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Signs a Man Will Be Good in Bed

4 Signs a Man Will Put a Woman First in Bed

"Chivalry isn’t dead, it’s just asleep," explains Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. In an interview, he told me that while it's hard to guess how a man will perform, those who still practice chivalrous behavior will likely put women first inside the bedroom, too.

"Guys who open doors or push in chairs are communicating their feelings about you as a top priority," he says, "and as long as the date goes well, the benefits may translate between the sheets." In addition to overall politeness and respect, here are four good signs to look out for, according to Dr. Kerner:

  1. He enjoys physical intimacy outside of the bedroom, like hugging, kissing, cuddling.
  2. He takes time to listen to you during conversations and has a real interest in your life and
    what’s going on with you.
  3. He can stop what he’s doing to make time for you.
  4. He takes the time to do things for you: create playlists, pick out the perfect sexy lingerie,
    recommend books, etc.

Does your experience match up?

Stay tuned for more tips from Dr. Kerner, who will be providing his insight just in time for Valentine's Day!

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Ac2366 Ac2366 6 years
In my experience some guys do all that stuff just to get you in bed. It has no reflection on the type of lover they are. It just shows how much they are willing to work to get laid.
tjfranco tjfranco 6 years
I'd have to disagree with the above speculations- slightly. I once dated a guy who enjoyed the physical intimacy like hugging, kissing and cuddling, would stop what he was doing to make time for me and did the whole playlist get- up and recommending of books but was a selfish lover in bed. His needs always trumped mine. He was only as attentive as it took to get his own pleasures met. My current bf however is PDA shy, not much of a hugging/cuddling type but is the most sensual lover ever. He always puts my needs first and really takes care that I'm satisfied as a top priority. I don't think you can just narrow it down to a "specific" feature or signs. Perhaps different guys have different styles?
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