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Group Therapy: My Fiancé Kicked Me Out For Starting My Period

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I had sex with my fiancé and I got my period smack in the middle of it. It was heavy! It stained his sheets, his mattress and it was all over us. This is the first time this has ever happened and he kicked me out of his apartment. I offered to buy a new mattress and clean his sheets. I apologized repeatedly and he kept rolling his eyes and making the "ugh" sound. My period was four days early and I had no symptoms but now he won't talk to me.

He ignored my two text messages and my phone call. We are suppose to take dance lessons on Saturday for the wedding and he needed to tell me what time would work best so I can call the instructor and I'm still being ignored. I'm at my wits end here. We are both in our early 30s. What should I do?

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Aquadave Aquadave 5 years
He's a jerk! I've been with women and had that happen and the first time they always feel bad and apologize, hey it happens. As far as the large amount of blood. That could be a combination of squirting and period, thereby diluting the blood and making it look more than it really is. The fact is LOTS of women are super horny and get off much easier during their period. Bottom line get rid of him
RoseAnglaise RoseAnglaise 5 years
Sister, drop that zero and get yourself a hero! How is he going to handle your giving birth if he can't handle this? How would he treat any daughter you had once she reached adolescence? Would he kick her out of the house if she had a menstrual accident?
wvdonna wvdonna 5 years
In the immortal words of Dan Savage, DTMFA and get a checkup.
FashionistaFaye FashionistaFaye 5 years
A bunch of us over at are also sounding in on this topic. The general consensus: DO NOT MARRY HIM! Seriously, you deserve better.
Aride89 Aride89 5 years
Well he's understandably mad about his bed..I would be to..its gross. whatever....but he shouldnt be ignorning his fiance I mean its gonna be worse after you have a kid...things like that happen....its happened to me before but I didnt ruin the sheets thank goodness...luckily he had a black comforter.. but yeah screw that guy if he's gonna be a douche about wasnt on purpose
naoma naoma 5 years
Another comment: Send him a package with a few (unused) tampons, a couple of pads, etc. in it. Let him get used to the idea when he meets his NEXT girlfriend!
naoma naoma 5 years
Get on your running shoes and run away from this FIANCÉ as fast as you can! What a ninny he is. Women have periods. Women bleed. If he can't get that through his head -- he needs psychiatric care -- and FAST. Please dump him for your own sake. And the next time you meet a "potential FIANCÉ please question him as to the facts about women!!!!
MsSharkie MsSharkie 5 years
I was kind of thinking the same as jazzytummy. He's probably getting cold feet. And agree with everyone else. Total JERK!!!!
jazzytummy jazzytummy 5 years
I think he wants out and is using this as an excuse.
looseseal looseseal 5 years
This is so bizarre that it's making me wonder if there is more to the story. Like did he somehow think that she's pregnant and that's why he's marrying her? So that would be why at the sight of period blood, he realizes that she's not pregnant and feels like he's been tricked? Is that what's going on? Seriously, if the period itself is the whole entire reason for his reaction, I can't believe anyone is having sex with him, let alone marrying him.
la-nouvelle-vague la-nouvelle-vague 5 years
Don't marry him. At least not now anyway. Like everyone has said his initial behavior is so immature and that of a 14-year-old boy not a man in his early 30s. But the fact that you apologized and that he is completely ignoring you and is refusing to even speak with you adds to his immature. If he had apologized for the way he behaved, then I would tell you that maybe you two just need to work on your communication or get counseling. But that he is ignoring you is absolutely ridiculous. No one deserves to be treated like that. What's going to happen when you two face a serious problem in your marriage? Is he going to kick you out then too?
nicole121482 nicole121482 5 years
Ummmm...the real question is, why the hell do you still want to be with him??!! Get rid of the male/child loser....periods happen...every month....they aren't always predictable...he needs to grow up! And you need more self worth to know that you shouldn't have to put up with this guy!!!
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 5 years
i thins this post is made up, because if this was true, she wouldn't be asking what to do.
jenjen82 jenjen82 5 years
I CALL TROLL! But if your not. Unless you dump this idiot or call off the wedding until you can go to some marriage counseling then you deserve every ounce of misery that will come from knowingly marrying an ignorant POS like this. Congrats on nabbing douchebag of the year!
