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PMS: Oh, it's Real!!!

PMS: Oh, it's Real!!!

When I was growing up, I remember being in a bad mood and some stupid boy saying, "Oh, you must be on the rag!" That really pissed me off -- just because I'm not happy does not necessarily mean I have or am getting my period!!

With that said, right before I do get my period, I do feel crappy and not myself. It's not just a dumb joke between guys - it's completely REAL, but why does it happen?

Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) happens because your body goes through a series of hormonal changes in the 2 weeks leading up to your period. The female hormone estrogen starts to rise after menstruation and it peaks around mid-cycle (ovulation). It then rapidly drops only to slowly rise and then fall again in the time before you finally get your period. These crazy changes can trigger disruptive symptoms that affect you emotionally and physically.

PMS affects all women differently, and its symptoms can vary from month to month. For most women, symptoms include mood swings, uncontrollable crying, depression or anxiety, and the over all feeling of being "out-of-control."

Want to know what else PMS causes? Then

You can also experience headaches or migraines, dizziness, abdominal pains, backache, constipation, fluid retention (that's my fave right there), acne, breast tenderness, weight gain, heart palpitations, painful joints, cravings for certain foods like chocolate, or fatigue. Fun stuff huh!

The severity of your symptoms may be hereditary, and some women experience symptoms that completely disrupt their ability to function. If that rings a bell, take Dear's tips below.

Dear's Tips: Going on the Pill may help to regulate your hormone levels, and because you're not ovulating, your symptoms may become greatly alleviated. Monophasic birth control, like the Nuvaring or Seasonale may be a better option since they deliver an equal amount of hormones to you each day.

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gossipgirl10 gossipgirl10 10 years
i get really severe anxiety attacks when im pmsing especially about getting pregnant!
intensebandgeek intensebandgeek 10 years
I get sooooo cranky! I tend to snap at people.
leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 10 years
I HATE PMS; I went through it this past week and it always rotten. I didn't have any pain this month however my mood has been horrible! I'm back to "normal" now however the bloating is always evil.
imLissy imLissy 10 years
I don't PMS anymore since I've been on the pill. I do still cry a lot and get moody when I actually have my period, but it's not nearly as bad as before. And no bloating, wheeee! I still crave chocolate though, but that's kinda a constant thing...
rlveronica rlveronica 10 years
OMG. I totally had my moment last night on the phone with my boyfriend. He is totally supportive though. :) Lucky me.
dmartinxoxo dmartinxoxo 10 years
I get horrible cramps every time. I just started taking Yasmin and I'm hoping to see some changes. I can be such a raving b*tch when I'm PMSing. My parents avoid me. And that whole feeling like you look horribly ugly and bloaty...sometimes it seriously sucks to be a girl.
Nitachequita Nitachequita 10 years
In college this guy asked me if I believed in PMS and after five minutes of me opining on PMS and my mood swings and the pharmaceutical industry, I realized he had the most confused look on his face. When I asked him what was wrong, he asked me what my answer had to do with sex, and it was then MY turn to be confused. Turns out, when he said PMS, he meant pre-marital sex, haha! I explained PMS means something ENTIRELY different to women!
graylen graylen 10 years
I was getting so much pain leading up to my period that I could literally not get out of bed. I'm on Nuvaring now, which helps some. The biggest help has been Ponstel. My GYN recommended it. You start taking it a few days before your period, and it really helps a lot. It's an anti-inflammatory. Like I said, it's the only thing that gives me any sort of normalcy during that time.
susanl101 susanl101 10 years
I am on the Pill, yet I still suffer from major mood swings prior to my period. Inevitably, I am MEAN to someone, say something inappropriate, etc. One of my best friends says "I avoid you when you're about to get your period." I do not blame her. I can be SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MEAN! This is not a good time for me to meet new people or be in social situations. Then, when my period arrives, my joints hurt. My cramps get so bad I have to use a heating pad.
Ikandy Ikandy 10 years
No, theres no way my mind and body is brainwashed by pharmaceutical companies...The week b4 my period is all too real! But thanx for the info on "yaz". That thought the severity of pms was related to how healthy someone was, so Ive been working out and taking vitamines/supplements regularly for the past 2 months and I feel it has helped with physical pms problems, but not so much the mental crazyness!
ccsugar ccsugar 10 years
Then why the heck do my boobs hurt right before Aunt Flo visits?!
ErieIndiana ErieIndiana 10 years
Actually, everyone has mood fluctuations and cycles. Guess what! Even MEN! And studies have been conducted and conclusively shown that Mood cycles have NOTHING to do with your menstural cycle, moon cycle, horoscope or anything else. Everyone is unique. Interestingly enough the majority of women (world wide) do not experience PMS. Most African women do not even know what that even means. PMS is a socially constructed idea, meaning that it is not a universally occurring phenomena. I'm not saying that your experience of it isn't real - but PMDD is a ridiculous concoction from pharmacutical companies who want to market to a female demographic. The PMDD pill "Yaz" is the same thing chemically as an anti-depressant.
hollisterBEEotch hollisterBEEotch 10 years
Yeah I get really bad cramps too sometimes!
ccsugar ccsugar 10 years
Ugh I used to get the worst cramps.. I would literally spend hours in the fetal postion on the bathroom floor not knowing if I was going to have the sh*ts or puke. I went on different Pill after that and am better now. I just get moody in the days leading up to it. And breast tenderness, hate that!!!!!
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