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Is the Second Time Around Better Than the First?

Over the last few weeks, we've heard of two celebrity couples possibly reconciling their separations. First it was Sean and Robin Wright Penn and now Shaquille O'Neal and his wife Shaunie, who filed for divorce back in 07, have been spotted together. While I'm a believer in second chances, when it comes to relationships, I sometimes feel that if it doesn't work out the first time, it won't the second time either. But to play devil's advocate, it worked for Christy Turlington and Ed Burns! So ladies, what's your take on breaking up and getting back together? Do you think the second time around could be better than the first?


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No. On and off relationships have too much "history", usually being negative, otherwise there's be no point to break it off. I believe all on and off relationships are doomed in the end.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
It is possible to work the second time around, but the reasons you broke up the first time need to be resolved.
tweet-hotpants tweet-hotpants 9 years
sean penn's mustache is creepy.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I've never had the urge to get back together with an ex. If you can't work it out the first time around I'm weary about the 2nd.
tomatoshirt tomatoshirt 9 years
i don't believe in second chance, but i am no sure if that still holds if i was married to the guy for a long time and have children with him... after sharing a long time together, it's tough just to get the guy out of your life...
pixie2309 pixie2309 9 years isn't.if you break up once, there's definitely a damn good reason for it.i've tried it but he didn't change and I didn't put up with it as I didn't the first time.bottom line? move on. the one and only reason I would try and work things out are children.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
If my guy cheated on me, I'm 99% positive I wouldn't give him a second chance. If we both needed to grow up, and despite the time apart, our feelings never changed or even grew, I would say it's worth it. I've broken up with my current boyfriend many times, but since this is our first real relationship, it's been a learning and growing process.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Cynnie-- I am in an identical situation! When you get together so young, it seems that it's a completely different relationship, people change and grow a lot. There are definitely "growing pains," but hey, ya never know, maybe the people you become 4 years later have a lot in common and a lot of love anyway. We haven't actually broken up, but I moved away to get some perspective, and see what it's like to be more independent for a while. I think when we move back together in a year or so it's going to be even better, I'm really excited! And I think Shaq and Shaunie are the cutest couple ever, so I hope they can work things out!
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I think if the issues that broke you up the first time are resolved ten it could work. Otherwise you're just going to end up breaking up again.
McSquish McSquish 9 years
The second time IS much better around. There are still lingering things from the past but you learn to work with them. My bf and I were together for 3 years when I broke it off. He became to complacent in life and with our relationship and at the time in my life, I needed more from him and us. He was/is my first love so yes, I made a few mistakes I wish I hadn't. It took us 8 months to get back together, but it was all on my terms (and it felt nice for him to "court" me again, feel special.) In totally, we are coming up on our 5th year together, and almost one year since we've been back together, and it's better than I ever expected it. I don't take the bullcrap I used to before and I nip things in the butt when I see it happening. We've were slowly growing apart over those three years and we are finally growing-up together and on the same page. Yep, second time around is even better, but I think it really does depend on the reason. Ours was growing up issues, if it were infidelity . ... I'm not sure I could.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
If you know what went wrong the first time than you really do have the possibility to fix things. PS. Isn't Shaq's wife just the cutest little thing?
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
what does "working" mean? maybe that you know it's screwed up but you don't want to deal with the consequences (money, kids, etc). there's a reason people decide to leave. i don't the reasons here just up and went away.
Cynnie Cynnie 9 years
See, as for my relationship, we've been together since I was 17 and he was 19, we are now 21 and 23. We were both very young and we had a lot of growing up to do, which caused us to break it off. We gave it another shot and are still together. Although, I do believe that when you've tried all you could possibly think of, then there really is no use to more chances.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I got back together with an ex once & (thankfully!) it didn't work out the second time. However, if you're married, you should try harder to make it work. I think it's great that these couples are giving it another shot.
venulia venulia 9 years
I really think it depends on where you were in your life. If you were together at a relatively young age, it's possible for both people to grow and mature. One thing I've learned personally is that timing is everything. Oftentimes, there are other circumstances in life that affect the relationship and lead to certain results, e.g. a new job in a new city. Do you break up or stay together? I think if things end amicably, there is still a chance...
missbanana missbanana 9 years
I guess it depends alot on WHY you broke up too? Sometimes its a hurdle that can be overcome but sometimes when trust is destroyed and circumstances just are too unique to ever forgive then i dont think a second chance is needed. Im a total romantic. i sometimes think of getting back with my first love..because hes my first love... and he totally wants me back.. but im smarter this time around
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
i wouldnt know
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I agree with Jude C. They are exes for a reason! :P
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
I don't get back together with exes, no matter how much they beg. I've never been able to believe that the reasons I dumped them in the first place wouldn't make me end up dumping them again.
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