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Relationship Protocol: Wedding Rings

Wearing a wedding ring represents something different to every married couple. Most consider it a symbol of their union, but some look at it as just a really nice piece of jewelry! Of course wearing a ring won't guarantee fidelity or life-long happiness, but it sure does act as a constant reminder of the vow you took to love and honor your partner.

I think it's more common for men to opt out of wearing a wedding ring than it is for women, so how would you feel if your husband didn't want to wear one? Would it be a source of contention or would you understand his desire to be ring free?

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darkangel2305 darkangel2305 9 years
In my personal case, I would be offended if my husband didn’t wear his ring. Unless it was for legitimate reasons, such as a hazardous job, arthritis, during sports, etc… I think wedding bands are a beautiful symbol of marriage. I respect those who disagree, but in my own marriage I would want my husband to wear his ring, like I will wear mine.
angelrk angelrk 9 years
When we were talking about getting married and the idea of what rings we should get came up, my now-husband suggested an alternative to wedding bands. In lieu of wedding bands, we both wear simple silver hook bracelets from St. Croix (USVI) where we got married. We had them engraved and we both wear them all day, every day. It's our own personal symbol that reminds us of a great day in a great place where we legalized our commitment. Alot of people we encounter find it strange that we don't have wedding bands, but it works for us. Everyone we know knows that we are married. We're also not worried about new people being able to tell (or needing to know) if we are married b/c it's an issue of trust between us and we don't put ourselves in situations that require the "notice" that traditional wedding bands give.
helloframboise helloframboise 9 years
My future husband is DEFINITELY going to wear his ring. If he protests--to this point he hasn't--I will tell him to deal with it. I think it's extremely important, and he's a lawyer, so there is no safety reason for him not wearing it every day. In my opinion, safety is the only acceptable reason for him not wearing it. He has pointed out that his dad doesn't wear one and that his parents have been married for over thirty years, but his dad was a spy and the government did not want him to appear to have a family. I foresee a lot of forgetting at first, but I think he'll get used to it.
emalove emalove 9 years
I know plenty of men who don't like wearing jewelry at all and don't wear their wedding bands and I know it doesn't mean anything bad about the relationship. My father never has and my parents have been married for 36 years. My sister's husband doesn't wear his either, and she doesn't care at all. I guess I'm different, though, because I feel very strongly about my husband wearing his ring...I guess I see it as a bond between us and it's so symbolic to me. I know I'd be bothered if he didn't want to wear it. But he does wear it, so I guess I don't have to worry!
thelorax thelorax 9 years
My husband boldly proclaimed that he didn't want to wear a wedding ring when we got engaged, but I put an end to THAT notion. It's an important symbol to both of us - he would FREAK OUT if I didn't wear a ring. I have complete confidence in him, but people LOOK for it, that's just the way it is. And we both really like looking at each other's ring fingers and seeing our wedding rings and knowing what they stand for. I'm glad we both wear them.
MissChita MissChita 9 years
If and when I get married, I would love for my husband and I both to wear a wedding ring. Its not like we have to put on four rings and a necklace to symbolize our love, its just one ring. I think its attractive. But I can understand too that some men just dont like rings. But I hope that my husband will not be that way. Because I would be so excited to get his ring as he would be to get mine! :)
MarinerMandy MarinerMandy 9 years
Snowbunny, I have an anniversary ring for my wedding ring too! I did get a solitaire engagement ring, and it is by far the most sentimental thing I own, but it annoys me sometimes! It just seems to get in the way. I love the anniversary rings because it has more to it than just a plain band, but it's still simple and classic looking. My husband loves wearing his wedding ring. He actually wanted an engagement ring. I offered to buy one for him, but he said that he'd play it off if anyone asks by saying I made him wear it. Lol, I said he couldn't have one unless he owned up to it.
bransugar79 bransugar79 9 years
I don't think the ring makes you any more or less committed, and I can totally understadn guys who don't wear them while working. It wouldn't bother me if my husband didn't wear a ring as long as there was legitimate reason for it and I didn't feel like he was making an excuse so he wouldn't have to cop to being attached. That being said my husband wears his ring all the time and he loves it. He had another ring I got him when we were first dating as a one year anniversary present and he actually wanted to wear both at the same time. I finally convinced him that one is enough. I think he's just the kind of guy that really loves being maried and he wants everyone to know about it without question.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 9 years
My hubby doesn't wear his ring and I'm okay with that. He's not a jewelry person...he spent our entire honeymoon spinning it on his finger constantly and it started to drive me nuts! ;) Plus, he works with his hands so it's really not ideal for him to wear it. But for me, I love my ring and wear it everyday except when doing housework.
fcseamstress fcseamstress 9 years
