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Prom's Canceled So Teen Can't Bring Lesbian Date, Wear Tuxedo

Prom's Canceled So Teen Can't Bring Lesbian Date, Wear Tuxedo

A school district in Mississippi believes it has a vested interest in what students wear to prom and whom they bring as dates. Specifically, girls must wear dresses and all students must bring dates of the opposite sex.

After senior Constance McMillen threatened to break these rules by bringing her girlfriend and wearing a tuxedo, the district called the whole thing off. The school board dropped the prom due to "recent distractions," but Constance says it's because she wanted to show up in a tux with her girlfriend on her arm.

The Mississippi school district would just have to look to a South Bronx high school to see how things could be different. Last year, students crowned a lesbian couple "Best Couple" in a landslide vote and life went on. For Constance, the Bronx probably feels worlds away from her small town of 23,000 people in Mississippi and its no tuxedo, no girlfriend rules.

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postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Anonymous, it was hate. It's hate hiding behind the guise of "science." While this estimate can vary based on definition of homosexuality, the Williams Institute of Law at UCLA estimates that there are about 8.8 million gay, lesbian, and bisexual people in the United States. Depending on how studies define homosexuality or how many people in the study are willing to identify with it, the number may be less or more. Whether less or more, the number is much larger than the two gay people you've known in your lifetime on which you base your opinion in conjunction with your psychology 101 class (which is a very basic level of psychology, it hardly makes you a psychologist): one being "predator" and the other being "victim", and have decided that homosexuality is the result of conditioning. You have no respect for gay people based on the opinions you've stated (if you think they've all been conditioned by predators and those victims that have enough sense to get away can be de-programmed and return to a happy heterosexual lifestyle of wife and kids). You can tell yourself all you want that you are not a bigot, but you are. You may not support killing people based on sexuality, but that doesn't mean you do not withhold resentment, disgust, and/or intolerance. Bigotry can always put on a pretty dress and pretend to play nice.
mrsmarkum09 mrsmarkum09 7 years
Ok. #1. I'm assuming ( I should probably google it or something...) that she ASKED if it was ok to bring her girlfriend and wear a tux. That, in itself, is admirable. If she were trying to be be disruptive and disrespecful, she'd have just shown up without permission. And, frankly, it's what would have happened at my high school, and I don't think there would have been much of an issue. Maybe gossip, but no issue. #2. How did the school come to the conclusion that pissing off the WHOLE SCHOOL, and, in turn, condemning a very brave and admirable student to a very difficult, socially distrupted, and unfairly painful school environment- THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE THIS. What the hell is going on with the people who are supposed to be TEACHING VALUES to our children? Whether or not you approve or agree with homosexuality, it is REAL. It's not going away. They are human, and deserve to be treated as such. That's why we call it HUMAN RIGHTS. Not HETERO RIGHTS. Every time something like this happens, it's one giant step backward for society. I'm not just talking about opression of sexuality. Everytime someone parades around with a sign scrawled with their values and opinions and screaming at everyone else that they're going to hell or that they should renounce their way of life and adopt another, it's another giant step backward. I read that Constance is suing. Good for her.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I agree SGK, and I've said it on the Sugar network several times: Anonymous comments rarely serve any purpose than to allow people to hide and make nasty comments. I've only seen neutral or positive Anonymous comments a few times. Sugar network: please reconsider allowing anonymous posts.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I completely agree, Venus.
Mädchen Mädchen 7 years
I know it's probably pointless, but still... Anonymous (# 10,12,14), you do realize that many people have been persecuted and killed just because of their sexuality (and in some countries this is still happening), right? Why would so many people "choose this lifestyle" then?
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
On a related point, aside from sections like Group Therapy, isn't it time anonymous postings were stopped? The comments are often derogatory or rude about others.
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
I cannot even take people like our lovely anonymous poster serious. The ignorance and stupidity made me giggle actually. Obviously you cannot argue with someone like that. I love how that person talked to girls and next week they were wearing men's clothes....Gotta look out for my heterosexuality now. Hope noone turns me gay...I'm scared! ;)
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
The whole thing is ignorant and crazy!
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
I really took for granted my school district. While mostly a Republican demographic, we would not have been expelled or had prom cancelled because someone wanted to be different. The only problem I ever witnessed related to someone's appearance was when a kid wore a trench coat around the same time the school shootings were happening. No one would stop this girl from wearing a tuxedo or a space suit to prom if she wanted to. I think this is ridiculous. Maybe Mississippi and other southern states will get some bad exposure with things like this in the news and embarrass themselves into introducing change.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Anonymous, Did you wake up one day and say, "Damn. You know what? I really think I'll be heterosexual. I'm choosing to like the opposite sex. Well! Now that that's over with, what's for lunch?" Oh, but my gosh, you must be educated on homosexuality! Why, you've known TWO WHOLE GAY PEOPLE! Or make that one and half, since one "decided" to "go back" to the right side of the sexual spectrum. Look out, innocent straight people... Anonymous knows a predator ready to take you to the dark side.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Reason no. 65 I'm happy not to live in Bumfcuk co., Mississippi.
L0neLyHeArT L0neLyHeArT 7 years
Why does the school care about students sexual orientations? The school shouldn't cancel prom.
suziryder suziryder 7 years
This is ridiculous. I feel so sad for those girls that they live in such a petty, backwards, homophobic town. I just hope this doesn't make life worse for them now - I can see all of the other kids in the school making life miserable for them because prom was cancelled for everyone.
Caitie64 Caitie64 7 years
They're not hurting anyone they're doing what schools claim they want, being themselves and loving each other! They should let them go and apologize for their prehistoric beliefs.
zzleigh zzleigh 7 years
This is so sad and immature.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
This is so ridiculous. Who cares who you bring to prom?! How utterly moronic and intolerant.
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