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Should You Give a Guy Your Number or Get His?

Get His Phone Number or Give Yours?

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Just a quick single-lady etiquette question: do you prefer when someone asks for your number, or do you think it's more polite for them to offer their number? When someone asks me for mine, honestly it comes off as a little overbearing . . . does anyone else feel the same way?

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years
Why is it so difficult? If he asks and you're not interested tell him no you can't have it sorry. If your interested and he wants your number then give it to him. J'sus.
paupow paupow 7 years
As a former serial dater turned Relationship/Dating Coach, I think it's important to note that the only wrong answer to this is doing what doesn't fit YOUR personality. Consider this: however you begin ANY relationship sets the tone for the whole thing, so make sure whichever you choose would fit what sort of relationship you are looking for in the long run. When I was single, I would either give my number, or decline any contact if I wasn't interested. While it may seem polite to take the guy's number if you know you're not gonna call him, it's quite the opposite. He waits and waits (anyone know how that feels?) and then becomes discouraged to ask or approach anymore or forms the opinion that "women play games". It's much kinder and honestly, loving to "set him free" with a simple, "I'm not interested, but thanks!".
eccentricgal eccentricgal 7 years
I read the heading for this post, and I knew I was meant to see this. Now the added question is what if time was a concern? and how about location? I work at a certain retail store that does not give me, as a seasonal worker, a lot of shifts. There is also another seasonal there who is incredible cute and so sweet. I've only worked three times there in the past month. I've had convos with him and although they were not long, but i find him great to talk to. Summer coming to an end, and i have no idea if i will get more shifts. I've asked guys for phone numbers before, but this is a little different becuase a) i dont see him often and b) he works with me. Okay, so ask him for his phone number? yes or no?
Sundaydrive Sundaydrive 7 years
I'm with Sundown. That's how it always seems to work these days, or at least that's how it was a few years ago when I was single. Everyone has a cell phone so whoever gives the number gets the other number texted to their phone. Although I still always liked the guy to be the one to call.
Sundown321 Sundown321 7 years
I would rather him take mine. With every one having a cell phone, most of the time it's an even exchange... The guy puts your number in his phone and calls you from his phone. Makes it easy, gives either person the option to call, and you know who's calling!
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I give mine if a guy I'm interested in asks for it. If I'm not interested, I have no problem being blunt. I just say I'm not interested, but thanks for the flattery.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Back when I was dating and available (which was many, many moons ago), I would never give out my phone number. I would ask for his BUSINESS CARD instead. If I was interested in him, I would drop him a note via e-mail, and see how it goes from there. If the man asks for my number, I would coyly say (with a smile),"I don't give out my number. Do you have a business card?" It worked for me. :)
skigurl skigurl 7 years
If I never wanted to talk to him again, I'd take his. But if I wanted to get together, I'd give him mine and put the ball in his court. I would never take a guy's number and actually get the balls to call (or be motivated enough to call) so I'd definitely give mine.
GregS GregS 7 years
Being a guy, I would give you mine. That way there'd be no pressure on you to call me from me and there'd be no way for me to pester you. And, If I made a sufficiently good impression on you, I'd be pretty confident that you'll call me. Also as a guy I can't tell you the number of bad phone numbers I've received from women, so I'm reluctant to take a phone number.
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