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Relationship Protocol: Did You Take Baby Steps in Your Relationship?

As the old rhyme goes, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage — but as we all know, the progression of a relationship is a lot more involved than that. Of course there are steps one takes before settling down and starting a family, but even if you skip out on living together before getting engaged or opt out of getting a dog before having kids, you can still live happily ever after! So looking back on your relationship, did you and your significant other take baby steps in the right direction, or did you just go with the flow and let your emotions take over?


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duckiesandie duckiesandie 8 years
My guy and I met online playing a computer game together. We chatted, hung out, and even sent each other packages in the mail for about 8 months until he flew over to come visit me. He stayed at my place for 3 weeks and we clicked just as well in person as we did online. I'm planning to visit him in a few months and we're planning some summer traveling. I guess we're not your typical relationship, but for the most part it's been baby steps, and I love it - it just feels right. :)
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 8 years
We fell full-out in love very quickly. After the first time we ever hanged out, we've met every day in that summer ever since. For the past 2.5 years, there hasn't been 1 day that we haven't spoken for at least an hour. We attached very quickly. xD
ashleyann ashleyann 8 years
My man and I moved quickly but it was unexpected which is why i think it worked so well. We've been together for a year now, have a house, dog, and a cat together. We will eventually marry but I have no rush for that (I find my family has more of a rush for it than I do). We do things in our own accord and are completely mixing up the idea of the 'right' order of the steps in a relationship. I took my time in the past, ... rushed in the past... but I found both those times I was forcing something that shouldn't have happened. This time things fell into place (our pup Koda just showing up in our arms practically)... I believe in fate, and not looking for things to happen, and that's EXACTALLy what happened with my boyfriend and I.
kperry2414 kperry2414 8 years
I hate to be a downer but I just got out of two back to back relationships that went way too fast. The first I was sure I was going to marry. Everything he said, right down to picking out what songs he wanted to play at our wedding, indicated so. We moved in together and 2 weeks later he kicked me out and had decided I really wasn't the love of his life. The second, obviously a rebound, was a fast progression as well. Things just ended with that one recently and it was pretty messy. From now on I am determined to take things PAINFULLY SLOW. If they're worth it they'll wait it out. My only hope is that I can pump the brakes a little on my emotions.
1QTPIE 1QTPIE 8 years
It all just flowed together but a quick speed. I was moving out of my uncles. My hubby happened to be w/ the friend I called to help me move. He helped me move as well. I went out and invited my friend and he came along. He started to pick up my friend and I from where we worked. We went out and riding around with friends. One night we we out and one thing lead to another now we've been together for going on 3 years with 3 kids. 2 his 1 mine from another previous relationship. And 3 dogs. I just lost my male dog BEAR yesterday so now we're at 3 kids and 2 dogs. Rip Bear Bear I will miss you. I wouldn't change anything. I love him and he loves me. We are in love with each other, our kids and our little family we made together. I love you hunny. Kiss kisses
HelloAnia HelloAnia 8 years
I am not an emotional ... relationship type. At all... With that said, it was very different in my current relationship. We moved in after being together for only 3months. Dating each other for maybe a month longer. Then at around the 5month mark we adopted kittens together... logically speaking, I would be appalled by my actions, since it's not at all logical, but it just feels right. I guess that's what matters.
psterling psterling 8 years
we definitely took it one step at a time, but we did admit to each other pretty quickly (I think 2 months in) that we knew this was it for us. I think knowing that we were both on the same page actually helped us enjoy taking our time with each new step in our relationship because we knew where things were headed. So it was all just stress-free fun watching our relationship grow! Now we're newlyweds and hopefully baby will make 3 in a few years.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I'm a strong yes or no person. So if I feel 'yes' with a guy, then it means I want to get married and skip all the other crap...which we've probably done anyway, only faster and without aimless repeating. But I will walk in stride with him. No= nothing/never. Could try...won't work. In general, once I'm sure, I hate foot-dragging.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
We didn't take baby steps but we've known each other 2 years before dating so we already knew we were compatible when we got together. It was one of those inevitabilities really and we're super happy. :D
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
When I was younger I always wanted to take my time with the man I chose but when it came earlier than expected, I was just going with the flow! To me as long as you know what your getting into then there shouldn't be any problem! I've been with my man for 5 yrs. now and were doing just fine!
Lele777 Lele777 8 years
We just flowed into a natural progression of things and landed where we landed.
bbkf bbkf 8 years
We definitely just went with the flow. I moved in with him after a week or two of dating. We've never had to discuss our future, we both knew we'd always be together, so from the moment we got together, everything just progressed as quickly as possible to marriage.
psychobabble psychobabble 8 years
My relationship has been very traditional and baby steps all the way. Started dating in high school, decided to wait until we got married to have sex, went to separate colleges, he moved to a different state to go to grad school, I followed 6 months later for my own grad school (different school), got engaged a year later, and now we're married and living together for the first time. I think it completely depends on the people involved, there's no right answer on how to proceed. The most important thing, to me, is to be on the same page with your partner.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
we both actually have similar values, so we both knew exactly what steps to take baby or otherwise.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
well i think that we went with the flow of things and didn't necessarily take 'baby steps' about 2 months in, i broke my knee so that kind of accelerated the way that we were in our relationship. i couldn't walk, i couldn't drive, i couldn't do ANYTHING for myself and he stepped up and took over for me. i think that it was kind of the catalyst for how we do things since we moved in about a year into our relationship, moved to a different state together cause i got a new job, almost had a kid before we were engaged, and now we're engaged and things might only now be getting into the usual rhythm of things.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
For us, it was a mix bag. For the most part, it was baby steps. We had a couple of moments of big leaps. So far, so good. We've been together for over 10 years.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 8 years
I think we went with the flow but it ended up being baby steps. A few things were rushed due to unforeseen reasons but it all worked out.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
we just go with the flow :) i lvied @ home, my bf's lease was ending, we moved in together. i wanted a kitty, my cat had babies and I kept one. i wanted a puppy, we waited and waited and now we have Rosie :) everything just works how it suppose to, without having to try to hard. I don't force him to be more commited, or marry me or anything. We are happy right now, and frankly, that's all that matters :)
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