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Relationship Protocol: What's the Biggest Obstacle You've Had to Overcome?

Relationship Protocol: What's the Biggest Obstacle You've Had to Overcome?

Though ultimately satisfying and fulfilling, a relationship is a lot of work. Even the most successful relationship takes compromise and patience, and is always a work-in-progress. But sometimes an issue comes up that’s more significant than everything else, and requires the daunting task of overcoming what can feel like an insurmountable obstacle. It might be a financial crisis or an incident involving trust, but whatever it is, it always puts a couple to the test. So let me ask, what’s the biggest obstacle you and your significant other have had to overcome?

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CaffeePants CaffeePants 9 years
My mother is extremely manipulative and a bully. She threatened to call the police on my husband when she and I were having an argument and he stood up for me. She also yelled at us during our reception in front of a few guests. I can't wait until he starts grad school and we have to move out of state!
porkypocky porkypocky 9 years
OH and in the beginning he liked how i was tomboyish but didn't like how it resulted in so many guy friends. -_- (i like videogames, what can you do :( )
porkypocky porkypocky 9 years
my sister, who was mean to him behind his back the day he introduced himself to her. eventually he caught wind of her real side when i found her passing notes to someone saying he was ugly. we grew up in different cultures and economic backgrounds. there's still some culture shock/clashing and he feels awkward at times about the differences in money in our families. his mom. i don't like her for a variety of reasons. he doesn't like my mom for a variety of reasons.
cotedazur cotedazur 9 years
Ahh, I'm with you cmd.. only for us it was French immigration. What a nightmare!
ajennilynrushhh ajennilynrushhh 9 years
the biggest obstacle we overcame was me still being friends with my ex. another one was trust, and another one was our temper because both of our tempers was really bad back then but we learned to fix that.
jessie jessie 9 years
actually its been my mother. alls goes back to when we first got married. calling the preacher, telling him not to marry us, calling his parents, telling them there son is to young and stupid to get married, driving me to the church, telling me that she can give me money and hide me so he can't find me. saying that we'll get a divorce, thats "why" she bought a house, so the kids and i could have a place to stay, :oy: our 12 yr. anniversary is coming up 8/17, need i say more?! :)
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
i also have complete and utter admiration for the women who's husbands/boyfriends are overseas. my best friend gave birth to her first child while her husband was in iraq... it was so tough on her.. as for my fiance and i, we were friends for so long who were both burned in bad relationships (i had been cheated on by my last two boyfriends, he was engaged before and she just up and left him) and then on top of the fact we were attracted but there was a 3 and 1/2 hour distance between us. we finally took the plunge but it was hard for me to completly trust him cause of my past and it was really hard for him to completly open up to me because of his. but we worked it thru and are gettin married in 5 weeks :)
joesbabygirl joesbabygirl 9 years
When my boyfriend and I first got together I was in the middle of divorce and he was just getting out of a relationship. (she was still living in his apartment because she was from out of state so it wasn't that easy getting everything together to get back home) But after she left finally (which was only about 2 weeks but felt like eternity)I had to deal with her calling constantly, texting him constantly. She could always come up with an excuse to call or text..and we had to deal with my ex husband following us and showing up at my job with cards with pictures of me and him etc (just for the record my ex left me for the party life and a 17 year old hussy) The stress of all that at once was horrible. But since we got away from both of them it has been pure heaven! We both hate drama but all that was well worth it and there is a reason we put up with it all. True love conqurs all
chicobo chicobo 9 years
I dated my current beau right after I broke up with my previous boyfriend. And my friend was very upset with me. So a pissed off ex and sad friend. Also he wants me to lose my "pooch". Too bad being on the pill has really thrown my body for a loop. It's tough losing the weight for sure! I feel you on that one almostfamous.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
Well, Loosing weight is hard as it is, but when you HAVE to do it for social and dating purposes, it gets emotional. I've had to fight all the tears and sweat just to get the things normal women take for granted. Eh, I've tried to be a good friend to other girls my age, but most of them be-yotches were shallow and superficial. The hardest part of it all were that they hung out with other fat girls...lol I guess I'm too reserved for them...
