Skip Nav
Make a Relationship a Choice, Not a Goal — Here's What You Need to Do First
18 Breakup Quotes That Will Make You Feel So Much Better
Solange Knowles
This Bride's Solange-Inspired Wedding Will Make Your Jaw Hit the Floor

Pillow Talk: Laughing

As we all know, maintaing a successful relationship takes work and dedication, but good, old-fashioned fun is a big part of the equation as well. A great many of my best and sweetest memories involve laughing with my partner. "Laughter is the best medicine" is an old adage, but research shows it isn't just a cliche after all.

To read more

According to Martie Haselton, associate professor of psychology at UCLA,

. . . the research is showing that humor is playing a surprising and important role in human relationships, perhaps as important as physical attraction.

Finding someone with a sense of humor is often an important quality in a potential partner, but Rod Martin, president of the International Society for Humor Studies, has found that while women want to find a partner who makes them laugh, men look for women who will laugh at their jokes, which makes attracting a partner a little harder for the funny ladies.

Turns out, laughter between couples can be a sign of trust, too.

Humor and laughter often communicate something much deeper than the appreciation of a joke. Robert Provine, author of "Laughter: A Scientific Investigation," said that 90 percent of the things we laugh at aren’t even remotely funny.

"Most laughter is not about jokes," he explained. "It's about relationships between people.” Laughing says more about how someone feels toward another person; it's an indicator of how much they like, trust or agree with that person, Provine said.

And while laughter can be helpful when resolving conflict, real problems can erupt if a partner doesn't know when to get serious! For some surprising information on the connection between laughter, courtship and love, click here.

As for laughter's medicinal qualities, this article from Natural Health reports significant findings about laughter's ability to help defend against infections.

Laughter boosts the activity of your immune system's natural killer cells and other defenses against infections, according to a 2001 study in Alternative Therapies in Health, and Medicine. It also appears to reduce the amount of hormones, like adrenaline and cortisol, that your body produces during times of stress. Repeated release of these hormones over time can weaken your immune system.

That link also includes 4 quick tips for lightening up, calming your body and mind, and preventing stress from taking over.

Let's laugh a little more, at ourselves and with each other, ladies. And what if GiggleSugar actually prevented a cold? How much laughter is there in your house? How about the house you grew up in?


Join The Conversation
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
My boyfriend and I laugh all the time. He's a punster and some of the stuff he comes out with is so eye-roll inducing, but so ridiculous I can't help but crack up! We have a lot of physical humor too - tickle fights and what not. Good times.
Marci Marci 10 years
Humor can get you through a lot! I agree that it holds a very important place in a relationship.
LizaToad LizaToad 10 years
dear - when you did that poll asking which of the most important things in your relationship you would give up, i realized how VERY VERY important laughter is... my bf and i are ALWAYS cracking up together.... we have fun all the time, it's so important, i love that more than anything :)
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
I love laughing period and its even more fun w/ my boyfriend. especially when we can laugh when things arent going well i know it helps to ease stress.
honey31 honey31 10 years
I love laughing my boyfriend always laughs at the stuff I say and I don't mind because I want to make him laugh!Hav you ever laugh so hard that you end up crying and you re stomach hurts so much hehehe.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
We laugh a lot too. In fact, still in my my mind and heart is two weekends ago (i don't live near him right now) I was home visiting and we endedup doing rock paper scissors to decide something, and we ended up playing it just for fun because we would laugh our @sses off when we both picked the same object...and I got pretty good at predicting which he would choose which made us both laugh harder! lmao. _________________________________________________________ Why don't you wear the face you have when I am not around?
grl-in-the-world grl-in-the-world 10 years
My boyfriend and I love to laugh with each other. Being goofy is a big part of our relationship :)
How Lemon Water Affects Sex Drive
Male Birth Control | Video
What Do Different Crystal Colors Mean?
Summer Happiness Challenge
From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds