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Should We Break Up Before We Start College?

Dear Sugar
I've been in a long term relationship with my high school boyfriend of two years and we're both getting ready to head off to college in the fall. I've heard all about how college is your time to grow and have fun and learn more about yourself.

Is it a bad idea to keep a long distance relationship in college? And more importantly, if it doesn't work out, how could we go about staying in touch throughout college in case we both realize after we graduate that we want to be together? Hopeful Hallie

Dear Hopeful Hallie
Every situation is different. I can't blame you for not wanting to throw your relationship away if you think it's got real potential, but at the same time, college is such an amazing experience and you don't want to hold yourself back from growing and meeting new people.

I would make some kind of agreement with each other to stay together the best that you can. And yes, it is possible. It will just take some discipline. You can't be all up in each other's grill about your night out the night before. If you can tolerate not being too too nosy and jealous then you definitely stand a chance.

If your love is really meant to be, you will withstand the next four years and eventually come back to each other once you are through with school. I am not saying that it will be easy, but it is totally possible.

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