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Sex Myth: Pull and Pray Works if the Guy Has Control

I'm with you; there really is no perfect form of birth control. Either you have to deal with taking hormones that affect your mood and decrease your sex drive, or you have to use condoms, which can make sex less enjoyable. You can also chart your cycle, but one little mistake and you can end up with an unplanned pregnancy.

Then there's the pull and pray method. While having unprotected sex, the guy pulls out and ejaculates outside the woman's body. No sperm inside means no baby, right? Perhaps, if not for one teeny detail. To find out what it is,


Pre-cum, or pre-ejaculate as it's also called, is the one thing many couples forget about. This is the bit of fluid that releases from the man's penis before he ejaculates, and yes, it can contain sperm, and it only takes one little swimmer to reach a woman's egg in order to get her pregnant. The bottom line is this: if being a mom isn't on your current to-do list, do not rely on the pull and pray method, even if your guy can control his member's actions. Remember that he has no control over the release of pre-cum, so take the time to find a more reliable form of birth control that works for you.


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tayrose tayrose 7 years
I have definitely used the "pull and pray" method. It's always worked for me. I guess I'm just a lucky one. I agree, its not the best thing, but its better than having a guy blow inside you.
the pre - cum and pre - ejaculation happens if there is sperm left on him. If he goes to the bathroom and cleans it out before sex it should be better. But if you dont want to get pregnant you use every precaution out there.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Me and my boyfriend have both been tested. I have been tested with every guy I have used this with. I have been using it for about 8 years now. I was on depo provera for about 4 of those years though. My doctor is pretty certain I won't be able to have kids (due to the depo) so now we just figure if a baby does happen then it would be a (happy) miracle. We're old enough to deal with the consequences and know we are both STD free.
Simone-Grant Simone-Grant 8 years
I can't believe, really can't believe, that I just read through all of those comments and unless I missed something everyone was just glossing over the fact that they had more to worry about than getting pregnant. The STI rates in this country are scary, especially for women in this website's target demographic. You are all risking way more than pregnancy here, way more. If you're too ignorant, lazy or arrogant to face that fact than I kind of feel sorry for you.
runningesq runningesq 8 years
Who the eff is stupid enough to use this as a 'birth control method' these days? Condoms (male and female), the pill, the ring, the patch, etc. etc. There is no reason to have unprotected sex.
itsme3683 itsme3683 8 years
This happened to me once when I was on a break from my birth control and we got a little caught up in the moment and didn't have a condom. He did end up pulling out in time but I was still so freaked out that I dropped the $50 on Plan B the next day.
thepradaprincess thepradaprincess 8 years
Seriously if your having sex and worrying about being pregant wouldn't you be on birth control anyway? I started taking birth control wayyyyy before I started having sex and guess what? I've never had to worry.
ella1978 ella1978 8 years
I'm one of those paranoid girls too. I've been on the birth control pill for 5 or 6 years now. He still pulls out. I'm just not comfortable with the alternative. When we are married and I'm okay with there being an "accident", I'll have him stop doing it.. but he's okay with it. He knows it's either that or a condom!
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
My boyfriend and I have been using this method, combined with the pill, for 5 years with no baby to show for it! :o)
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
We use this method all the time (I know it's not guaranteed) but so far we have been lucky and I don't stress over whether or not my period will come. The stress of waiting will sometimes cause a delay. We are getting married this year and ready for kids so if it happens then it happens.
Melo-D Melo-D 8 years
I must say that I only used this method with one guy... for 3 out of the 5 years we slept together. Since we usually started with him behind me, I thought he had a condom on and low and behold... he didn't. After yelling at him, he told me he doesn't pre-ejaculate. That didn't help. Lol. I was really upset. Well, he wore me down and I trusted him and we only slipped once and I immediately got Plan B. Other than that, we were good. If I requested that he use a condom, he was good about that. But yeah, I got hooked on how it felt without a condom. Lol. No excuses. I definitely don't recommend it. I know plenty of people who have gotten pregnant on the withdraw method. Somehow God gave me mercy and grace on that situation. I'm just glad that part of my life is over now that I'm abstinent. I had my fun. Now it's time to be serious.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
Oh gosh. This is why we need comprehensive sex education in this country. Lotsa dumba$$es do then think. Someone please help them.
meeshee meeshee 8 years
i hate it when my friends do this b/c i constantly warn them that this method CAN get you pregnant!!! good for those who didn't, but there is the chance that you can get pregnant.. better to be safe than sorry!!!!!!!
CYL CYL 8 years
I mean figure out which way is the right way before your put it on or throw it out and get a new one if its the 'wrong way'. And yes..I find the pull out method incredibly stupid...not only could you get pregnant you could get STIs ....with unprotected sex...
CYL CYL 8 years
eh crayolasky....if a guy is in you before he has a condom he can still get you pregant..the pre cum is still there..he doesn't acutally know when it happens. A lot of time with my bf pre cum occurs way way before he is even close to if you want other condom to be effective you should have him put it on before he is inside you. And the trampoline thing when he puts it on...wrong way so flips it back. What do you think is now on the outside tip of the condom? Pre-CUM
jessie jessie 8 years
we did this for a few years after first getting married. never got pregnant. thank heavens! def not a foolproof method though for anyone reading thinking it is!!!!!
crayolasky crayolasky 8 years
I would only do this if I was on the pill and I'm currently not. Even then, I am paranoid though. Pulling out and using a condom (every time) is effective though.. right? Can someone clarify this for me? Haha. I do need to get on the pill but I am waiting for a time when I actually feel I need to be on it..
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I'm utterly humiliated to admit that I used this method once upon a time. No, I didn't get pregnant, but unlike my own parents, I'm going to actually give my kids a sex talk and impress upon them that they cannot rely on something like this. It's very shameful that I did.
littleblonde littleblonde 8 years
i agree with leb357, it's better than nothing at all.
WeTheLiving WeTheLiving 8 years
Seriously, I don't get the people who are doing this on a regular basis. It's just so incredibly stupid! There are so many birth control options available (the pill, patch, nuvaring, condoms, etc), how can you not use them? Is it really worth the risk of getting pregnant and having to deal with the financial and emotional repercussions of that (dropping out of-or if you're lucky changing or cutting back on- school, paying for childcare, child support, working out custody if you split, and so on). People just don't think. My sister's friend had to move back home and go to jr college (she got pregnant her 1st semester of college). She's very fortunate though that her mother doesn't work, so she has free childcare, cuz daycare is crazy expensive and she'd probably have to quit school to pay for daycare. She's also lucky that the baby's father is involved and helps financially- he did have to drop out of school and works at Office Max. And by the way, she took the morning after and still got pregnant (I think the effectiveness is only about 80%). graylen, I agree that it would be incredibly stressful waiting for your period each month- so not worth it.
graylen graylen 8 years
I think if I used this method then waiting to see if my period came every month would be over-the-top stressful. I'd prefer to use a more effective method.
Myst Myst 8 years
I did a couple of time with my boyfriend. We're in a really LDR (Me in the US, him in Japan). So whenever we go to visit each other, we've lost control a couple of times. But I'm on birth control and he normally use condoms. Neither one of us are ready to be parents so we're not taking any chances :D
dollhouse1 dollhouse1 8 years
but then again that was with my past bf. thinking bout getting on a birth control though.... in the near future!
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