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Is It OK to Tell Friends Your Significant Other's Secrets?

Is It OK to Tell Friends Your Significant Other's Secrets?

By nature, I am a chatterbox, so when I'm dating someone, I sometimes don't think before I share stuff my boyfriend told me to my friends. I don't do this to betray his trust; it's just that with close friends, I don't always have a filter.

It's only later that I might think, "Oh, crap! He wouldn't want them to know that," or (almost worse) when I find out that (also without thinking) he told some deep-dark secret of mine to his beer buddies.

Do you think it's OK to tell friends your significant other's secrets?

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JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Most of the time no. I would never say anything personal without his blessing but I'd share some juicy tidbits if my friends were discreet.
Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
That's crossing a line. No, just keep your mouth shut. I have been told things that seem small but will go with me to my grave. I would not like it if he told his friends, so I wouldn't do it to him.
NurseKimberly NurseKimberly 8 years
NOT COOL!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
No!! I'll tell my SO my friends secrets though. :p
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Absolutely not..... it's tacky and disloyal and something I would not appreciate if it were done to me. And I don't share my friends secrets with my husband either.
meowry meowry 8 years
Not cool. I keep others' secrets, as if they were my own. When someone tells me something in confidence, I will take it with me to the grave. Not even my sister/best friend will find out. But I do realize that most women are not as good as I am at keeping secrets.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
Only in the very rarest instances, and if it was something that I knew he was very concerned with keeping private, there's no way.
MrsRachel MrsRachel 8 years
I try not to share people secrets.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i would never do this, but i do tell (some) of my friends' secrets to my boyfriend.. the joke is "dont tell anyone...well i know you'll tell Mark but don't tell anyone else"
Matdredalia Matdredalia 8 years
Normally, not only no but hell no. I don't believe in spilling secrets. However, if it was something I was having a really, REALLY hard time dealing with, I might talk to a very, VERY discreet friend or family member about it. But it's a big maybe.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Hell no. Talk about being untrustworthy.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
No. I don't tell friends of my hub's secrets.
allyell allyell 8 years
Well, I better be consistent. I recently criticized Tres for never covering any DearSugar subjects. So, now that she has put one up, I'll say thanks. Please don't keep them so rare. The rest of the content here is difficult to wade through. As for the post, I once told my (former) bff about my (former) bf's, uh, proclivities. It got out. I'd never seen a s**tstorm before. It was not cool. And I feel really bad to this day for betraying his confidence in me.
aila aila 8 years
A secret is a secret is a secret. Keep quiet. Now, if it involves illegality, then talk to someone in the know.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
No way...If you don't have trust, what is left?
fuzzles fuzzles 8 years
Agreed, wackdoodle.
Twisted-Elegance Twisted-Elegance 8 years
i don't tell anyone because my boyfriend doesn't confide in ANYONE (not even his best friends and he doesn't get along with his younger brother) so the fact that he does with me means a lot and i wouldn't wanna jeopardize that. but sometimes i dish to my bf about my best friends (because i know he won't tell anyone) and i know he secretly loves knowing everything that's going on lol
tksinclair tksinclair 8 years
Admittedly I've broken the "don't tell anybody rule" but only with people who don't know the person whose secret I'm keeping. Maybe to get an objective opinion. I don't think it's a good idea to talk within your circle of friends about another person. That always leads to BIG TROUBLE!
SamanthaFOx SamanthaFOx 8 years
Generally it's not cool, but sometimes you got to spill.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
no i dont tell my husband's secrets to my friends nor do i tell my friends' secrets to my husband...
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Personally I think it depends. Some things with my very best friends have to be explained to an extent due to circumstances that arise and questions that are asked. What I find rude is when a friend tells their s/o everything you've told them. My boyfriend doesn't care what is going on with my friends and their personal lives and I'd like to think my friends s/o wouldn't care about mine either so it makes me so angry when I hear that a friend is using what I've confided in them about MY personal life and used it as a conversation piece with their s/o. If I'm not good/best friend with their s/o as well there is no need to talk about it as I told THAT person not their s/o.
wackdoodle wackdoodle 8 years
Only if you don't want to continue to have a "significant other" then by all means break that trust that you worked to build up.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I don't share my bf's secrets with anyone but sometimes I share my friends secrets with my bf.
kty kty 8 years
i do talk a lot...but when my boyfrien confides in me,i don't share it with anyone.guys aren't like us,for them to confide in you,they have to really trust you,so i wouldn't want to lose that.
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