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Spotting a Lie

For some people, lying is practically impossible, while for others, spouting a few untruths is almost too easy. But unless someone is a pathological liar, you'll probably see their deception spelled out in their body language and behavior. The October issue of Self has a few great pointers on how to recognize when you’re being totally duped. I've listed them here and added on my own suggestions too!

  • Emotions will appear on someone’s face. So watch their expression closely to see if it matches what they’re saying.
  • The eyes say more than you think. In fact if they seem motionless or neutral, it’s likely that the person isn’t truly behind what they’re saying.
  • A reaction that comes on strong and disappears just as fast is likely to be false. True emotions linger.
  • When you think someone is spinning lies, take note of their hand movement. If they're fibbing, you're likely to see a decrease in gestures.
  • To see my additions just


  • For me, one of the greatest indicators that someone is lying is if they seem to be talking in circles. If you get the sensation that someone is tugging you around, they probably are.
  • Unless you’re terrible at picking up on vibes, it should be pretty easy to tell if a particular topic makes someone uncomfortable. This doesn’t mean they’re directly lying, but it could mean they’re omitting the truth, so beware.
  • I know I say it all the time, but I'm going to say it again: listen to your instincts! There’s a reason you feel like someone is lying, so don't just disregard that feeling in your gut.
  • So let me ask you: Have you ever caught someone in a lie?


Join The Conversation
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I was pretty good at detecting when my ex was lying but I already knew the truth most of the time anyway. He was a complete open book in terms of lying. I even told him what his "tells" are and he continued! My boyfriend doesn't lie to me, he has no reason to...
Belle1031 Belle1031 8 years
I'm very bad spotting lies. My ex lied to me constantly and I always gave him benefit of the doubt. Served me right for doing it!
inksee inksee 8 years
The only time I spotted a lie was when I knew the person was telling me false information (I had the correct information in my head already). He knew I found his lie, and right after he said, "Ok. You know I'm lying.." *awkwarddd moment..* The question should be - how to confront someone when you spot their lie!
luckyme luckyme 8 years
I'm really quite good at spotting lies. I have to be face-to-face with someone, though. I find it almost impossible over the phone. I think I'm also not a very trusting person, so that probably has something to do with it. Maybe I should take up poker...
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Bookmarking this page...I'm just about to start dating...I'm certain I'll need it. Often.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
"The eyes say more than you think. In fact if they seem motionless or neutral, it’s likely that the person isn’t truly behind what they’re saying. " Really? I usually find that when someone is lying their eyes become very shifty and unfocused....Its also been said that when someone is lying about a story/situation they will look up and to the left, if they are recalling a situation they will look up and to the right...I dunno how true that is though..
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