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This or That: The Planned or Spontaneous Proposal?

Ever since you met your boyfriend, you’ve had quite a few fantasies about your potential future proposal. And although some of your daydreams have been over the top, you consider yourself a down-to-earth girl who would be happy with any kind of proposal. Except, now that the moment’s arrived, you realize you would have liked things to happen a little differently. Would it be worse if . . .

This: He really went all out in terms of planning, except it's on the big screen at a sporting event — his favorite of course — that you happen to hate? You’re not sure if he was thinking more about you or his beloved team.

Or . . .

That: He goes the spontaneous route when, after an amazing bedroom session, he throws off the covers and gets down on one knee totally nude and pops the question? Ok, you know he loves you, but is this just lust talking?

Which is worse?

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Marie-Rose Marie-Rose 9 years
[I've gotta apologize in advance for the ridiculous length of this post :)] I am an ENORMOUS fan of the Houston Astros (always have been, always will be...think Jimmy Fallon's character in "Fever Pitch")-I was there for the "Miracle Season" in '05, got to watch my boys in every home playoff game & the 2 disasterous home games in the World Series & I even made it on tv (not the screen in the stadium, but was actually on national tv-thank God I didn't realize it at the time, I'd have been so incredibly self-conscious) several times during every game b/c of a cowboy hat I had customized by covering it w/ Astros pins, a huge Astros' star sticker on the front & topped it all off (literally & figuratively w/ a bee on top, who had an Astros' star on his chest-ya' know, for our "Killer B's"? :)) That being said, I would've HATED to be proposed to during the "Kiss Cam" break in b/n innings (that's when they occur at Minute Maid Park), that has never been my idea of an ideal proposal. No matter who it is & how happy they look on the screen after he pops the question, it just comes across as so cheesy & cliched. I, personally, also HATE being the center of attention in any situation & would not want an entire stadium of up to 40,000 fans looking on during what I believe should be a private moment & one of the most intimate moments in a couple's life. Quick sidenote for any guys who may be reading this, a warning against a jumbotron proposal at a sports event: The girl doesn't always say yes & it could get really ugly. Last season (or maybe in '06) a guy proposed to his gf at a 'Stros game, she not only said no & seemed disgusted w/ the guy, she actually dumped a bucket of popcorn on his head & stormed out!!! I'm absolutely not kidding. It was the talk of the city for a couple of weeks-it was pretty evenly split, 1/2 said she should've just accepted while they were on the screen so as not to humiliate him & 1/2 said he shouldn't have done it in the first place-& everyone agreed that she was a total b*tch for reacting in the way that she did, dumping the popcorn on him was really uncalled for & showed how little class she had. Sorry for the novel-I'll now get to my point. Although I'd love nothing more than to actually get married on the infield of Minute Maid Park, the thought of the jumbotron proposal is awful to me. My fiance proposed in a way close to the 2nd option, except he wasn't naked & we hadn't just finished doing anything. He woke me up on Christmas morning, gave me a couple of small Christmas gifts to open, then pulls out this beautifully simple box with a gorgeous ribbon on it. As I opened it, he asked me to marry him (I knew I was going to get the ring soon & what it would look like b/c I designed it, just didn't know when). It was perfect (for us). I always love hearing other couple's stories about these elaborate proposals that involve tons of planning & secrecy-& some even taking place in very public places w/ lots of people, but wouldn't change a thing about the way we "officially" got engaged (we'd been "unofficially" engaged for the entire time we'd been together...we just knew right away that this was it, we'd each found "the one"-just had to wait until we had enough $ to get the perfect ring. :)
Meike Meike 9 years
Wow, I giggled at the second option. That would have worked for me just fine, haha. As for the publicly planned one, bleh.
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
Planned out would be nice...but I think in this case I'd prefer the down on one knee while nekkid. You'd have to know my boyfriend to know this would actually be a very likely scenerio for us. Something private between us would be more fun for me than in front of a ton of people I don't even know.
carhornsinapril carhornsinapril 9 years
i have nothing against nudity. spontaneous!
rpenner rpenner 9 years
Neither of these would bother me but I'd prefer the naked after sex one. It would be more our style.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 9 years
