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Are Unmarried Pregnant Women Still Stigmatized?

When a very pregnant Kate Hudson announced her engagement on the Today show, she was very nonchalant about it, saying: "I felt the announcing thing was just so silly . . . I was just waiting for someone to notice!" While Kate seems like a laid-back person, and this is, after all, her second marriage, I couldn't help but think that she's playing the engagement down because she's pregnant. You'd think that with as far as we've come with being open about sexuality (does anyone still question if coupled-up celebs are having sex?) that having kids without being married would be a nonissue. But even Natalie Portman didn't announce the baby before the ring, and would they have been engaged that early in their relationship if she hadn't been pregnant?

This got me wondering if the responsibility of having a baby together is just a catalyst for speeding up a marriage that would have happened eventually, or if women still feel pressured to be in a committed relationship — i.e. married or engaged — before having children. Do you think society still looks down on unmarried pregnant women?

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@ BETTYWAYNE ... I believe that 26% would be Philadelphia, PA! I'm not married and have a child. In fact, about 85% of the people I know who have children aren't married. Bottom line, people need to mind their buisness and take care of their kids.
SEHines SEHines 6 years
No,,, You've got to be kidding. Things happen women get pregnant, somen step up and are so happy,, some run. It's always been that way. Women need to to be supportive n get over it,, Don't we have enough already!!!!!!!!!!!
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 6 years
Sadly yes people are gonna forever judge and sometimes they even get paid for their opinions.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
13 spelling doesn't even make sence to you, of course this topic doesn't. Lickety you're right, there are a lot of people raised with more traditional values that have come to respect alternative relationships (alternative as in, anything other than two married people making babies). Reminds me of a convo with a 60-something Muslim woman about not being married to him, she said "Oh you should just get married, a divorce is only $500." Which is terrible advice! But not anything you would expect from someone of her generation/values. Tigr yes I agree. I was living with an "unemployed abusive jerk" for a while, leaving was hard enough. I couldn't even imagine getting a divorce from him. Marriage should be for love or green cards, not because of pregnancy.
tigr3bianca tigr3bianca 6 years
As young married mother, I got tons of bad looks from older women. They instantly assumed I was unwed or at least on govt assistance; which I was not. I think in general people need to keep their noses in their own business. Also, I married the father of my child and that was a terrible mistake. You should not marry just because of the child. It's a horrible reason to be married and causes a lot of abusive relationships. Marriage is for people committed to each other, marriage doesn't make a "bad" situation better. As if an unwed mother is any more of a drain on society than a mother who is married to an unemployed abusive jerk. Marriage doesn't change the price of diapers or formula. Marriage doesn't guarantee a stable home either. Marriage is not some cure all for all of society's ills.
amber512 amber512 6 years
There will always be people who are against it, and they will often be vocal about it. I can't believe so many answered no! They don't think there are ANY people who judge?
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
I live in California, don't think too many people care. The other day I was in line at the pharmacy and these 2 women (about 60) had run into each other after a long period and were catching up on each others lives. The one said she wished her daughter would have a baby and the other said "oh, when did she get married?". The first explained that not only was the daughter not married, she had terrible taste in men, and the mom hoped she wouldn't get married. Then they both laughed about how people use to care about that. Even prince willam and Kate shacked up. People have so many options now. And I tell my daughters I don't care if they get married, but I do care that their partner is a good person and loves and supports them. I also think that the whole marriage thing is a big trip by society to control women. Think about it; what does marriage do for women? Nothing. What does it do for men? Women take the mans name (why?) giving up their identity. They are then expected to cook, clean, and care for their husband (by society). When men get married society only asks that they be descret in their affairs and not a drunk. RIP. OFF.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
Yes SKG- I remember that woman with the six kids. Haven't seen her around since the thread you're talking about (thankfully!). You would think a fellow mother would understand, but it seems the biggest critics of single mothers are either uptight-conservatives and women. The uptight-conservatives- I disagree 100% with them but I see where they're coming from (Bibleland). The women though- I just don't get it. Maybe they think they know everything there is about being a woman, maybe they think they're a 'perfect' woman and doing it any other way besides their way is wrong. I don't think I'll ever understand. But there is a stigma, shocked to see 26% think there's not. Wish I lived where-ever the hell 26% of you live while I was knocked up. I can't remember how many times some woman would start a convo about my growing belly and say something like "Your husband..." Sometimes when I told them I wasn't married, they would cut the convo short and walk away like I was dirty. Felt stigmatized when it happened- but not enough to marry him.
JJJSisters JJJSisters 6 years
I definitely don't think getting married for the sake of a child is a good idea. And I would agree it isn't stigmatized for celebrities anymore much at all...but in the real world, yes I believe it is still so. Yeah, people can't judge Kate Hudson, she has probably just the average amount of relationships, just because she's under the public eye, people have known each and every single one. I don't really care if people choose to have a child out of marriage, I just am more concerned when they choose to get married on top of that (which could be the right decision) but I feel more often than not it's just because of pregnancy and that it can cause more problems...marriage should always be about love.
nikkisoda nikkisoda 6 years
Yes. I am an unwed Mother of a 5 year old. I am still with my Child's Father. We have always been committed to each other and never been apart. We call each other Husband and Wife. (Married without the paperwork) I get looked down on by strangers all the time, mostly older women. Because I look young and do not have a ring on my finger they assume they are paying for my child. Couldn't be farther from the truth. People should marry when the time is right for them. Not when society says.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
No. But women who can't support their kids, married or not, certainly are. Think not the same w/ men. As if it's out of their hands.
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