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My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago on good terms. Our relationship was falling apart, and we decided to go separate ways. Well recently we have been talking to one another again, we've been seeking each other out, and to me it really just seems like we needed a break from one another. I admit that I do still love him but I'm not going psycho trying to get him back. If it happens, it happens.
My question is if there is a way to physically tell if he's been having sex with someone else? It doesn't really bother me, but I am curious to know. And as my own personal quirk, I have always felt that if I am getting intimate with someone, I do deserve to know if they're sleeping with a bunch of people because it does put my own health in jeopardy. I always like to know what I'm going up against. But this is all beside the point.
We have had sex twice since our breakup. I noticed during the first time, he really wasn't able to maintain a full hard on. It felt a little weak and almost as if he was trying to force it to stay up. I honestly took it as if he was just nervous because there was still a lot of tension between us. The second time we had sex, he was able to maintain a very good hard on and he was able to last for a long time. I know his body, I was with him for two years. And I know that if he hasn't had sex in awhile, he cums in about five minutes.
Are these physical signs that he is having sex with other people?