Bearwoman Bearwoman 9 years
Almost Famous, please elaborate. This is weirdly becoming an issue for me in my relationship...
KaseyGirl KaseyGirl 9 years
I feel for those who have significant others overseas! My boyfriend is currently in the Navy and stationed in Guam. We do however have a couple bright sides to this - we started dating when he was home for leave in March, and hes scheduled to be done with his tour (cross your fingers, the military loves to change dates) next month. and also before he came home for leave he was in Kuwait for a year...it would have been sooo much harder had we been together while he was there. So we've pretty much dealt with long distance for the first 6 months of our relationship! Thank God for webcams, email, text messaging, and free international calling!
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
Weight loss.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
having 3 children and having one of them come down with regressive autism. 85% of families in this situation get divorced. sometimes couples blame each other or disagree on a course of treatment, but for us it was simply not having the time to work on our relationship. autism comes first 24-hours a day, 365 days a year.
jlaprade jlaprade 9 years
Shopaholichunny--I feel your pain. My boyfriend has been deployed for the last 4 1/2 months to Iraq (he's in the Air Force). I actually get to talk to him quite often, via email and this Yahoo text message service, and that helps a lot. Luckily, the Air Force has 6 month deployments, so he'll be back in September. For all you ladies out there whose men deploy for longer than 6 months--you are amazing in my book for making it through that.
ESPNgirl ESPNgirl 9 years
My almost 2 1/2 year relationship has had several obstacles - I would say in general, our big obstacle has been constant change...change of schedule, career, living arrangements, etc. Since we've started dating, * We have moved a combined total of 4 times (the last time, we moved in together, which was a large change in itself) * I've switched careers twice (although i'm finally satisfied...until I go for my next Masters in Administration after I get more experience) * He graduated from Grad School (2007) * I graduated from Grad School (2006) * He's applying to law school (so now we're looking at moving again, this time out of state), so now he's switching careers again * We each bought dogs * Constant change in salary & financial stability The list goes on and on...a lot of different factors have contributed to our stress, but I would say we are just both continually growing and changing...some people can easily handle the stress, but I'm one who likes structure, so it's been a challenge. We're also both ambitious though, so I guess this will continue for awhile :)
bluestar bluestar 9 years
We're not together anymore, but his best friend/roomate died 3 months into the relationship. Man, those were some rough days!
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
cheating on his part
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
I had an affair and we worked through it. plan on renewing our vows in two years on our 10 year anniversary.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
Currently right now it's just the Damn Iraq War. He's in the marines and he has been deployed there for the past 7 months and I don't know when or if I will be able to see him again. :irk:
Marni7 Marni7 9 years
hmm well i was completely in love with my ex when i met my current boyfriend..and i told him and he stuck by me..i guess being in love with someone else..can be an obstacle lol
imLissy imLissy 9 years
we haven't really had any obstacles. I used to start arguments when I didn't really want to argue and he wouldn't let me not argue, lol. Yeah, so I try not to do that now :P Otherwise, any issues we have are about money I guess. In that, I have a lot and he doesn't.
thewavingcat thewavingcat 9 years
we had an ldr for a year and it was horrible. we knew we wouldn't break up and didn't have fights over it or anything, but it was a living hell. i missed my best friend terribly. i'm so glad he's back now :)
bbkf bbkf 9 years
My husband and I had a long-distance relationship for 2 years. I actually thought it would be a lot harder than it was-- we both knew we wanted to be together forever, so it didn't seem that long.
cmd0610 cmd0610 9 years
The United States Immigration Service . . . and not giving up on being together no matter how difficult it was to deal with the immigration process, and the time apart (my fiance couldn't even enter the US while his visa was being processed). Okay I know worse things have happened to people I'm glad this was our only big issue but it was hard for us during the time and I sympathize greatly with anyone who's had to deal with this.
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