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Sunday Confessional: I'm in a Sexless Marriage

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I've been married to my husband for seven years and in the last five months we haven't had sex once. We've been dealing with stress financially. He lost his job for a while, but he's employed now. I don't feel like doing it, but I feel like I should be doing it.

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Bubbles12 Bubbles12 5 years
My husband and I schedule one night a week that is non-negotiable and we make sure it happens. Every other night is gravy. Having the schedule takes a lot of pressure off the seductive dance, and even when our lives are most chaotic we make that really important connection (unless someone is sick, headaches don't count :) Sex is incredibly important, especially for a man's self-esteem.
Harley-Quinn Harley-Quinn 5 years
I am married and have experience the same thing. Each time I made an effort to cuddle, snuggle and touch through out our day. Don't stress about the sex, stress about basic intimacy. The kiss here. The cuddle there. This is a great idea especially if there is a lot of stress or hardship in your mutual life. The hot nights will follow after you re-connected and when you are both ready.
stu999 stu999 5 years
It's the small things that create the path to tenderness both ways. Once that is the motive to just be great friends, care for each other more than anyone else - the rest will follow I am sure.
mrfeelgood mrfeelgood 5 years
How about giving him a massage.
karlotta karlotta 5 years
After a long break, it's sometimes hard to get back into the swing of things - you get embarrassed and it's difficult to light up the engine. How about starting with re-creating some intimacy, without any pressure for actual sex? Like massages or back-scratching , or simple make-out sessions? Make it a game - honey, tonight we kiss until we our mouths are raw. If it's funny the first minute, I'm sure you'll turn out delighted and giggly, and who knows - maybe incredibly turned on. But don't make that the goal; simply reconnecting on a physical level without obligation, lightheartedly.
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