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Relationship Protocol: Do You Know What His Number One Fantasy Is?

The great thing about a sexual fantasy is that it can be whatever we want it to be. The problem is that if a fantasy isn't in the realm of reality, it can be hard to act on, which is why many of our wild, crazy, whimsical, or just impossible ideas end up staying in the realm of make believe. And that's OK, but what I want to know is: Do you know what your man's number one fantasy is? And have you ever tried it to make it a reality?


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designerel designerel 8 years
My bf claims he has none. He's not interested in threesomes because he is a strict believer that sex should be something special between two people only. He has expressed interest in me dressing up as a nurse or french maid though... and anytime I wear thongs or g-strings he goes nuts.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
I've come to the conclusion over the past few weeks that I'm too jaded to post half the stuff I think here, let alone my husband's fantasies or what I'm going through with over here. The other day I read something to him and we laughed and laughed about it.. So I asked him seriously, are we just too jaded or is there something wrong with us.. (We lived the crazy club/dj lifestyle [before we had our daughter] for so long nothing seems to amaze us. I've worked in a couple of sex shops on the side while holding down my permanent job at a video production company [corporate, not pornographic].. but it's like we've seen too much that most people wouldn't believe IS reality.. But I had to ask him -) Have we just done too much together or are we just outlandish. The thing that doesn't really bother me about how soft a lot of you seem is that no matter how wild he and I get there is so much love with him so it makes it even more exciting to explore our sexuality. (I'd rather get insane with him than some random idiot. I waited all my life to find the right guy to do it all with. There's just about nothing I wouldn't share with him sexually [except his dick isn't going anywhere but here]) I think all people are different together. Sexual fantasies varies drastically from one single fantasy to too many.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
My husband claims to not have one and I'm not sure if I believe that or not. He is pretty tame sexually so maybe he doesn't or maybe he just doesn't want to offend me. We've done pretty much anything and everything but there are always other things. I was hoping people would get more into what the fantasies were on here. I'm a little disappointed.
novo32 novo32 8 years
My boyfriend has no problem telling me what his fantasy is. He wants me to be a complete sex goddess. The problem is, i dont know if i can do that, and he actually get really discouraged. I am going to take a strip dancing class to tap into my inner sex goddess. Lets hope i have super sex powers hidden somewhere inside of me
Seka21 Seka21 8 years
My boyfriend is grossed out by threesomes.. in fact all the men ive dated were. Possibly something to do with the background we're from (balkan countries....not what i would call v.modern minded and v.religious!) They all saw sex as something exclusive to the relationship and the idea of inviting someone else into it was just wrong to them. However a common theme has always been stockings, lingerie... and thanks to H&M, Agent P, Anne Summers etc... there is ALOT of that to be found for alot of different budgets and tastes!
bbkf bbkf 8 years
Yes, I know what it is and yes, I have done it ;-)
thelorax thelorax 8 years
My husband's pretty vocal about what he wants, but I really don't know if there's any one thing he REALLY wants...hmm...probably...
myystque myystque 8 years
I have no idea. Maybe I should ask.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
There are other ways around threeways sometimes. Some men just want to watch you, rather than deal with the emotional baggage (on both sides) from another girl stepping into your relationship. Threeways can suck because someone always gets hurt. Someone likes someone more than the other. Someone talks about the other person later. It takes a lot of confidence and emotional stability. I've seen it ruin the longest and strongest relationships. There have to be boundaries established before hand. And if no one sees eye to eye on things (you and your partner.. forget the third party), then going through with something like that just shouldn't happen. It takes a ton of trust to go through with something like that.
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
lol, yeah I know.. I just reconfirmed it. I live up to it beyond his expectations because it's fun for me.
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
chocolatine, fallen, tatsauce... i'm with you. my husband's biggest fantasy is definitely to have another woman with us. but i think that's one that will rest a fantasy, because neither one of us actually wants to be intimate with someone else.
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Mmm bondage. ;)
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
GlowingMoon - Aww. My boyfriend finds pretty much every fetish hot... to some degree. His main fantasy has been satisfied several times. ;p He has a lot though. He watches a ton of porn so... :D
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
My guys always say they don't have any... it's weird. I often think they're hiding something awful, but it doesn't seem to have been the case...
tatsauce tatsauce 8 years
A THREESOME! I have to hear about it all the damn time, it's getting annoying. I've wanted to try stuff out with a girl so I'm down for it but I am very picky as to who the girl is. Prerequisites like she can't be prettier than me, she can't be a friend of his or of mine, stuff like that. It will happen, don't know when yet. I guess that's what Las Vegas is for. If he gets one with 2 girls, then I get one with 2 dudes as well.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
I am not really sure. But I would guess it involved a construction crane.
TheEnchantedOne TheEnchantedOne 8 years
GlowingMoon - awwww :)
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
This post is funny since I just asked him this past weekend ...he says he has none but im sure thats a lie lol
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
My boyfriend's #1 fantasy is a threesome with two chicks. I keep saying no but every once in a while he brings it up again. SO not gonna happen. His other fantasies have been taken care of ;) as have most of mine... yay for GGG (thanks Dan Savage!)
pixelhaze pixelhaze 8 years
I've had a number of guys tell me that they want to have sex in an elevator. But they all have cameras!! so no way . . . .
chocolatine chocolatine 8 years
Most men's #1 fantasy is a threesome with two women. The smart ones keep it to themselves because they know it would hurt their lady's feelings.
ffemt1201 ffemt1201 8 years
GlowingMoon, that's so cute! Same thing with my boyfriend...we dated a year ago, lost touch, and fate brought us back together. Annnnnd, I have no idea what his number one fantasy is. I really don't think he's all that picky about what we do (hehe). Kelly
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
Actually, embarrassingly, my hubbie's fantasy was being intimate with me. When we first met, half our lifetime ago (yes, we have a long history), he fell for me right away. He fell hard. According to him, I was his "dream girl." Several years later, we ended up dating and getting married. To this day, he's thrilled we're together. :)
kia kia 8 years
I have no idea what his number one is. We have been together for over three years and I don't know. I am sure he'll let that cat out of the bag when he wants to act on it. For now he is not shy with wanting to do smaller creative endeavors.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
I ask and ask and ask but he swears he has NONE! Yea right! I know somewhere deep down he's got one...I just need to uncover it! I love sex and doing things out the norm soooo he shouldn't be scared I'll run away screaming!
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