I thought the vote was to find out if you would prefer a planned or spontaneous proposal...not public vs. private.
julieulie julieulie 9 years
I love sports, so I wouldn't mind the sports proposal at all. BUT even if I hated sports, at least he put lots of effort into it! Of course, if the spontaneous post-sex proposal came with a ring, then obviously that implies he had been thinking about it for a while, if he bought the ring. But I'd rather go with the public proposal... I'd want a story I could actually TELL people about and not be mortified. In fact, I think if the second option happened, I'd say no and make him propose in a slightly more normal situation!
emalove emalove 9 years
I think That is worse. At least with the first option, even though it's not your style or what you'd fantasized about, at least it shows that he REALLY wants to marry you. I mean, he obviously spent time planning to make it special (even if it wasn't your idea of special). The second option COULD just be lust talking. Definitely worse.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
Wow, voting is at 50/50!
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
wow no one really likes the idea of a public proposal, wow, all though i loved my proposal i would ave still prefered the proposal at the game oh well, i think it is very romantic when it is planned, obviously i took thought and love to plan out then just something oh btw i want to marry you or lets get married oh well just me
indielove indielove 9 years
Public proposals...what a farce. No thank you. I'd rather we be alone and NO cheesiness. Just say that you love me and 'i want to marry you' 'down on one knee' crap. Just look me in the eye, hold my hand and say it.
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
AKirsten, I agree - public proposals make me want to puke. I'd take naked on one knee any day. And if a guy is going to go the all-out planned route, I'd be really disappointed if it was some overdone cliche, like a proposal in a fortune cookie, or spelled out in rose petals or... ugh, just thinking about it makes me cringe. I do not need one of the most special moments in my life to be the equivalent of a made-for-TV Hallmark movie. :o
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 9 years
I have to admit, my proposal by my husband was the naked on one knee type!! LOL. I wouldn't have had it any other way. It came from the heart completely.
AKirstin AKirstin 9 years
Super-planned out, gimmicky bullshit. *gag* My proposal was spontaneous and it was real.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I'd rather it be planned and not be my style. I think right after sex with him naked it all those endorphins.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
i always wanted to be proposed to at a spurs game, knowing my fiance has alot of connections, but that didnt happen, he proposed at his parents house on super bowl day this past one, all my family and his were there, but he did it private just us two, it was beautiful, still wanted the spurs proposal, i think he didnt because i would say something stupid like tony parker or robert horry marry me
Bookish Bookish 9 years
I think the nude proposal would be hilarious! But how long would you have before he fell asleep? Of course, I'm the gal whose man proposed in the pen section at Walmart, so I have a soft spot for spontaneous proposals.
cereal_please cereal_please 9 years
I can't really identify with this one only because I would LOVE to be proposed to at a baseball game. Yeah. I don't know why. :)
bikinib7 bikinib7 9 years
although public would be absolutely mortifying, at least he put a lot of planning into it. i would not want to be proposed to while naked and in bed... i would be thinking 'wow, he really cares. he could have thought of ANYTHING other than this"
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I think the public would be worse for me
Pistil Pistil 9 years
The thought is nice, but I think the public proposal would be worse...
javsmav javsmav 9 years
This is a tough one. I would hate a public proposal (fortunately, my bf hates sports, so no need to worry about the big screen), but I'd also be annoyed if he got down on one knee--for some reason, that really bothers me. I think I would just laugh at him and ask what he's doing on the floor if ever did that. I wouldn't care if he was naked--it's highly unlikely that my parents would ask what my guy was wearing when he proposed & you can always just say that you were sitting around eating oreos & drinking kool-aid (or something innocent sounding) when he proposed. And if he has a ring, it's hardly just a moment of lust. I'd say the sports proposal is worse.
Random2 Random2 9 years
I don't think I'd be a huge fan of something really public, I'd rather have something a little smaller and private.
tiff58 tiff58 9 years
I would HATE a majorly public proposal like the first one!
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
The one with his member bobbing around as he gets down on one knee would be
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