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Relationship Protocol: Do Relationship Issues Take Precedence Over Other Things?

Balancing priorities can be fairly tricky even if you're single, but when you're in a relationship, things can get all the more complicated. Even a healthy relationship can be both time-consuming and emotionally intense, but when you factor in any drama or conflict, it's easy for your balance to shift. I know that when I'm in a relationship and something challenging happens, I have a very difficult time focusing on anything else until it's been resolved. Are you the same way? Do your relationship issues take precedence over other things going on in your life?


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Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
When I get in any argument with someone I care about, I definitely get absent-minded until I can resolve it. I HATE to "talk about it later," so if my boyfriend and I are arguing, you bet your butt he's going to stay on the line with me or stay until we talk it out. It drove him insane at first, but now, when I say, "We'll talk about it later," he'll poke and prod until I spill. I hate leaving ANYTHING unfinished, especially an argument. If I get upset at work, and I know neither my boyfriend nor I have the time to talk it out for hours, I'm so distracted, and I know my productivity definitely drops a little. Not significantly, but I can feel myself dragging through my work.
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 8 years
Relationship issues bother me soooo much! I can't focus until my boyfriend and I work things out.
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
Relationship issues ruin my day ... week ... month ... etc.
LilyLyra LilyLyra 8 years
Definitely. Relationship issues always take over and I never seem to be able to balance everything else out when there's a fight or drama going on. And I wish I wasn't like that but I just can't help it.
MissChita MissChita 8 years
Definitely! I found myself (in my last relationship) focusing on my relationship issues first and putting everything else on the back burner. And maybe that's ok if its every now and again; but its when its going on all the time - something is wrong!!! Now, I'm single, and I think my priorities are becoming a little more in balance now. But, if I get into another romantic relationship, I would try to do a better job of keeping my priorities in balance, no matter what issues may or may not be going on.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Generally, yes. However, my hubbie is very good at compartmentalizing. He won't let personal issues spill over at work, and vice versa. Whenever we squabble at work, or some other inappropriate time, he's very good at saying,"Let's talk about this LATER." And he's very good at following-up with me. He would come back at a better time saying,"Now where were we??" He would swing his fists in a mock fight. LOL Usually, he behavior would deflate my anger, and I'm ready to work things out. Because of my husband's behavior, I have no choice but to compartmentalize like him. For good reason, he's unavailable to discuss our problem, but I have faith he will get back to me as soon as he's free.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
I used to be really bad at balancing hard personal times with other things. Now it's not as bad. I think it has to do with my level of security in my relationship now. I don't feel like a fight or a bad day could end everything so I know I can do other things and come back to the problem and have a better chance of solving it
heidi-girl heidi-girl 8 years
guilty. although i don't tell anyone, it's the number 1 thing on my mind until things are resolved. usually it's pretty obvious if somethings up because i'm reserved when usually i'm extremely outgoing
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Oh no. I never really tell ANYONE when we tiff. Because it's mainly over s tupid issue and I don't need people making up their minds about what we're like. I would never want to be labelled "the couple who fights all the time!" My bf's brother and his gf fight constently! Like in frton of everyone! Screaming matches! I don't need everyone knowing that kind of stuff about us!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
DarlingDA, i don't TELL other people, and i certainly power through at work...but it still is super hard!
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
I try my best to not let it get in the way but it's HARD. I agree with the other ladies when I'm at work all I can think about is my fight with my boyfriend when we fight.
DarlingDA DarlingDA 8 years
It's really hard to focus on anything else, but you also have to realize you are at work. I have a coworker that turns every fight with her boyfriend into "I can't work - I'm too upset!" Unfortunately, the rest of us have to pick up the slack. I can understand if it happens every once in a while, but at least once a week there is a new drama that she has to spend the day talking about. And honestly most people do not want to hear about your relationship issues.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
ugg I know exactly what you mean. when you have a tiff over the phone @ work or's just so hard to work because all you are thinnking about is him and the tiff!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i agree,'s not that i mean for it to happen that way, but when i get in a fight with my boyfriend i feel sick to my stomach and can't do anything else until i resolve it. it really makes for a long work day sometimes!
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