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Relationship Protocol: Are You Always in Touch?

Even if they're living under the same roof or have plans to meet up after work, I know many couples that still touch base multiple times throughout the day. I think it's really sweet, but communication overload can be irritating for friends and co-workers when the incessant phone calls become disruptive. When I'm in a relationship, I like to share all the excitement of my day with him in person, but what about you? Are you and your significant other in touch throughout the day? And if so, how often do you typically talk?


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nicstar nicstar 8 years
My bf and I do live together, but there are many times that we're both so busy we don't see each other all day. When we don't, we always check in once, and say "I love you!"
xopiperxo xopiperxo 8 years
we text throughout the day. we are both in school [about 50 min away] so we don't see eachother often. we talk on the phone every now and then.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
We have 2 different types of job, his is on his feet all day and I sit behind a desk so we don't talk at all during the day, we will text back and forth but we save the convo for when we get home.
bbkf bbkf 8 years
My husband and I talk on IM all day. Then he calls me on his way home from work.
graylen graylen 8 years
My SO and I talk a lot during the day but at very regular times. We work different schedules and don't live together, so we talk once in the morning, once on his way to work in the afternoon, when he gets off work and right before one of us goes to bed. It works for us.
Deidre Deidre 8 years
I guess this is a really personal thing per couple. The fiance and I live together, so we really don't do more than the occasional email during the days. We're both usually pretty busy at work. Besides, not checking in gives us more to chat about once we're both home in the evenings. I think we strike a really good balance. When we're together, we're actively spending fun quality time together. But when we're apart, it's no big deal. We each know how to be individuals as well as being a functional and happy couple. I wouldn't want to be with anyone who needed to check in with me all the time (that also goes for friends and family).
psterling psterling 8 years
We used to chat throughout the day, but now we just share our days when we get home. Occasionally we'll chat during the day if one of us reads a compelling article or things like that.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
My boyfriend and I email through out our day and then chat on the phone later that night a time or two, I don't think it's overboard at all.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 8 years
we keep intouch throughout the day but it is just quick. to know that we are both doing okay.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
We send texts once in a while when we're at work if we have something to say. We sometimes go all day without checking in though. We see each other every day after work so it's not a big deal. My ex would text and call all the time when I was at work. He was crazy about knowing what I was doing and when I was going to be home blah blah blah....that was SO annoying.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
We talk a lot during the day! Usually when he wakes up, then either @ lunch or around 2 he brings me tea :), and then I usually call him when I am leaving work to let him know to get his ass home because I am starting dinner!
glam-sugar glam-sugar 8 years
cmd0610 cmd0610 8 years
My fiance and I do check up during the day for a few minutes but some days more or less than others bc of mtgs etc. We gchat a few times and I always call him once to say hi, sometimes in the middle of the afternoon when I'm bored or sometimes when I'm leaving work bc I go home before him. I do it bc I miss him! Whenever I am out without him I always call when I'm on my way home and same for him when he leaves his soccer matches or leaves from having a drink with the guys. It's always nice to hear from him when we are apart! Also with wedding planning some days I have important issues to discuss with him so that always warrants an extra phone call.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
Not a day goes by where I dont touch base with or hear from my boyfriend. We always chat online when we get home from uni or text eachother during the day. We only get to see eachother once a week so it's awesome when I get a text during a lecture or over lunch.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I guess the other thing is that I like to give my boyfriend /some/ space during the day. We see each other all evening long and wake up next to each other so he needs something that's his. He likes it when I text him but it's because it's not all that often I do. Got to keep some mystery!!
sc-cutie sc-cutie 8 years
BF and I are really in almost constant communication. We are both online all the time, and I like to talk on the phone when I'm driving. We aren't necessarily talking all day, but if something happens that we want to mention to the other, we're there.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
Sometimes we talk on gchat but ... we don't really have too much contact throughout the work day as we have v. different schedules and varying levels of busy-ness.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Hmm. When he goes to work he goes to /work/ and I don't hassle him throughout the day. Most of the time he'll be busy at his desk so he won't notice a text message or email from me anyway. We live together and I don't think it would be fair to keep messaging him random stuff throughout the day when he has to concentrate. He takes his work very seriously and I respect this.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
I think like the others have said, it's a matter of balancing that and being appropriate. I am frequently in email contact with close girlfriends throughout the work day, so i would think nothing of being in email contact with my boyfriend that way as well (if I wasn't single). In the past I have avoided taking calls from my boyfriend while out with friends, but I would touch base throughout the evening inconspicuously - like when in the bathroom or while waiting for my friends to come back from the bar. I think it depends on the situation, whether there are others present, whether you live with them or will see them fairly soon, all that kind of thing. There is such a thing as being TOO connected so that you annoy people around you, haha!
winkyface winkyface 8 years
I think it's really annoying if you're having a casual hang-out at someone's house and a significant other calls for no reason, then that person takes the call into the other room and disappears for a good half hour. Can't you wait? That being said, I do keep in constant contact with my bf throughout the day, shooting random IMs and texts to one another when we can. Even though we don't live together, we do see each other almost every day, and we do check in with each other often to share a random story (although I'd NEVER take his call while chilling with a group of friends). We still manage to have very in-depth and meaningful conversations when we are in person, and save the random daily IMs and texts for more silly stuff.
Frenched Frenched 8 years
My husband and I work together. We don't phone each other or check up on each other a whole lot but we do have lunch together. I don't think we're too dependent of each other, but one of my co-workers has said that I might be co-dependent of him. I think not. We may live and work together, but when we go to work, we go to work. We're not phoning or texting each other all day long. I think it might just be jealousy since we get along so great! :P
sierra16 sierra16 8 years
Umm...My fiance and can go weeks without calling each other on the But we live together and if someone has something to say we usually text each other.
JanetG0307 JanetG0307 8 years
yes! we are always in touch. usually we text during the morning, and call during lunch. it's nice to check in, and if i'm having a bad day, its really nice to have a friendly voice and know that i am loved.
hex913 hex913 8 years
We email once or twice throughout the day usually just one to say "have a good day" and then maybe a subsequent email to notify one another of dinner plans or impromptu shopping trips. Otherwise we really unload about the day in person when we get home.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 8 years
We do when we can. He works nights, me days, so he calls me on his way to work and on his way home from work. When he dosen't work, we call each other sporadically throught the day. I am now in an office where cell phones and internet are prohibited, so it sucks! I miss him!
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