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This or That: Short or Toothless?

Welcome back to DearSugar's newest feature, This or That, where I give you two scenarios to choose between. They aren't easy choices. Sometimes you'll want both and sometimes you want neither, but you'll have to choose — this or that.

Your friends warned you about meeting people online, but you couldn't help falling for a guy you met on a singles posting. He's smart, funny, incredibly sweet, and looking to settle down just like you are.

You've been taking things slow, just chatting over instant messenger, but you both realize this could be something special so you decide to meet and put a face to a name. When you answer his knock at the door, you're surprised to say the least! Would it be worse if he . . .

Stands at five foot four? You happen to be wearing your tallest heels — yikes — but even if you weren't, you'd still be taller than him.

Or . . .

Gives you a big toothless grin? Not only is he desperately in need of some serious braces, but he's also missing a very visible tooth.


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pixelsugar pixelsugar 9 years
I love how these things are so ridiculous, but they matter to me! ...What's that say about me as a person? Yikes! I went with short, teeth are a big thing for me.
RoyalBlueMoss RoyalBlueMoss 9 years
I actually prefer shorter men. I'm 5'9 and my boyfriend is too. Most of my boyfriends have been shorter than me. I like men to be average height or short and ultra skinny.
Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
Short over toothless. My boyfriend is two inches taller than me, if that. It never bothered me. Makes kisses easier. :D
emalove emalove 9 years
5'4" is little for a guy, but then again, I'm about 5'4" as well, so I could probably deal with this. If I was taller, it would bother me. Pretty sure I couldn't deal with the toothless thing though...
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Bad teeth can be a turn off, though.
Alice-Green Alice-Green 9 years
If your a short man, you cant change it. You've learned to live with it and it has prolly shaped who you are. Makes for an interesting person. But if you damage your teeth and don't fix it, then its a clear sign that you don't care about your appearance, or that you need to get the economy to go fix it. If you don't have the economy to go to the dentist, what's your career goals in life? I'm about 6'1" with heals, about 6" tall with flats and I gotta say, I would pick the short guy.
Advah Advah 9 years
Hah I'm 4'11, so 'short' would still be pretty tall for me. :P
robins robins 9 years
My best friend was telling me the other day that she saw these cute guy from across the road and they stared at each other... so as he was coming over to inroduce himself to her he flashed her a big smile and she saw that 4 of his front teeth were missing so she turned around and walked away from him... i don't know but i felt so bad for him...
robins robins 9 years
i like tall guys with a nice smile so this is a bit difficult...but if i really had to choose i'd choose the short guy
fadedblue fadedblue 9 years
well i chose short b/c i'm assuming that i don't have a choice in changing the things we're choosing between. otherwise, what's the point =)? anyway, i would much rather have a guy who's short than a guy with no teeth. it would be a bit disturbing and distracting to say the least =).
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 9 years
I am 5'7" and just cannot do short, teeth can easily be fixed.
LadyP LadyP 9 years
I'm 5'2", so 5'4" isn't awful!
GoneZaggyGirl GoneZaggyGirl 9 years
Props to candy apple and atablackbelt... I ended up having to get dental implants for my bottom two front teeth and was without anything down there for two months and then had to walk around with two steel posts sticking up from my jaw for the next six weeks. The looks you get are heartbreaking, even though I was missing teeth because I was either healing or between surgeries. Picture someone smiling at you normally and then watching their face drop as you forget about your dental work and smile back... People just assume you are a hillbilly or trash or disgusting, and click "This" instead of "That"--lots of people don't take the time to think about what might have happened instead.
atablackbelt atablackbelt 9 years
I am surprised at the amount of people that just assume that a missing tooth is a sign of bad dental hygiene. My current boyfriend had all of his teeth when I met him, and recently had one of his front teeth knocked out playing basketball, it was already cracked from an incident when playing football years earlier, and it actually broke off in his mouth. He is really sensitive about having a missing tooth, but he does not have the nearly $2000 to have it fixed, and that is with insurance. So he just deals with it, but it is amazing the number of people that meet him and assume that he is dirty or gross because he has a missing tooth! I have actually had people question me about what I see in him, and they don't even know him....and when I ask why they ask, they go "well he is missing teeth!" So What! That being said I would choose someone missing a tooth, because you can always have it replaced.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
oh i wanted to say i agree with whoever said hockey players. they are my one exception to the missing teeth rule
QueenofHearts QueenofHearts 9 years
I agree with everyone who says that you can fix the toothless thing but not height.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
oh man bad teeth are def. a dealbreaker. when i was 16 i dated casually for a few weeks a guy with a missing front tooth. he was cute until he smiled and a nice guy. but i couldnt get over the tooth thing. i know call me shallow but.
AlyCat82 AlyCat82 9 years
I'd take both. I'm 5'10" in flats, so that's a big statement. I've dated many a tall and toothy fool. Give me someone with some good sense, who loves God and his mama, and who has a good sense of humor, and I will look over (a few) physical flaws. Besides, I'm not perfect. I don't expect anyone else to be either. If he's short, I can wear flats. Shoot, I can walk on my knees, lol. If he needs some dental work, I can hook him up with my wonderful dentist. If he's a good man, I would at least try to make it work.
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
Short. I dated a guy who was 5'4" once and I'm 5'6". I didn't mind. I dated a guy that was 6'5" once and it was way more awkward than dating the shorter guy. He was just too tall :-p
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Call me superficial, but either is a deal-breaker. Sorry.
Jennifer777 Jennifer777 9 years
Teeth can be fixed.
JennaV JennaV 9 years
I agree with the others that say teeth can be fixed. I am short myself (5'3) but I prefer my mens to be at least 6'.
julieulie julieulie 9 years
I'd have to find out why he had the tooth problem. Bad dental hygiene? Turn off. Hockey player with a missing tooth? Turn on, haha.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
Teeth are fixable....height is not!
sarasonne sarasonne 9 years
Short can not be fixed. Teeth can.
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