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Sex Can Hurt

Sex is supposed to feel good - we can all agree on that. The thing is though, in order for a woman to get sexually aroused, she's got to be into it emotionally. She needs to feel loved and wanted, and if that's not happening, usually the woman won't get excited, and if she's not excited, her lady business won't create the natural lubrication that's so necessary for making sex feel good.

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That's the whole purpose of foreplay - you've got to warm up the car before you take it for a spin! All that kissing, touching, eye contact, and exchange of loving words arouses women so they're ready for intercourse. If a woman is dry, sex will be painful for her. Also, if you are on hormonal birth control or allergy medicine, vaginal dryness can be one of the annoying side effects.

Whatever the reason for your dryness, there's a personal lubricant out there to help. Astroglide feels very much like what your body creates naturally, but you may feel embarrassed picking up a bottle with a name like that. KY also makes a lubricant that seems less about sex, their Touch Massage 2-in-1 warming and tingling products, that can be used all over your body. Whatever you choose, you'll be happy that you did - it'll make your experience so much better if you suffer from vaginal dryness.

Dear's Advice: Some condoms contain spermicidal lubricant, but I'd steer clear of these - they can cause painful irritation for some women. Look for the condoms that contain only the lubricant without the spermicide.

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Frencher Frencher 10 years
Yeah love, it's hard to explain at first that it isn't a lack of physical attraction, but eventually they get it and like it just as much, if not more!
lovekailua lovekailua 10 years
yes thank you frencher! i am on the pill too and it sure isnt like it was before...sometimes i feel bad about it (6 year relationship so he has seen me in all stages) but we just started buying these and so far so good! at first he was like - "you shouldnt have to use those!" ugh some men just dont get it!
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Pinup, I want to know where to get Pink! Frencher, thanks for the tips, we were having problems during water play! ;) Where can I get the Wet Platinum?
Frencher Frencher 10 years
Pinup, it actually reduces the risk of infection??? Do tell, where do you find it??? Vitamin E is also a libido heightener, hehehe ;) I make my fiance take one Vitamin E pill each day ;) Rubialala, KY Warming is fantastic if you want to avoid that chilly breeze feeling! Also, if you're using a waterbased lube be careful of how much water is in it, that can be the reason for the cold, the more water the colder it feels. Silicone based can be great too, the one I mentioned in my first post is fantastic, it actually reactivates up to 8 hours later and it works in the water, which it's important to note that our bodies (everyone) stops producing self lubricating liquids in water, silicone-based lubes are great for water play, as they do not break down as quickly as waterbased, shower time is fun again!
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
p.s Plus it helps when you want a 'quickie'...hee hee
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
If anyone wants a good lube I use 'Pink'. It is fantastic! It comes in a beautiful clear glass 'perfume' looking container. It has aloe and vitamin E. I was afraid I would be allergic, but it actually reduces the risk for infection. I love it!!
nicachica nicachica 10 years
sorry, didn't mean to put anyone down! i'm on the pill and that hasn't been a side effect with me but everyone has different reactions.
jenybugs jenybugs 10 years
thank you frencher. well said
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Thank you, Frencher! And your last comment is great about you're getting so much your body can't keep up! ;) I'm on the pill AND I take allergy medicine, double whammy for me. Also, things change down there after having kids. We use the Astroglide when we need it and it's great!!! Tip: It can be cold, brrr, not a good feeling, so we pop it in the microwave for a few seconds and ahhhhhhhhh, it feels so good.
Frencher Frencher 10 years
Oh Ladies, let's not make those of us who are on the pill feel like freaks because we have a side effect, i.e. dryness. As a consultant for a sensual products/aids distributing company, I have to point out that a little lube goes a long way, even for all of you amazing women out there who can get wet with a wink, please! Let's not be prudish, there are a ton of products out there that are amazing and add just the right amount of spice to every intimate moment, who doesn't want a more intense orgasm??? "Wet Platinum" is by far the best of the best!!! No one should ever be ashamed to purchase a lubricant, that means you're getting some, so much that your body can't keep up, it's not a bad thing!!!
fab4 fab4 10 years
I'm with Princess Rebecca and nica. I fortunatley don't need this....but thanks for the info! lol
nicachica nicachica 10 years
lol...sorry Dear, don't need this! ;) but i do love the reference to "her lady business"!
Princess-Rebecca Princess-Rebecca 10 years
Thank god I dont need this :p
Jennifer_2sugar Jennifer_2sugar 10 years
:SICK: this is me after reading this
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