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Group Therapy: I Don't Want to Have Sex With Him, but I Do

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I have been married for 5 years and my husband and I both love each other so much and believe we are soul mates/meant to be/ and do not wish to be with any other person ever.

Problem is I have sexual aversion disorder. This means I have no desire to have sex with him. I don't even ever want to kiss, cuddle, caress, basically anything that may lead to sex.  It's pretty much a form of anxiety. I hate to see nudity/sex on tv, say any sexual words (dirty talking), and never feel horny.


So for 5 years we have been having sex pretty much every day but I hate it. And he hates it because he knows I hate it. Everything else in our relationship is perfect. We are both Christians so we feel it is wrong to divorce plus we don't want to divorce because other than the sex issue, we are in love and want to be with each other forever. He has dealt with this for 5 years so he seriously does want to stay with me and I want to stay with him.

I used to just deal with it and did not care that sex sucked, but now I want to have good sex, feel passionate, basically feel like I have to have that person now and rip each others clothes off!

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