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Oral Sex Doesn't Equal Safe Sex

Oral Sex Doesn't Equal Safe Sex

I hate to bring up this not-so-fun topic, but I'm concerned. Many of my friends have dated guys that they wouldn't have sex because they were worried about STIs, but they didn't seem the least bit worried about having oral sex. When your mouth has contact with someone else's business, you can very well get a whole plethora of STIs — the problem is that many of these sexually transmitted infections are asymptomatic, which means you can't tell if someone is infected just by looking at them. That also means an infected person may not realize they even have an STI so they let their partner perform oral sex on them while unknowingly and accidentally passing the infection on to them.

Which STIs can be passed on through oral sex? To find out


Gonorrhea: I know this is gross, but if you perform oral sex on an infected person, you can get gonorrhea of the throat.

Chlamydia: This can also infect the throat in the same way.

Genital Herpes: This STI is passed by skin-to-skin contact with a developing or existing sore. Unfortunately, even when there are no sores present, an infected person can still pass it on to their partner.

Genital Warts (HPV): This can be passed on when an uninfected person touches infected skin on their partner's genitals. So you don't even have to be having vaginal or oral sex in order to get HPV from someone else.

Syphilis: If a person performs oral sex on someone who's infected, and they come in contact with an open sore or a skin rash, they can get syphilis, too. Since lesions can appear on the genitals and on the lips and mouth, that means you can even get it from kissing an infected person.

HIV: This potentially deadly STI can be passed on through blood (including menstrual fluid), semen, vaginal fluid, or breast milk. So if a person performs oral pleasure on an infected person, and if they have a cut or sore in their mouth or on their gums, then they can contract HIV, too.

I know this is all very scary information, but knowing the facts will help keep you safe. Before becoming sexually active, you and your partner should get tested. It'll show that you respect one another, that you're responsible, and your sense of relief will make it all worth while when you do share that kind of intimacy.

Dear's Advice: If you are planning on having oral sex even though you're not sure about your partner's STI history, using male and female condoms and dental dams can reduce your risk tremendously.


pureperfection pureperfection 9 years
ME2, LOL!! that was really funny!! you are soooo innocent!! no! oral sex is using your mouth! not to talk, but to work it!
Beaner Beaner 9 years
This is scary. I'm glad I'm engaged. Dating sucks when you think about all this.
Advah Advah 9 years
I agree this info is needed. Good if you know about it, but most of my friends are very careful about using a condom during intercourse, but don't when it comes to oral sex. Some actually know about the risks, but they just don't do it. So it'll never be said too often.
ME2 ME2 9 years
My BFFs step sister contracted Herpes when she let a guy with a cold sore go down on her. She's one of the lucky ladies that left to college for a year and came back with Herpes and HPV. Yay for sleeping around as much as possible during college...
LadyP LadyP 9 years
It's nieve of anyone to think that oral sex couldn't cause complications b/c it's not "real sex" to some. Always know your partner and always use protection. It's not hard to figure out.
kaenai kaenai 9 years
Jovian and Sun :: I'm glad that your schools are responsible enough to teach you what you need to know. Unfortunately, not all schools will do this. My daughter's school is one of the schools that is currently considering an "abstinence only" policy, and I'm fighting it as hard as I can, along with some other parents. My daughter was happily in a grade that already had sex ed, but the classes behind her are going to need the information as well. Punkish, that's completely gross. Seriously. That said, how can some women/girls be so casual about that sort of interaction? I'm not saying oral sex is bad (quite the contrary), but I agree, you have to be just as careful as you would when having intercourse. Bookish, you're completely right. xD
sass317 sass317 9 years
What I seriously do not understand is these girls who shrug off oral sex like its no big deal. Youll go down on some guy, but you wont sleep with him? IMO oral sex is much more intimate than having intercourse with someone. I knew a girl in high school that would give oral sex to any guy that asked basically- but she waited to have intercourse until she was 18 (and she still had a reputation for being a raging slut even though she was still technically a virgin)
Bookish Bookish 9 years
Maybe I'm looking at it wrong, was the "doesn't not" double negative intentional? I can never tell before I have my coffee.
JovianSkies JovianSkies 9 years
In my schools (over time, I've been to at least 7), they never taught "abstinence-only", so I don't know what the rest of you are talking about. I thought everyone knew about STI's, etc.
PunkyPower PunkyPower 9 years
The sad part is that even educated women well aware of the dangers still live in denial concerning the risks of unprotected oral sex. As a young twenty something first experiencing sexual intimacy, some of my dearest girlfriends - who I might add were earning Ph.D.s in health communication in a department that works on PSA's for safe sex at the time - flat out told me that I would never get a boyfriend if I requested him to wear a condom for oral. These were extremely bright women in their 30s who KNEW the risks and STILL refused to take the proper precautions. It's no wonder most university campuses are walking cesspools of STDs.
omilawd omilawd 9 years
Berlin's right: a lot of schools don't teach this stuff in sex ed. TEACHING DOES NOT MAKE PEOPLE GO OUT AND PRACTICE. It just gives knowledge for if/when the time comes to put it to use. I don't understand how some schools are against teaching anything but abstinence-only and are confused when the teenage birth rate is so high. Teens are going to have sex. Give them the knowledge to arm themselves!
Berlin Berlin 9 years
No sun that's the problem! It's those religious fanatics that are all about teaching abstinence instead of teaching the facts. "Sex" ed has to be major censored and some places don't even teach it at all anymore, just that sex = disease, don't do it. They don't even touch on oral sex in some places b/c that's just forbidden lol. And mommy wonders why her lil pumpkin shows up 5 months pregnant with no idea how:)
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
duh! we learned this in like junior high
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
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