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This or That: Not So Clean or Perfectly Pristine?

When the guy you've been dating asks you over to his apartment for a romantic meal, you're extremely excited; it finally seems like things are getting serious. You're very curious to see where he lives and get more insight into his life, since right now he seems to good to be true. The moment he opens the door to his apartment, you're totally overcome by what you see. Would if be worse if . . .

This: Everything from the ceilings to the floors is a total disaster? It's not so much that it's dirty; it's just that there are things everywhere you look. You don't want to set your purse down for fear of losing it.

Or . . .

That: His apartment is so perfectly clean that you're not sure how he can actually live in it? It's beautifully decorated, but you can't get comfortable. When you accidentally spill an appetizer on the floor, you can actually see him tense up as he ferociously cleans.


MissMeow MissMeow 9 years
Too clean would be worse for me. I can always help a guy change his cleaning habits, but if a guy was obsessively clean, I could never have days where I just feel like throwing my clothes on the floor and picking them up in the morning. As long as theres no dishes in the sink growing penicillin, I'm good.
geebers geebers 9 years
As a person who is anal-retentive herself- will have to prefer a guy as equally bad as me. My mother is the only person who surpasses me in cleanliness (that I know of) so meeting a guy that way would be a match made in heaven. My BF now is really clean and OCD but definitely not anal so it is a match made in heaven!
looseseal looseseal 9 years
Oh, and I just want to add: don't think a guy who leaves piles of messes around can't be anal. Maybe you wouldn't be allowed to disturb the piles because he has a certain "system" that only makes sense to him.
looseseal looseseal 9 years
I'd rather be bitched at for being messier than he is than have a future of cleaning after someone else. I hate cleaning that much. It's weird, right? I appreciate cleanliness but I don't like to clean. I wouldn't mind putting in at least a little effort like using coasters, putting my own stuff away, and taking some care not to mess stuff up in general. But having to do the heavy-duty cleaning after some guy's sloppy ass? Forget it! Never gonna happen. Of course, the perfect ideal would be a guy who loves to clean without complaint! There is nothing sexier than that in this world.
Meike Meike 9 years
Clutter is okay. Mold is not. And, anal-retentive, forget about it.
emalove emalove 9 years
I'll take pristine, please! I'd feel MUCH more comfortable in a home that was pristine and super-neat than one that was a dump. I couldn't get comfortable in a place like that. Clutter makes me CRAZY. I keep a very neat home myself...neater than most people that I know. I know I have weird quirks and I drive my husband crazy with my constant cleaning. I know I get this from my parents...they are the same way, and I grew up in a house where everything had to be put away and it was never messy. I like order and neatness. No mess and clutter for this girl.
Sporky Sporky 9 years
A super-clean, spotless apartment would remind me a bit of American Psycho. So I'd prefer a little mess. But not a pigsty!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I couldn't do dirty. If he's a neat freak than at least I know what to expect and can up my game too. I'm not neat by any means but I'd rather have a mate that is so it makes me stay cleaner too.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I'd rather it be clean. I'm OCD myself.
legallyblonde legallyblonde 9 years
I would rather it be clean. Who knows, maybe he took extra care and time to clean it for the dinner, but after that night he might revert to a little bit of a messier style! I would find a really messy place to be a huge turn-off when going to his house for the first time!
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
I think I'd rather see a mess. I dated an overly clean, house is like a museum guy once. I found it really uncomfortable to be in his house he was sooo obsessive and controlling. I broke up with him because I kept thinking about the husband in that movie "Sleeping with the enemy". I could see see the veins in his neck starting to throb if I ever forgot a coaster or put something back in the wrong place.
Lambsauce Lambsauce 9 years
Yeah, haha, I always vote wrong on these too!! It is worded very strangely. In every other "this or that" you have to pick which you'd rather have... But anyway, I would definitely prefer messy over clean, so long as messy was not dirty. I am a pretty messy person myself, so I'd never be able to stand someone so deathly clean! (And he wouldn't be able to stand me!)
darkangel2305 darkangel2305 9 years
I'm super messy myself, except when around someone messier - that for some reason makes me be more organized. I would be soooo intimidated by an uber clean guy. That would mean that if we ever lived together, he would be like a drill sergeant bitching about my mess. Actually when I met my bf, he hinted he was super clean. It freaked me out for days, then I finally saw his apartment and within weeks noticed that he wasn’t really that clean at all. We now live together and I love being the more-organized one. I rather complain to him about clothes on the floor than if the role was reserved. My mom is SUPER neat and I spent my younger years getting yelled at for not being as naturally clean, neat, and domestic as her... He appreciates how nice I keep the house and loves my domestic ways exactly how they are so we are all happy...
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
I like when guys know how to clean up after themselves. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has one of the messiest living spaces I've ever seen. I feel bad for his cats instead of him for the amount of dust and cat hair that is lying around.
K-is-For-Kait K-is-For-Kait 9 years
I'd much rather be with someone who is messy than someone who is obsessively clean. Sometimes I just like to throw my sweaters over chairs and kick back without being bothered.
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
I'd definitely rather have a messy guy than a neat freak. I couldn't stand to live with a neat freak. I'm a little messy myself, so. I'd feel horrible when he came over to my apartment if he was anal retentive about cleanliness.
marcella marcella 9 years
bigestivediscuit -- you made me laugh! i think it's really weird the way these polls are worded as well. i think i've voted for the wrong one every time. dearsugar, maybe you should simply say -- which is better? it is very confusing as is. in every other poll, you vote for the thing you want or choose. this is the only poll where you vote for the thing you don't want. it's a weird double negative situtation for me that causes my brain to short out. i am glad to hear that i am not the only one, i was beginning to feel stupid!!
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
I'm a messy person so an AR-style spic'n'span place would be probably be a red flag for incompatibility.
cleegiants cleegiants 9 years
am i supposed to vote for what's worse? anyways, i'd rather walk into a sparkling clean home than a dirty one. it reminds of the friends episode where ross dates that super messy girl, played by rebecca romijn. that was a disgusting apartment.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
god, clean men rock dirty houses are absolutely disgusting to me
jillerin457 jillerin457 9 years
I love cleanliness! I'm the total opposite of Greggie. I would prefer a slightly "anal" guy to a slob.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 9 years
messy would be worse for me. I'd love to have someone be a neat freak!
Berlin Berlin 9 years
Hehe me and my lovie are both obsessively clean so definitely worse to be messy!
lms lms 9 years
Messy would be worse for me because I think he should have made an effort to clean up the place for my first time over there. If we ended up together he could be the one to clean if he is such a neat freak.
Greggie Greggie 9 years
Definitely the clean. I thrive on clutter and messiness, and get edgy when stuff is meticulously cleaned and organized. I was thrilled when I saw my husband's living spaces and saw that he also lives like he's going through a hurricane.
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