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Sexy Abstinence Shirts — Love It or Leave It?

Abstinence-only advocates have finally come to the realization that sex sells, so they've decided to make their message more sexy. The Candie's Foundation, a group on a mission to educate America's youth about the devastating consequences of teenage pregnancy, teamed up with Seventeen magazine to come up with a new slogan for t-shirts that promote abstinence. The winning slogan — "I'm sexy enough to keep you waiting" — has been printed on a tight-fitting tank top and put on sale for $15. Part of me feels like this shirt is counterproductive because it very publicly sexualizes the girl wearing it, but then again it might make teens more comfortable with the idea of holding off on sex.

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NurseKimberly NurseKimberly 7 years
dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
Yes, but how long does she keep him waiting? Two weeks?
cotedazur cotedazur 7 years
What does being sexy or not have to do with someone's decision to be abstinent? Also, why the hell would you wear your sexual decisions on a tshirt? Your clothing shouldn't broadcast to the world whether or not you're having sex. Also, I feel as though the whole abstinence movement is confusing. Like spacekat said, teens that take virginity pledges are more likely to have oral and anal sex... I don't understand the huge importance placed on vaginal sex. I had a friend in college that was VERY vocal about waiting till marriage, but did some porn-star-esque kinky things while avoiding penetration. Isn't that counterproductive?
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
cute as a sleep shirt. like a reminder to yourself, lol.
ECULeah ECULeah 7 years
I'm with sham28, its kinda of gross.
polkadots567 polkadots567 7 years
i think abstinance is great, but i am so sick of hearing about it 24/7
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 7 years
Leave it - I feel like we should be teaching young ladies to have the confidence to tell the person that they might want to eventually have sex w. face to face that they are waiting for marriage or just waiting until they feel they are ready in general. Girls shouldn't need T-shirts blasting their decisions one way or another. That's personal and I would love for it to remain to be so by instead advocating women to have the confidence to be honest w. a loved partner.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 7 years
There is no woman in the world graceful enough to wear a shirt with the word "sexy" on it and not seem incredibly conceited. I support the sentiment, but this is not a good way to go.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
Very interesting. It doesn't actually offend me though.
Beauty Beauty 7 years
I agree, personal decision. I also think that this shirt exemplifies the way sexuality is presented to teenage girls: Be sexy, be "hot," but OMG DON'T HAVE SEX! Instead of their sexuality being something to explore at an appropriate age, and instead of it being something that comes from the inside out, this tank sends the message that you should LOOK sexy and that you should want to be desired, but actually being sexual is bad, bad, bad. Talk about mixed messages.
dani17731 dani17731 7 years
LMAO @ sham28. I don't want anybody thinking about my hymen lol. But it seems to me like our culture these days looks down on those who chose to remain abstinent, for whatever reason whether it be religious, to prevent unwanted pregnancy, etc. There's this whole "I can have sex if I want" attitude, which is perfectly fine and true, but if I chose not to have sex, don't look down on me. And I find it funny how much the attitude has shifted over the years, when it used to be the reverse. Can we just all agree that it's a personal decision and nobody else's business (unless you wear this shirt of course)?
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 7 years
As someone who works with teenagers, I can definitely see the concept behind these shirts helping some people feel more comfortable with holding off on sex. Whether everyone wants to hear about it or not, the fact is that teenagers do talk about whether or not they are having sex. Vulgar and unnecessary, maybe, but also a reality of teen culture. Those who are not having sex are often made to feel like losers by their peers who are doing it, and I think that this shirt attempts to remind the world that abstinence does not have to equal prude because there are many reasons for abstaining. So while I can understand why many people would consider the style of the shirts counterintuitive, I think that's kind of the point. The purpose of the shirts is to change our opinions of what abstinence looks like. While it may be preferable to do this without sexualizing the person wearing the shirt, the fact is that teen culture is highly sexualized and the style of these shirts is targeted at that audience.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm with Natalie Love.
sham28 sham28 7 years
I don't want to look at a stranger and think "she still has her hymen."
sham28 sham28 7 years
Abstinence is super, the shirt is stupid.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 7 years
So lame and badly done. How about not wearing the shirt and still not having sex..
Angela123 Angela123 7 years
ditto to TammyO, comment # 1.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 7 years
I think the decision to have or not have sex is so personal for a girl, only for her and her partner to know, and noone else's buisness. I think telling the world intimate details about weather you've done it, or not going to, is pretty vulgar and unnecessary.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Well put, spacekat. I'm not an abstinence kind of girl (for myself personally), but I understand why some people would want to wait. I guess I just find it odd to publicly declare your decision to have sex or not to have sex. (Not you, spacekat, since this is a forum about abstinence, but in the case of the people who would wear this shirt.)
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I'm completely with TammyO on this one, both presumptuous and counterintuitive.
c4rolin3 c4rolin3 7 years
this logo implies that it's a game... like stringing a guy along. not that people are abstinent because sex is meaningful and important to them..... completely a mixed message. and makes such a good thing about keeping your virginity seem cheap - which is the whole thing being abstinent is meant to avoid?!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
TammyO TammyO 7 years
And of course this is all assuming that everyone you encounter while wearing this shirt automatically wants to have sex with you. Very presumptuous.
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