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Pilot Arrested For Stalking Girlfriend in His Plane

Have You Ever Had a Psycho Ex?

A 51-year-old Concord, CA, pilot was arrested for stalking his ex-girlfriend. He wasn't hiding behind the bushes or peering over a parked car — he was flying over her neighborhood in his plane! He'd been given a restraining order earlier in the day for dropping offensive flyers, and when police received complaints that he was at it again, they threw him in jail.

The news clip takes a lighthearted approach to stalking (WTF?!), finding it too irresistible not to say that "love was in the air." But stalking is not about loving too much — it's about someone needing to reassert control. It's a form of abuse and can leave psychological scars for the women (and they're usually women) being stalked. Has an ex ever refused to accept the words "I'm breaking up with you"?

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eastcoastgirl eastcoastgirl 7 years
He not hew.
eastcoastgirl eastcoastgirl 7 years
I had a boyfriend i broke up with once that unbeknownst to me would watch through my windows when I had friends over along with my new boyfriend.We were having dinner,playing cards or games and hew was watching the whole time! A friend of his later told me that and he used to watch for me to leave work.My husband who was my boyfriend then put a stop to it by confronting him and after that he left me alone.My Dad was so worried he would do something he used to meet me at work to follow me home.
ali321 ali321 7 years
skigurl the same goes for me. One is a psycho, but he was always that way. He didn't stalk me or anything when we broke up.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I had a psycho ex once. He would always pick on everything about me (like what I wore, who I hung out with, music I liked etc),then started putting down "rules". Like I couldn't hang out with my best mate because he was a guy, I couldn't wear skirts or listen to hardcore music. He even kicked up a stink when I went out on the town for my 18th. He loved to say I was cheating on him and call me some unpleasant names should I so much as look at another dude. Eventually he got violent and started doing some pretty nasty drugs and I got my butt out of there! THEN he started showing up at my work (getting me fired!), calling me 10 or more times a day, threatening suicide. Yadda yadda.. He only got the point that I didn't want to be with him when I started seeing my current beau.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Yes, my ex-boyfriend from a few years ago, but like GlowingMoon I don't really feel like going into details. Also, my current ex-girlfriend, but in a totally different way that's not so much threatening as absolutely maddening.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Yes. I'm not going to go into the sordid details, as I think it's TMI. I think it's suffice to say I was afraid for my life. One man in particular was possessive, and had a hard time letting go. The silver lining is that I'm really good at spotting the psychos early on (having gone through those difficult experiences). That really helped later on in my personal life.
French-Kiss French-Kiss 7 years
Oh, and he was the biggest liar i have ever met, which i could not bear once i realized he was.
French-Kiss French-Kiss 7 years
I said yes, but he was not as psycho as in the video. He just started calling me 10 times a day, repeating "I love you", imagining things that never happenned or that has never been told... Anyway, just a boring ex-glue-BF ^^
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
Thanks Nevaeh, I'm doing wonderfully now. The memory of the whole thing makes me mad more than anything because I don't understand how someone can go to such great lengths to make another person miserable. I just don't have it in me to do that and I spent a lot of time trying to wrap my mind around that. I'm over it now though, no worries.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
Hiding, that is really really scary. :hug: I hope you're doing ok now although I'm sure the memory most likely be freaking you out(?)
karlotta karlotta 7 years
My first love turned out to be schizophrenic several years later, and started calling me repeatedly, angry that I didn't keep my promise to "love him forever" (yeah, dude, I was 16, of course I told you I would love you forever!) He called for years, would get really confused and pissed off, verbally violent, or totally weird. Thank God he was 5000 miles away - but when I moved back home and he found my new hone number, I freaked out and called his dad and told him to put a leash on the guy. I'm so sorry for him, but he's obviously a little dangerous. Haven't heard from him in a year... Keeping my fingers crossed.
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
Oh, just to clarify, he did not succeed in ruining any part of my life. In fact, he showed me just how much everyone around me cared about me and was there for me no matter what.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
You guys are right, now that in retrospect, wait a minute, that was insane. I'd report that to the cops in an instance if it happened over here in US. We didn't report those things to police because my parents chalked it up to him being 'way too passionate.' But yeah, he got in trouble with the school (got assigned a counselor), his parents were notified too. He just sent gift via mail to our family's house after that (jewelry, etc) that my parents just returned.
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
Yup, I think I dated one of the craziest guys out there. After I broke up with him and he started stalking me (among other crazy things) I realized I didn't even know who this person was. He had no ID, no Social Security card and who knows if he was even going by his real name. He had basically created a character out of himself and molded himself into being what he thought I wanted. Every time I said I liked something he LOVED it and I thought we had so much in common. It turned out to all be fake and I slowly started to see that this man was a stranger as he very slowly began to show his true colors. He slowly began trying to control me and separate me from my family, and then he became violent. What a creepy guy, it gives me the shivers just thinking about it. Obviously when I look back at it all I should have seen trouble coming from a mile away but you can't see things very clearly when you are right in the thick of it. He stalked me for about a year going to the extent that only a person with a deranged mind could to scare me, make me paranoid, and basically ruin my personal, professional, and family life. He was a predator and I think it made him mad as hell that I escaped from him. I don't know why he suddenly stopped and left me alone and I don't really care. I just have fear for the next woman.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
agree with leslie, nevaeh, that is frightening and totally nuts
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 7 years
I only briefly dated a nutcase - having the police called on him was definitely a sign!
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 7 years
nevaeh- that definitely counts as psychotic, not passionate.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
Well, it was high school, maybe it's psychotic, but maybe it's more high school 'passionate' and 'delusional' state of mind. I dunno. I guess him sneaking to my house to steal my underwear is creepy and that he throws a huge rock at our car then proceeded to keep sending me gift throughout the next 3 years even after I've left to US. My mom had to go and report this to our school because of that incident (panty-thing and the rock).
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
yeah, I have cut it off with guys while just beginning to date, and they turn a little obsessive. ran the gamut from annoying to scary.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
Creepy. I've never dated a stalker, but I knew a guy in high school who knocked for me 9 times in 3 days- that's excessively desperate.
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
oh god, i had a stalkerish type guy.. although I didn't ever date him. He started being totally inappropriate at work, showing up at my desk constantly. I was a supervisor, so our desks in the call center were set away from the reps, and he would come over like every 30 minutes, no exaggeration. He started shouting things across the department, calling my personal line, sitting at my desk when I wasn't there, and calling the help desk hotline and being totally inappropriate on there, asking me out to drinks or to his apartment CONSTANTLY. He would be waiting in the front of the building for me to show up, despite the fact that he worked a different shift, luckily i got off 4 hours after him otherwise i think he'd probably have been waiting then too. He was a really creepy guy, and constatnly had disgusting foam in the corners of his mouth... Managment and HR had spoken to him, and he backed off a little but then came the anger for me having said something, and i was honestly really freaked out for a while. None of my coworkers would let me go anywhere alone, and i thought about going to the police if they didn't do something about him, but he eventually got fired a week or two later.
SxJxP SxJxP 7 years
My boyfriend's ex is a psychopath. They've been apart for almost five years and she still drives by his house, stops by his work, and internet stalks him (including various Fb and twitter posts about when she saw him, what he was doing, and any thought she has pertaining to him). SCARY!
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 7 years
Nope that hasn't happened to me
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