For whatever reason, your sex life isn't doing it for you. Maybe it started out amazing, but it's lost its pizazz. Maybe you're upset because you used to do it several times a day and now you're lucky to get to it once a month. Maybe you want to deepen your intimacy level, but you're not sure how. Whatever the reason, sex therapy can help.
If you've contemplated making an appointment, but are nervous about what may happen, here's a little bit of what you can expect.
- When you and your partner begin to see a therapist, they'll probably want to see you for 50-60 minute sessions, once every week. This consistency will help to develop a closer relationship with your therapist.
- The therapist wants to help you, but in order to do that she will have to ask you a lot of questions, many of which will be personal and/or embarrassing. Nonetheless, it's important that you and your partner are both open and honest so the therapist can get to know you and your situation.
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- The therapist should strive to offer a sensitive and safe environment for you to talk about your feelings and experiences. She should not push you to talk about issues you aren't ready or willing to discuss.
- There may be homework involved. The therapist may make suggestions of things to try out with your partner, some of which may focus more on intimacy rather than intercourse or reaching orgasm. She'll probably ask you to discuss your feelings about what you experienced in the next session.
- The sex therapist may serve as a sex educator, offering you info or materials to read so you can learn more about sexuality or sexual issues.
- The therapist will also help you deal with other stresses in your life that may be contributing to your unsatisfying sex life.
- If you are concerned about a physical problem that may be preventing you from sexual satisfaction, the therapist may recommend you see your doctor and get some tests or an examination.
- The therapist wants to help you get more comfortable with talking about sex, so they'll do a lot of listening. They will also teach you ways to communicate your sexual feelings and needs to your partner.
If any of you have seen a sex therapist before, please share your experiences in the comment section below.