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Would You Need Your Parents' Approval to Marry?

Levi Johnston is feeling mama grizzly's wrath! In a response that should surprise no one, Bristol Palin told US Weekly that her mom "doesn't really approve" of her engagement to Levi.

Where did he go wrong? Was it the GQ interview? Vanity Fair? Playgirl? If this tells us anything, it's that Sarah Palin reads magazines after all.

Thankfully, few to none of us will ever boast such high-profile problems, but parents disapprove of their children's intendeds all the time. Would that break the "I do" deal for you?

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simplystella simplystella 7 years
It would be heartbreaking for me, if my mother didn't approve of my choices (in general - not just marriage). We're really close, I've always respected her opinions and it would just be horrible to realize that something that makes me happy makes her sad. But I guess that, if your parents respect and love you as much as you respect and love them, they would probably support you in every choice you make, even if they didn't approve..
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 7 years
My family is close so it's nice that they like my husband. I don't "live for my parents", but I don't see anything wrong with having a close family. They don't make my decisions for me, but their approval was never an issue with anyone I dated because they're good people and fortunately so are most of the guys I've been with.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
Same here Skigirl!
brindey brindey 7 years
If my family did not like my boyfriend, I would question why, exactly, they didn't think we were a good match. I am very close to my family, respect their opinion, and believe they know me more than anyone. If I was dead set on a guy they weren't thrilled with, I would marry him and hope they came around-after a lot of thinking. It isn't that I feel they have power over my decisions, or that I need to let go. I just know they love me a lot and want what is best for me.
weffie weffie 7 years
That being said, if my parents were Sarah and Todd Palin, I would probably do the exact opposite of everything they suggested for the rest of my life.
weffie weffie 7 years
I couldn't see it ever being an issue... My parents are both super funny, caring, and all-around nice people. If a guy really couldn't get along with them, chances are I wouldn't like him in the first place. You'd have to be a really awful person to make them hate you! Even my psychotic ex could play nice with my family--they knew the truth about him from me, but they were always civil to him (and even polite about it behind his back) until I decided I was done with him. I guess because they have enough respect for me to offer advice as friends, not enforcers.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 7 years
I'm with you Chloe. I trust my parents' opinions. Throughout my life I've come to see that they were right most of the time. They would never disapprove of a romantic choice for a superficial or bigoted reason, so their opinion would really matter to me.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
"If this tells us anything, it's that Sarah Palin reads magazines after all." Ha! Good one, Tres! Regarding the question, my parents not approving of my significant other would be a huge red flag. My parents are both very easy-going, open-minded individuals. My mom loves everyone and everything, and, like me, is very liberal. So I know that if they didn't like someone, there would have to be a very good reason. Having said that, I know a lot of people have weirdly judgmental parents who wouldn't approve of their child dating people of different races, religions,etc. If my parents were like that, then I wouldn't value their opinion.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
Yes. My mom is a great and respects me, that is why I take her opinion into account. In the case of Bristol, I understand why her parents don't approve-- at first Sarah was supportive of their relationship, but after he did all those things I can see why she doesn't approve of him, I wouldn't if I were her. I know and trust my mom, and I take everything she says into consideration.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
In a word: No. I was a grown-up when I decided to marry. I was financially independent, and had a good career. By the same token, I was independent of my parents on many levels. I had a mind of my own, and I made good decisions for myself (by and large). To clarify, it was nice to have my parents blessings, but did I NEED it?? No. I was a grown-up woman, not a child dependent on her parents approval. This was an aspect I think my husband found attractive about me. He was attracted to a WOMAN, not a GIRL. THAT'S the person he wanted to marry, not the child version of me. Like many matured people, I've outgrown being depended on my parents' approval. JMHO.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
I can honestly tell you that I never gave two sh*ts about what my parents thought about anything I did or anyone I was with. Those two people don't deserve my respect, and I would do the exact opposite of what they told me - I mean, they are mentally f*cked. So no, I don't need my parents approval in order for me to marry. If my mom didn't like my BF (but she does), I wouldn't care at all. If she didn't want us to get married, she can feel free to not show up at the wedding.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Absolutely, skigurl! My parents have always had my best interests in mind, and if they really didn't "approve" there is likely a very good reason. Fortunantly, they love their son in law !
skigurl skigurl 7 years
I said absolutely, but my parents are awesome and they would never veto a guy unless he was really bad - they value my opinion, trust me, and are happy when I'm happy, and they've also taught me well so I choose good men (well, I have chosen one good man and plan to stick with him!) - They know my boyfriend isn't one to let me down, make me cry, or be an ass, and they know he is a good provider, and will make a good husband. So they would approve and I'd be happy about that. If they didn't approve, I'd wonder why, seriously, and would consider it!
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