I love jewelry, and I really love my ring! It's an extremely comfortable ring, so much so that sometimes I fall asleep with it on and don't realize it! As for FH, he's in construction, so we've got the 'crushing' concern. We're looking at getting him a titanium ring so it can't crush his finger, but I'm willing to bet he still won't wear it at work. And that's ok with me. I'd rather have him with a finger to put the ring on rather than be a brat about him wearing it all the time! He's not a big jewelry person anyway, plus he works with nothing but men. sailing chick - Love the leather necklace idea. Maybe I'll make FH another hemp necklace with a stone that matches mine (fire opal) that he can wear at work instead.
SugarFreak SugarFreak 9 years
My husband was never a jewelry (esp rings) person, but after a while he got used to it. He doesn't wear it around the house nor to the gym, but he goes out that door he has it on.
ntshlv ntshlv 9 years
My husband usually wears his. I don't wear mine to work though, not a safety issue, just that I'd rather wear my graduation ring instead since it used to be my grandfather's and it means a lot to me. I do always wear the earings my husband gave me when we were still dating, they were made to match my ring. I don't think it bothers him that I don't wear my wedding ring that often, at least, he never said anything to that effect. We're in a committed relantionship, I really don't see why the ring would make any difference at all, wearing my wedding ring doesn't mean I love him more or anything, it's just a symbol.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Hey for all of you who said you weren't jewelry fans...I'm not either, and instead of getting a solitaire, I was given what is referred to as an "anniversary band" for a joint engagement/wedding ring. The diamonds are in a channel instead of raised, so even though it's still sparkly and valuable, it isn't so flashy. Just a suggestion... I proposed to my fiance, and so I had to give him a ring! I told him he didn't have to wear it while we are engaged, it's just a symbolic gift. I don't know, when we're married, it'll be up to him I guess. He loves it anyway and me, that's all that matters...
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 9 years
He wont be wearing his ring to work due to the nature of his job. He wouldnt want to break it or lose it. But other times, he'll wear it. I understand that, and I think its a smart idea. Me on the otherhand, I will wear it all the time. Im excited to do so.
Annie0818 Annie0818 9 years
Well I'm getting married in a couple of months, and I would ask him why he doesn't want to wear one, if he has a good reason for it and its something that I can live with then I would be a little hurt but I would understand. It just seems a little odd not to wear a wedding ring.
Allyace Allyace 9 years
My dad stopped wearing his when I was a kid and I've always found it weird. My parents have been married almost 30 years, so it's not like he isn't devoted to my mom. I just think it is kind of nice to wear one and have that little reminder of your significant other. I'm engaged and everytime I look down at my ring, my fiance is the first thing that comes to mind. It has kind of a calming effect. So I guess I really hope he wears a ring.
shannon_xo shannon_xo 9 years
i agree with javsmav. my boyfriend will be wearing one lol.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
If my husband didn't, I would sort of be...sad. I mean, I'm such a sap about things like that. I think it's adorable for people to wear their wedding bands. But my boyfriend hates displays of love, so he might not wear it, so he can keep his life "private."
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
My husband wears his ring all the time and I really love that. I know that for my father it wasn't practical to wear his ring because he worked as a contractor and it would be all scratched and covered in gunk. He'd wear it on special occasions though.
bsglrok132 bsglrok132 9 years
My husband has never taken off his ring, at least so far. If he did, I would be concerned. It represents a lot to me, and I know he feels the same way, so it would mean something if he didn't wear it.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
It depends on his reason.
MeDestruit MeDestruit 9 years
I'd make an acception for my current BF if we were to ever go that route, because I doubt in the line of work he is in that a ring would be appropriate, but he strikes me as the kind of man who'd want the entire world to know he's taken, therefore I wouldn't be too concerned about him not wanting to wear a ring. On the other hand, if fate brings me to marry someone else one day and their job didn't affect them wearing the ring, then I would be offended and upset.
MandyPinecone MandyPinecone 9 years
My hubby doesn't wear it around the house but if we are going out of te house for any reason he will wear it.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I totally agree with javsmav
sass317 sass317 9 years
I feel weird without a ring on my left ring finger now, so even if I dont think it would be a good idea to wear my wedding rings (like when we went hiking up a mountain) I wear a titanium band I got forever ago just so I have something on. My husband is not a jewelry person, but just like his dad (and mine) he wears a watch, his college ring and his wedding band. The only time he doesnt wear his wedding ring is when he is working on the car or some home improvement project. When we went on our honeymoon he didnt want to put sunscreen on his hand bc he wanted a wedding ring tanline, which I thought was cute. He said it was strange to wear it at first, simply bc he wasnt used to it, but now I think he feels weird without it bc he basically wears it all the time.
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