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Nicole Kidman on Time Apart in Marriage

Does Absence Make the Heart Grow Fonder or Just Distant?

I'm big on alone time, so I've always supported time apart in a relationship. I can even see the perks of having a husband who travels for a living — maybe a pilot?

But just yesterday we were reminded how hard long-distance relationships can be when we found out that Amanda Seyfried and boyfriend Dominic Cooper had split . . . for now. Earlier this month, Amanda spoke about how much work LDRs take, and we can only imagine that distance took its toll.

Nicole Kidman, while not in a long-distance relationship with husband Keith Urban, knows this, and she told the AP that they never spend more than three days apart. But considering she's an actress and he's a country singer, staying a few days near must be a hard promise to keep.

So long-distance relationships aside, are a few days or weeks apart good for romance or bad for relationships?

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Yesi-Jukebox Yesi-Jukebox 7 years
I think it really depends on the time apart and the extent of the relationship...but, if I am dating someone and we don't see each other for like 2-3 weeks but we live in the same state that's a problem for me and I start to doubt things.
fashionplate525 fashionplate525 7 years
This is a really great question. If you had asked me two months ago, I would have for sure answered that absence makes the heart grow fonder, seeing as I have been in a LDR for over 6 months and adore my hunny. BUT, having spent the past few months in the same city with him, with much more time together, I will attest to the fact that spending time together is really what has taken my feelings from strongly liking him to deeply loving him.
LittleMzFit LittleMzFit 7 years
I think it varies. It depends on who it is (how you deeply you feel about each other), your personality (introvert or extrovert), & what stage of the relationship (still hot & crazy over each other or long term relationship of a year or more).
turtleshell turtleshell 7 years
I see my boyfriend almost every day. I am always eager to spend time with him. However, I do enjoy my alone time and it is more fun to spend time with him after we've spent some time apart. Otherwise I find that I don't have a lot of interesting things to tell him! I love having nice quiet time together and we're always comfortable even if we have nothing new to talk about, but I do enjoy being able to tell him all the little interesting things that have happened while we were apart. I'm going away for two months for a summer job as a camp photographer, so as much as spending two months with minimal contact is going to be tough, it'll be SO wonderful to have lots of things to catch up on and lots of stories to tell. Nonetheless, I'm sure I'll be sending lots of emails, letters and getting lots in return in addition to frequent phone calls.
French-Kiss French-Kiss 7 years
Good if it doesn't last too much and it's not too often... But like 3days off once a month is a good minimum xD
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
My boyfriend works a lot. At times he's gone by 6 or 7 am and doesn't get back before midnight (it's nothing illegal LOL) People always ask me how I do it, and I tell them exactly what missy d said: we don't know any different. It's always been like this from the beginning. We both need our space. It doesn't mean we love each other any less. It's just how we as a couple work.
joriss joriss 7 years
Its difficult sometimes..
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
I think that sometimes distance is a good think, but everything in moderation is the key. Not seeing my significant other for months would take a hold on my relationship, but also seeing him every minute of every day. I think that everything in moderation is the key.
missyd missyd 7 years
HA funny this post came up today. I was discussing this with my co-workers today. My husband is a military pilot - sometimes he goes for weeks, months, a couple of times it was closer to a YEAR. he is gone I'd say in total at *least* half of the year. And people are like 'how do you do it? How can you handle that?' And the reality of it is, good or bad, it is the life we are used to know and how we know our marriage to be - any other way would be strange to us. To be one of those couples that see each other every day of every year is just not how we work. I think if we were around each other for more than a month or so straight we would both be itching for a 'work trip'. We love each other DEARLY though, don't get me wrong. Bu sometimes I think part of the reason it works for us is just exactly what the title of this article says : absence DOES make the heart grow fonder. not to say that those who don't have this kind of relationship are missing something. It wouldn't work for everyone!
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