoa 9 years
yes! kissing is sooo important. my boyfriend is the best kisser. yum-my.
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
Yes! I still reminisce about my first kiss w/ my boyfriend. It was ELECTRIC! Thinking about it still gives me the goosebumps. :love:
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
wow this reminded me of my first kiss with my now husband... and im blushing *giggle* its been a while since i remembered it, it happened about 1 1/2 ago =$
Jeny Jeny 9 years
Of course it has.. if it's sloppy and wet.. he won't be getting another!
ccsugar ccsugar 9 years
The worst is when you go out with a guy, you're having a great time, you're attracted to him, and you go in for a kiss... And nothing happens! Hate that. I love it too when a guy will compliment me on what a good kisser I am. Nice lil boost to the ego ;)
laluna27 laluna27 9 years
I will never forget when I first kissed my boyfriend - I can't even put into words how right it felt and continues to feel 2 and a half years later
sabrinaland sabrinaland 9 years
I once had a fantastic date with someone and couldn't believe it when he kissed me at the end of the night and I couldn't feel anything from his side! It felt like I was kissing a piece of paper. I thought, "How could the date be so good but his kiss be so nothing?" I was imagining this amazing kiss but was so disappointed!
theflyinghorse theflyinghorse 9 years
I believe it. When I kiss my boyfriend, it's on a different level than anyone else I've ever kissed. Our kisses are perfect :) (sorry to be super cheesy)
marcella marcella 9 years
Has a kiss ever influenced your attraction to someone? Um... yeah. I know immediately after a first kiss whether or not someone's right for me. Eight years ago, I kissed by boyfriend for the first time and have been hooked since!!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I've read the whole cocaine and kissing thing before, I'm not surprised at all. ;)
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Oooo sweet! I &hertas; kissing my man! Espeically when it's one of those kisses you know means something...
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