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Relationship Protocol: Maintaining Your Beauty Routine While in a Relationship

Yesterday I touched upon the notion of not having to shave your legs when you're in a committed relationship, but some of you thought the exact opposite; that you actually need to be more mindful on keeping yourself manicured when seeing someone. Now I understand the importance of making yourself desirable for your man, but let's be honest ladies, sometimes we let the little things go by the wayside when we know he isn't going anywhere just because you "forgot" to shave your legs! So although I don't advise anyone to completely let themselves go, I am all for being your natural self in front of your significant other, even if that means skipping out on a hair wash or two. So what about you? Do you think it's imperative to maintain your beauty regimen when in a relationship?


sakuravalentine sakuravalentine 9 years
I'm usually mindful of my health, hygiene, and beauty whether I'm in a relationship or not. I don't really do all that stuff for the purpose of getting and keeping a man, I just do it because that's how I want to present myself to the world and that's how I feel comfortable. But there is a catch... I expect the same from him, out of habit. Poor thing.
littlecharms littlecharms 9 years
I do my best especially when I know we will be going out for the night but I won't beat myself over not shaving for a few days. My boyfriend is pretty cool with everything so no worries.
bailaoragaditana bailaoragaditana 9 years
Absolutely! Though a large part of that comes from that most of my beauty routine is for me, not for men - body hair irritates me, and makeup is a passion. I'm perfectly comfortable without makeup, of course, so if it's just a lazy Sunday or something, I won't bother. But I always shave, moisturize, etc, because it makes me feel clean and happy :-D
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I always maintain my beauty regimen. Like I wrote in another post, I also go to the gym regularly. I do it for me, not for my husband. I enjoy looking after myself, and taking care of myself. My husband appreciates it, too.
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
Oh, but I still look good in sweats and t-shirt too!
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
Well I've been in my relationship for 11 years so he's seen me EVERY way possible. But I for myself and him always try to look good no matter what. I do my hair every day and shave all the time, I put make-up on but not much unless we go out (really don't need it and not really at all in the summer). But I'm one of those girls that as soon as I get home from work, I'm practically stripping on the way in to put more comfy clothes on to do the cooking and cleaning and all that crap. But he leaves before I even get out of bed in the morning so when I come home it's the first he's seen me. If he says he really likes what I have on, I try to leave it on a little longer (plus I like all the extra kisses and gropes I get).
Letting yourself go isn't an option. Looks always matter. Always. Being attractive to your mate is huge, especially when it comes to sex. People either don't, or find it difficult to have sex with someone they are not attracted to. I always want to look my best, and I expect him to not completely let himself go either. You need to keep all that attraction in the relationship, it definitely helps. I always shower and get dressed nicely and do my makeup nicely before he gets out of work, though. Even if it is just a little primping, and not an all out routine.
bbkf bbkf 9 years
100%. I am even more diligent about always looking my best after several years of marriage. I always make sure to shower and put on something cute before he gets home from work.
sabrinaBee sabrinaBee 9 years
personally i shave more if i'm in a relationship! i won't let bf touch me if i'm not shaved...go figure..i have this thing I feel I'm not clean if i'm not shaved. I make an effort to look good both for myself and him, because I would hate it if my bf left stubble for some days, etc. Even at home, i don't like staying in pyjamas...i only change exactly before going to sleep not before, is this just me? *lol* I don't want to let things slide...maybe I'll relax when I get older
michelle-c42934 michelle-c42934 9 years
I don't really change my routine that much when I'm single or when I have a boyfriend. If anything I take better care of myself when I have a boyfriend.
chhavi chhavi 9 years
okay, it's not like we shave legs for our bfs. I think we must look our best always.
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 9 years
i don;t shave my legs too often in the winter but i would never neglect washing my hair... ewww
rashell rashell 9 years
uh yeah. i shave my armpits daily but i work nights so i shower when i come home and i am so ready to crash i just don't waste my time. my boyfriend and i have been together long enough that he doesn't care. i shave them like.. every 4 days, haha. :D
Beastiegirl5 Beastiegirl5 9 years
When I was in a relationship, I kept up on things the same as usual- I was all about grooming, though I didn't do the "heels and a dress" for dinner as often, sometimes the bra and panties didn't match, and didn't feel so self-conscious about getting sweaty on a bike ride with him. But I noticed he let things slide a lot and that bothered me. I'm not asking for fawning here, but I felt like I was being taken for granted. You know- showing up for a nice dinner with my family in jeans and a flannel ala 1995, a weeks worth of stubble and so on. One would think he just wasn't interested anymore, but he seemed really upset when I broke things off. Go figure.