GZO GZO 5 years
I would HOPE that this is not real. Because that is the stupidest reaction to a period ever recorded. Also, if this is real, check to see if something isn't wrong with you physically. It stained the mattress so badly that you have to buy a NEW one?? That is really extreme. I used to have very heavy periods but none so bad that I needed to throw away my mattress! Also, might I suggest a fitted mattress cover? One that you can throw in the washing machine? I'm baffled by the amount of people who still have not made this small but extremely smart investment. Dirty stuff can happen in bed. And not always the good kind of dirty.
Venus1 Venus1 5 years
This is crazy! Unless he can have the next period for you, move on.
Trophime Trophime 5 years
It may sound radical, but you have to dump this guy. If you actually get married, you're going to have more periods for about twenty years, at least, every month unless you're pregnant, and this guy will probably make you stay in the unheated shed at the back of the garden for as long as you're bleeding, where he'll have you sleeping on bare soil, and then blame you for the water tasting bad. Seriously, you have to dump this ridiculous manchild or you will regret it for the rest of your life. Make sure to tell everyone you've invited for the wedding WHY; period jokes will follow him for the rest of his natural life, and he deserves it. He's horrible and immature, you can't seriously want to be with someone like that. If he wants to get married, he really needs to narrow it down to women who have had hysterectomies.
Helen-Danger Helen-Danger 5 years
Definitely take a step back from him. That's very strange behavior. The only explanation I can come up with is a phobia or PTSD or something like that. Go to the dance lesson by yourself or don't go at all. Take some time away from this guy. Pulling back is the way to communicate the seriousness of his mistake. Give him time to come to his senses and apologize. Hopefully he'll contact you with an explanation and a plan to prevent himself from overreacting to blood and other squeamishness in the future. The point is that he really hurt your feelings over something that wasn't your fault. If he's going to make a good partner for the future, he'll be upset that he hurt you and will want to make amends for it. If he doesn't do that, consider it a warning about his attitude towards you.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 5 years
Henna I can't get this one out of my mind either. OP if you're ever incapacitated and need care, you can bet 100% this man with either leave or neglect you. And testadura that is a brilliant idea! Hiding that's an interesting point you bring up about him being afraid of blood. Truth be told I have a horrible phobia of earthworms, so hypothetically speaking if I had a boyfriend who got one stuck in the tread of his shoe and tracked it in I would go psycho on him and kick him out. But I would come to my senses and speak to him, even if it was just a text to say I need some time and cancel the dance lesson. And I don't think it's a troll, only because of the dance lesson part. That seems like too random of a detail to throw in? Maybe not.
MELayesen MELayesen 5 years
Is this a real story? I can't imagine any self-respecting woman wondering about what to do after being treated this way. The answer is already clear. A man who can't handle a woman on her period can't handle much else. As such, that man is not a man.
Quriosity Quriosity 5 years
Wow seriously?! Don't tell me you're still marrying this BOY after this incident. He sounds like a high school kid... Your husband should be someone you can depend on and not going running off and screaming about normal bodily functions. The fact that he kicked you out, rolled his eyes, and ignored your call sounds like an absolutely immature jerk. He's not someone you can count on, be supportive of you, or understanding. Don't marry him. PERIOD!!
lillyloo214 lillyloo214 5 years
Consider this a major red flag. I know you have probably already invested a lot of money and energy into your wedding, but if I were you, I would consider demanding that he go to couples counseling/therapy IMMEDIATELY and if he says no, call off the wedding. It seems like he is using what happened as an excuse to not speak with you and distance himself. There is clearly a lot that has not been said, and you two need to communicate about it BEFORE the wedding. His behavior was truly horrifying and disrespectful. This is a major sign of what sort of behavior could appear post-wedding, so you should demand therapy or delay/ call off the wedding.
GTCB GTCB 5 years
On a serious note, miscarriages often have the circumstances described in the post.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 5 years
Trololol. I'm not buying this story.
rjcurley rjcurley 5 years
get him back, start screwing, and when he cums kick him out of your place while you scream about the sheets.
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