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Relationship Protocol: Do You Discuss Your Sex Life?

If you’re in a relationship, you’re probably having sex, but are you talking about it? Serious relationships require communication in response to the small things, like what the plans are for the weekend, and the bigger things, like what you've been arguing about lately. But while sex is certainly an important issue in a relationship, we correlate it more with action than talk. So do you and your significant other seriously discuss your sex life? Or when it comes to sex, is talking the last thing on your mind?

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duckiesandie duckiesandie 8 years
Of course we talk about it! Not only does it make me feel better knowing what we're doing is feeling good for both of us... but the fact that I can be so open with him about such an intimate act reminds me how close we are with one another.
Veronix Veronix 8 years
yes! alot! I think it's great and I find it very sexy (and useful) just to talk about it.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
We talk about it. It's good to communicate, mostly because we get to try new things or improve upon the occasional shocking round. It also stops it from being boring!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
We do discuss it, a lot of the time. ;p We'll discuss things we want, how to improve and sometimes they'll be a debrief afterwards. Haha! It's healthy to discuss your sex life.
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
we talk about our sex life all the time. It seems only natural. besides my husband is my best friedn so if I couldn't talk aboutit with him who would I have to talk to?
havok636 havok636 8 years
yeah. a lot actually. if there's anything thats on our minds, we bring it up. we're both very open people.
Mimita2 Mimita2 8 years
I would really like to start doing this! But how do I start? what should me and my boyfriend talk about?
Deidre Deidre 8 years
Yes, of course? I honestly find it a little strange that people in long term relationships wouldn't discuss it at least occasionally. We talk about all points in our relationship at some point, so why would sex be any different?
stumbler02 stumbler02 8 years
Yup, we talk. Both of us are really shy people and not very experienced, which makes it kind of surprising that we talk, but it does make us feel good that we can communicate maturely and always be on the same page. We make each other very happy and we make sure to share that with each other :)
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
I recommend that you do so b/c if you didn't it kinda makes the relationship harder! In my past relationship's I started with going at it instead of knowing then I ended up not liking it! Now that me and my fiance do our thing we always ask each other was it what you expected but if we feel theres something wrong then we usually take the time out to fix it. I rather play first then talk! When communicating you tend to find out what the other person is really interested in so when it comes to that time you want have to guess or play around, just get busy!!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Oh yea :) You NEED too! Guys just don't get it sometimes!
wambalus wambalus 8 years
Of course we talk about our sex lives together.
designerel designerel 8 years
I think it's important to discuss it! It makes things all that much better because you can tell each other what you liked or didn't like, what gets you in the mood, your fantasies, etc.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 8 years
We discuss too. Our fantasies (some of which are coming true!), a little direction if one of our nether region's is being stubbron (normally mine) and we always discuss after...how it was, what was hot....and also the next day. If sex was just over the top amazing, one of us will usually remark to the other "i can't stop thinking about last night" etc. I can't imagine completely ignoring it though. that would be...odd?
seraphimm seraphimm 8 years
I think the topic question is talking about sex WITH your S.O., not to people outside of your relationship. Yes, we talk about it very often actually. When we're "recovering" in bed, he asks me how many times I orgasmed ;) He wants to see how he's measured up each time LOL I was shy about talking about sex at first (thought it was SUPER awkward actually), but I think talking is really essential. Especailly because we can please each other better and better each time! I highly recommend it! :cheer:
faerymagick15 faerymagick15 8 years
We have always talked about sex. It is necessary, IMHO, to keep a relationship open and honest and lets face it...sex IS important in a marriage. talking is the only way we learn what we like and what we don't and if things in the bedroom are ok. I don't have a problem with it at all. BUT...we only talk with each other. I don't share my sex life with anyone else. Not girlfriends or family. Just me and him.
Marci Marci 8 years
I always did until I got involved with my fiance. Our relationship is too sacred to share.
justanerd1975 justanerd1975 8 years
I know getting them to talk about it is like pulling teeth lol but soem communication is a good thing...
CYL CYL 8 years
Yup! Especially when he does something really good or right I will reinforce it by telling him how great it was (sounds kind of like puppy training .lol). Communication is key..how else will they know what they are doing right or wrong?
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
in my new one... constantly!!! in my last one... never - he saw it as nagging and he quit trying...
jessie jessie 8 years
yep....we talk about the good, bad and the ugly. talk, talk, talk....then experiment! ;)
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
what is sex again? LOL
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
not that i'm shy - and i shouldn't be since i'm engaged, but i don't like to talk about sex...it actually makes me uncomfortable to vocalize things about my sex life. trust me, i've had my fair share of experience, but for some reason i would rather just not talk about it and the things that i like/don't like an hope that my fiance gets it.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
We talk about sex. He'll ask the next day or a few hours later if I enjoyed it and I'll tell him what I liked and what he should do more of and he says the same. Also, while having sex we're pretty open about what is working for us and what isnt. Communication is key to a mindblowing sex life!
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
Not really. We ask each other if there's anything that we can do better but other than that action is MUCH better than talk! ;)
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