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Reasons to Let Your Own Bridesmaids Choose Their Dresses

7 Reasons to Let Your Bridesmaids Choose Their Dresses

Bridesmaids and twins under the age of 10 must be some of the only people expected to dress alike on special occasions. Maybe it's time to kick the matching-satin habit and let your attendants choose their own attire for your big day. Here are seven reasons to at least consider it for your wedding.

  1. They're paying. Typically bridesmaids shill out for the dresses, so letting them find something in their budget will reduce a lot of the stress and chance for uncomfortable situations.
  2. They can pick a flattering dress. Unless you've found the sisterhood of the traveling bridesmaid dress, no one gown looks amazing on every woman. Let each bridesmaid choose something she knows she can shine in.
  3. One less thing on your plate. It's hard enough to find "the one" perfect wedding dress, so leave the bridesmaid shopping to your friends, and focus on your dress and other planning details.
  4. They can wear it again. Forgetting any past bridesmaid experience, it seems like most brides genuinely believe they've chosen a dress their attendants can wear again. But that's hardly ever the case. There's a greater chance your bridesmaids will pick a repeat winner though, if you let them choose something they really love.
  5. Adds an original twist to your weeding. A variety of dresses is visually stimulating and will give your big day, and the pictures to follow, a refreshing feel.
  6. No resentment. Your good friends won't be holding even an unconscious grudge at your wedding, knowing you trusted them enough to pick out a special dress.
  7. Good karma. Who knows? Maybe they'll let you do the same when they ask you to be in their weddings!

Photo by Julie Afflerbaugh Photography via Style Me Pretty

KeLynns KeLynns 6 years
I was in a wedding this past weekend where the bride let us pick out basically everything. She dictated the color of the shoes and the dress, but other than that we got to wear whatever we wanted - any jewelry, any hairstyle, any style of shoe, any style of dress. And I LOVE HER for it. The other bridesmaids and I have totally different taste, so there is no way we could all wear the same outfit and all feel pretty in it. I would have been awfully resentful of the price tags if I didn't even like what I was buying (new shoes, new jewelry, new dress, and a hairstyle adds up super fast!).
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
bisou002 makes a good point. Personally, it took me a moment to find the bride in the photo used for this article (her dress doesn't stand out), that's not ideal (IMO). While it may work for some, I would probably stick with 1 dress in 1 color. I'm sure I can find something that will work for everyone.
testadura67 testadura67 6 years
What I was thinking of doing (someday far in the future when it's an issue) was picking the color and letting the girls pick the cut. That way I have more of a say in the color palette, but they can find something flattering for their figures.
bisou002 bisou002 6 years
Here's the big problem with this - what if you have a bridesmaid with god-awful taste? Or someone who has no idea what looks flattering on her? My cousin got married a couple years ago and allowed her maid of honor to choose her own dress (she only had one attendant) and this girl's boobs were hanging out of her dress the entire time. She looked like she woke up in a gutter - I've never seen so much cleavage (and that many fat rolls overflowing from an ill-fitting garment) than I did that day. And that is why I chose my bridesmaid's dresses from J.Crew - an A-line style that will flatter everyone. To each her own, but that's definitely an issue to consider.
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 6 years
I did this at my wedding and another friend (who was one of my bridesmaids) did the same thing at her wedding a year later. Hers is the only bridesmaid's dress I've ever worn again! She did what I did and basically designated the color and then let the bridesmaids pick a dress that they liked and that flatters them.
Lauren-Turner Lauren-Turner 6 years
I'm doing this for my wedding and I love that my bridesmaids spent what they felt comfortable with, found something they will actually wear again, and will look unique on the big day!
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