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In a Relationship, Whose Family Do You Spend Christmas With?

When you're in a relationship during the holidays, you have to make a difficult choice about whose family to spend it with. If one or both of you doesn't celebrate Christmas, then it's easy to figure out where you'll be on Dec. 25. Or, if your families live close to each other, you can split your time between them. So tell me, this Christmas, whose family are you celebrating with?


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CanadianInVA CanadianInVA 9 years
We fly on Christmas Day. Breakfast with his parents and open presents. Then we see my family on Christmas nigh for dinner. And we are lucky enough to have boxing day!
sass317 sass317 9 years
I never shared holidays until my husband and I started dating. We have split Christmas between the parents for the past 3 years- until we have kids and then everyone has to come to us- our parents did that and they fully understand and expect us to do the same.
heathero heathero 9 years
I spend the Holidays with my boyfriends family, for one b/c they live close, my family lives 3 hours away and second b/c my boyfriend has a son. Because of the custody schedule we have to stay in the area for the holidays, his son spends half the day with us and half the day with his mother. the only major holiday that is not split is Thanksgiving, but still we aren't given enought time to go to visit my family ( the mother won't allow any extra time) so the only way i can spend the holidays with my family is if i go by myself. But i can't bring myself to do that , I have been with my boyfriend for over three years, we plan on getting married, i would feel so empty on the Holidays with out him.
mlmoreno47 mlmoreno47 9 years
My extended family all lives out of state so it's not difficult to decide since all of his lives here! We spend Thanksgiving at his maternal grandparent's house and all of her family and then come to my parents house to have leftovers and dessert. Christmas Eve is spent with his paternal family and then Christmas morning we have breakfast separately with our own parent's and open gifts. He is a server and typically works Christmas afternoon so I spend Christmas afternoon with my family/napping (lol!) and then in the evening we are together and exchanging gifts!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
We were VERY busy!!! The 23rd we spent it with my boyfriends family, the 24the was mine, the 25th was mine, and the 26th was his whole fmaily!
PrincessTracy PrincessTracy 9 years
Depends on the year...
dropstar dropstar 9 years
We've always alternated-- one year with his family, one with mine, the next at home so we can establish our own traditions.
cari047 cari047 9 years
One year we will spend it with his, the next year will spend it with mine.
emalove emalove 9 years
My husband's mother goes away every Christmas with her parents and sister, so we usually see her on Christmas Eve. Christmas day is spent with my family.
Marseeah Marseeah 9 years
My family is from Colorado and his is from Ohio, so we alternate years. There's no other way that we can do it.
cretinhop cretinhop 9 years
My boyfriend and I live together in NH. He's from Hawaii and his whole family lives there. I would love more than anything to go to Hawaii and spend it with his family. He hasn't seen them in almost a year because it costs us $700 each round trip during the off season.
onesong onesong 9 years
We aren't married, so we figured there are plenty of years ahead where we will have to decide where to spend Christmas. As for now, I get to enjoy my family and he gets to enjoy his!
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
We spend ours apart with our own families...
kia kia 9 years
We live far away from both families so we don't celebrate with them. This year we broke that rule for t-giving to spend time with a sick relative and I fear we opened the floodgates. We have to spend a holiday next year with his family or his mother will be really hurt. I hate feeling obligated like this, and I don't dig on holiday travel much either.
Princess-Rebecca Princess-Rebecca 9 years
His family on xmas eve and my on xmas itself.. and vice versa on new year
cocca cocca 9 years
well, it's only my dad and i and he lives in LA and i live in SD... so we spend the next weekend together and i spend christmas day with my bf's family which is like family to me already, so i don't mind. :)
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
we spent the last two years apart-- his family lives in mass, mine in philly. last year we weren't living together, so thats why we didn't spend it together (altho we spent new years together) and this year we figured we're not married why should we have to make one family miss out. he did spend thanksgiving with my family tho... it would be soo much easier if our families only lived like an hour away... i told him screw us going north they're coming down south to see us next year ;-)
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
Our families only live twenty miles away from one another (thousands of miles from where we live the rest of the year), but we still spend the holiday apart. I tend to get miffed (like I am right now) that he won't even call or come visit my family, but I will go visit his a few times while we're in town.
shugahxnxspice shugahxnxspice 9 years
we spend xmas apart...we're both very close to our families and there's always been an unspoken agreement between us that family always comes first.
pinky5 pinky5 9 years
This is our second christmas together and so far we have done both. Christmas eve is a big deal with my family and they do christmas day, and his family is also a lot smaller than mine. So we go to my parents the day before x-mas eve make tamales and then x-mas eve go to my grandparents house eat dinner, come back to my parents, wake up open presents and drive back to san diego and have dinner with his dad at our place. So far it seems to be working out.
trixiefire trixiefire 9 years
Both. But my parents have been very accomodating this season, as I'm meeting my bf's parents for the first time.
hope2be hope2be 9 years
Both. Last year spent X-mas eve with his family and X-mas day w/ my fam. This year, spent X-mas eve w/ MY family and X-mas day w/ his family. Taking turns..
veronicaraye veronicaraye 9 years
My boyfriend is Jewish
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
This was out first christmas together (we'll be 1 year in january) and my family lives about two hours south of there his family (and the pair of us) live, so we sort of had to spend it apart. I'm hoping we can work out a way to split the time next year. Christmas eve is the big deal for my family, and christmas day is the big deal for his (they go to Maine, 2 hours from where he and I live) so we'll see what happens.
sevendayrain sevendayrain 9 years
We both spend it with our own families because we have only been together for almost two years. We try and spend time together.
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