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Sex Myths From the Movies

Use TV and Movies For Bedroom Inspiration, Not Instruction

"It's great to watch a steamy sex scene for entertainment and even inspiration," explains sexologist Dr. Ian Kerner, "but it’s important to keep it in perspective."  The author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman tells me that couples should set reasonable goals.

"My wife and I laugh when we watch shows where married folks are constantly getting it on," he says. "Real-life couples don't act that way." He suggests instead of attempting sex seven days a week like they might on TV, shoot for two or three times. Great. More time to watch TV!

Other obvious sex realities that Dr. Kerner says movies and TV seem to ignore:

  • In real life, sex isn’t a passionate quickie that lasts for 30 seconds and ends with simultaneous orgasms.
  • In real life, people wake up with morning breath.
  • In real life, people like to clean up a bit after sex.
  • In real life, men don’t always cuddle.
  • In real life, people don’t walk through the door and have sex before taking off their Winter coats.
  • In real life people don’t have sex on the first date and necessarily fall in love. Only 1.4 percent of married couples had sex within two days of knowing each other.

Any more to add? Check out what other advice Dr. Kerner has to offer.

Join The Conversation
Aquadave Aquadave 6 years
Whatever! You can Learn alot from movies. I did! and every one of the real life comments should be broke sometimes lets go one at a time I've never seen a sex seen last 30sec though it does happen in real life If you brush at night morning isn't a prob most of the time, and get down nasty sex not a lot of passionate kissing going on anyways at least in the movies. You should get nasty every now and then If you screw a man's brains out he has no choice but to cuddle cause he can't move Guess she' never heard of a nooner I've lost girls cause I wanted to wait. A woman knows if she wants to have sex within 5 min of meeting
et-moi et-moi 6 years
wow, I think I've countered all of these "rules". . .
Pistil Pistil 6 years
In real life, you're not acting. I hope.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
my god, hopefully morning breath doesn't keep you from having sex. if it bothers you that much don't kiss. i don't like these types of "rules". they remind me of those "real women dont..." lists from days gone by. every couple is different.
amber512 amber512 6 years
Mine too!
wolfpackgal wolfpackgal 6 years
My man always cuddles :)
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