jJuliet jJuliet 9 years
I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, and I've found that he really does treat me better if I put effort into my appearance. There was a phase when I thought we had moved past the stage where appearance mattered, so I never wore makeup or did anything with my hair. He constantly would make comments about how I should cut my hair, take better care of my skin, etc. It bothered me so much that I started wearing makeup every day. Almost immediately, all the negative comments were replaced with positive ones, and our relationship improved a lot. It's superficial, but when you are used to talking down to a person (about their appearance or anything else), you lose respect for them. When you are constantly complimenting them, you gain respect for them.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I don't do anything different than when I was single. Whenever I come back home from class or from going out, I always change into sweats because I hate sitting in my room all dressed up. So, he sees me wearing shorts and a tee/tank most of the time, but when we go out on a date, I'll try to dress up. When we have dinner near my apartment (like, walk over there), I'll still wear sweats and his jacket, though. I shave as often as I need to, but once I didn't shave under my arm for a few days because it was winter time and I wasn't going to see him for a while, he noticed when he invited me over out-of-the-blue. I had a shirt on and I never took it off, but when I pulled my arm up, he whispered later that he noticed.
Stacey-Cakes Stacey-Cakes 9 years
It's tough to go through an entire beauty regiment and dress cute around the house when your boyfriend says you are most beautiful with no make-up, hair in a ponytail, and wearing work-out shorts and tank-top. Of course going out is a completely different story, but hanging out at the apartment just me and him, no way!
graylen graylen 9 years
I try to maintain the lawn -as someone above said ; ) - and try to shave at least once a week. Other than that, I don't think he really cares if I have stubble. My leg hair grows back in 24 hours anyway... it doesn't stand a chance! I like to dress cute most of the time anyways and he also loves how I look in my little matchy sweatsuits... it's a win-win!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I've been with my boyfriend 4 yrs and still think I take pretty good care of myself. I have the lazy day here and there and sometimes get a little leg stubble but that's about it.
kristine13 kristine13 9 years
I got lucky with dark hair, but almost transparent leg hair :-) I can go for two or three weeks without shaving, and my boyfriend will never notice! Of course, we're also both in grad school, so neither one of us has much time for the primping that we may have done in college or high school. I definitely haven't let myself go in terms of exercise or healthy eating, but I also don't feel the need to put on makeup or dressy clothes when it's just the two of us. We have the best time, and are the most comfortable with each other, when we're in our "comfies" (pj's or sweats), just relaxing. I wouldn't want it any other way!
emalove emalove 9 years
I know my husband loves me no matter what, but I'd never let myself go! That's just not me. I still shave my legs everyday too...haha.
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I have to say I just wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I couldn't let go of all the stuff I do to mask myself everyday. I'm not a have to shave kind of girl, I guess partially because I'm just not very hairy but even if I was, the guy is supposed to be with me for me, right? I'm not saying I don't enjoy looking good for my husband because I love it when he tells me I look good. I just know that I'll never be getting dressed in the morning thinking hmm which outfit will keep my husband from cheating on me today? Isn't that kind of the point of being married? You're supposed to have found the person who loves you the way you are so much so that, to steal a line from Juno, they think the sunshines out your butt.
clareberrys clareberrys 9 years
I still like to look good for him but at the same time if my legs are prickly or my hair is messy or my face is without make up I know he'll want to be around me and have sex with me just as much as if I were to keep up with everything on a very regular basis! But I do like to shave for him and I like to smell nice for him and of course look sexy but if I did it every day then it wouldn't be as fun!
lolalu lolalu 9 years
I don't do as much as I used to, it'd be a waste getting my hair done or makeup done nicely b/c my kid will have peaches in it two hours later ;) I do however keep my self in shape, but I think that's mostly for me. At one point in my life I was obese, and after major, hard work now i'm normal weight! I've kept off the weight for 5 years and I have no plans on letting my body go!
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I'm with pop, I don't do all out makeup and hair dos. I never have. I keep clean, shave my legs, etc, but I'm not going to get up every morning and run put on makeup just b/c I have a guy sleeping next to me! He better love me with and without makeup :)
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