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Relationship Protocol: Can You Share a Bedroom While Visiting Family?

Our parents' generation is typically more conservative when it comes to sex and cohabitation before marriage, so when visiting them with your significant other, discussing the sleeping arrangements can be a bit awkward for all involved. I know many parents who believe that under their roof, their rules apply regardless of the situation back home; but others simply choose to turn a blind eye.

Since many of you will be traveling to visit family in these next few days, tell me, will you be allowed to sleep in the same room as your significant other?


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PinkNC PinkNC 8 years
Why not just be real about it? Your relatives know that you're probably sharing a bed together elsewhere, so why not at their home too, it saves space. But I do think that you should respect your parents or other realatives and not do anything that can be heard by them ;)
opisnowpro opisnowpro 8 years
opisnowpro opisnowpro 8 years
: OY : HA
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
I can't remember what she said in it's entirety but she said something along the lines of... Why would you sleep with someone if your not married, you shouldn't spread your legs for someone b/c your just the girl he's with at that second. I don't understand why someone would do that unless you are a ho-slut. I think it was something like that. Someone else can correct me if they remember.
Marci Marci 8 years
:( I can't find Tnmom's comment.
opisnowpro opisnowpro 8 years
now we are married but before at my parent´s house in separate rooms and at his parent´s house in the same room, so much fun!!!......BTW what Tnmom said? LOL
allthingsgrow allthingsgrow 8 years
My mom wouldn't object, but if he were to come over to my dad's house it would be different. There are two twin beds in my room so it'd be expected my guy would probably sleep on the OTHER twin bed... haha. But I'm going to visit my guy and his family in March, and he warned me that for his little sisters' sake we'd have different rooms. On that front, I understand.
mnp mnp 8 years
This came up the other night during the snow storm. The beau and I had to find a place to park our car and we decided to stay over my mom's place. She didn't say anything now because I'm living on my own and it's a one time deal. However, she does mention it to my sister who lives at home that having her bf over all the time isn't good.
Marci Marci 8 years
I never would have been comfortable staying in the same room in my fiance's parent's house, but that's just my own thing. If everyone's fine with it, who cares. But if anyone isn't entirely comfortable with it, then I would respect their wishes. It's just a few days, so why make a big issue of it and potentially cause hard feelings that will be there down the road.
luckyme luckyme 8 years
LOL at Tnmom. Wowza. Since you have "mom" in your name, I can only assume that you have children, and for them I feel sorry. Your daughter is going to think she is a "ho-slut" for dating and your son will be out "to do the best he can do at the time." Lovely things to instill in your children... Anyway, my IL's are more conservative than my parents, so they had us wait until we were engaged (well, my MIL anyway, my FIL would let us stay in the same room when she wasn't home, lol). My parents are far more liberal and had no issues with it. Now that we're married with a baby and another one on the way, we're in the same room, no doubt.
melizzle melizzle 8 years
We weren't allowed to until we were engaged.
Witchy-Ways Witchy-Ways 8 years
Well, of course we can sleep in the same room. I don't know what counts as a conservative family but I live in fucking Austria where most people are catholic and generally more conservative and not one friend of mine would come to mind who isn't allowed to sleep in the same bed with their boyfriend.
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
Although I'm single, my parents would have me and a significant other in seperate bedrooms until we were married. I completely understand and don't complain... then again, the rules will probably be the same for my kids as well. But to each their own I say. But meh, we are all Ho-Sluts anyway according to tnmom.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
We don't have the luxury of having that many rooms. ;p My parents would never object and neither do his. THANKFULLY. I'm 24 and it would be weird if they did.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
my bf and i don't ask, we just get into the bed in our room (like our childhood room) when it's time to sleep and don't make a big fuss of it. it all begins when we walk into the house and put our suitcases in the same room. and tnmom, you're ridiculous. obviously you're 96 years old? because that's the only way i could imagine you being so ridiculously conservative and abrasive.
fashion_doll24 fashion_doll24 8 years
Thanks tnmom, for clearing up why my boyfriend and I are still together after 5 years. All that time I was under the false impression that it was because we love each other, but thankfully you made me see the light, it's just because I spread my legs for him and am the best he can get now. That MUST be it! Thanks for making me see the light and a merry christmas to you for spreading all that love here.
Angela123 Angela123 8 years
But then what do I know, I'm just a Ho-Slut, right tnmom?
Angela123 Angela123 8 years
haha! no, we are all grown ups, and I agree with mom would laugh in my face if i suggested separate rooms. and it's not disrespectful or rude, we're in love and celebrating Christmas. My boyfriend is part of our family.
otaku otaku 8 years
tnmom, tell us how you really feel... where is the *rolls eyes* face?
plus_2_kid plus_2_kid 8 years
this is hilarious. This is how I told my parents I was dating a guy right after graduating college: "Mom, Dad - When I come home next month, I'd like to bring a friend with me. Umm, we're going to want to share a room" - lol, that was how they knew he was THAT kind of friend. My parents and his could have absolutely cared less. So in terms of bring "respectful" and "not rude" it all has to do with what your parents want. My mom would have laughed at me if I brought a serious boyfriend home and we had separate rooms. Why should she make up/clean up 2 rooms needlessly is what she would say!
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
Wow tnmom, what's wrong with being in a serious relationship with someone and living with them? That's really interesting that you think my sister is a ho-slut because she sleeps in the same bed as her bf of almost 5 years. That's seriously the most ridiculous comment I've seen on this site.
otaku otaku 8 years
i would be offended if my parents told me that i couldn't sleep in the same room as my significant other. i'm an adult. come on. ...thankfully my parents aren't like that. they'd laugh at me if i even suggested separate rooms and i would laugh at them if they did. when i was a teenager, that was one thing but as an adult it's just silly.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
And yeah, I'm not going to enforce that rule on my children, especially if they are full-grown and self-supporting adults. I'm nearly 30 for crying out loud. As long as two people are respectful and don't make any noise (and you know that they are being safe and that they are a serious couple) what's the big deal?
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Nope - we asked very politely and got a "not until there's a ring". It's fine - we'll just stay in a hotel for part of the time since we're in an LDR and we never get to see each other. I'm from the South and it's extremely common for parents to be that conservative. My friends from the Northeast and from other countries simply can't believe it - they find it ridiculous.
SusanTeufel SusanTeufel 8 years
My parents didn't let my husband and I sleep on the same floor of the house until we were married when we visited. His parents insisted we sleep in different beds, and it helped us better appreciate when we were married and got to sleep together, I think. But that's me.
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