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Stay-at-Home Daughters and Marriage

Evaluating a Suitor For a Stay-at-Home Daughter

Stay-at-Home Daughters and Marriage

I'm a little late to homeschooling you on the latest radical, Christian-fundamentalist movement, but late is better than being a stay-at-home daughter. It's pretty much what it sounds like: stay-at-home daughters are training to be stay-at-home moms, but more virtuous.

They opt out of education (not until they're legally old enough, I presume) and employment to learn "advanced homemaking" skills, like how to make soap and candles. Odd, because they sound pretty primitive to me! Anyway, their full-time job is securing a husband who pleases themselves, mothers, fathers, and Father, but not in that order. For that epic task, there's How to Evaluate a Suitor: Biblical Wisdom For Fathers, Mothers, Eligible Daughters, and Would-Be Grooms, a two-part audiobook that looks more the cover a Charles Dickens novel than real-world advice.

It's one of many products on Vision Forum, an online store promoting Victorian-era dating rituals, gender stereotypes, and anachronistic etiquette. It's a home base for the Christian Patriarchy Movement, a branch of evangelical Christianity that translates the Bible into extreme gender roles. I'm sure most stay-at-home daughters would say it's their choice, but with books like Before You Meet Prince Charming and The Beauty of Modesty: Cultivating Virtue in the Face of a Vulgar Society, it sounds to me like they're being brainwashed.

MsChoo MsChoo 6 years
Two whole discs! xD
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 6 years
i agree with poster 3. i love that i have the freedom to be whatever kind of wife i want, even if it means not working and spending time making things at home. however what bothers me is the parents role. how else to say it, i dont know, i just *hate* parents who are controlling and drastically limit the options for their child. anything that the child could decide for himself (circumsision, for example) the parents should not play God with . i'm assuming girls in these families are not allowed to be gay, either. yeah it just rubs me the wrong way.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
brindey brindey 6 years
So, I am a Christian, and am in love with God......but I don't really see how cloistering yourself- or your daughter- is in any way, shape or form serving Him. Nothing like a fundamentalist how-tos to freak people out. Have you guys seen the documentary, "Jesus Camp?" It is like The Exorcist, but real.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 6 years
I meant, quite, and stay at home mom/wife/soap maker/whatever
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 6 years
The concept of a stay-at-home-daughter is quote bothersome to me, because as a grown up, women can CHOOSE to be stay at home moms. But by restricting your daughter to such a narrow lifestyle, you take the choice away from her. How would the parents react if she wanted to get a post secondary education? Or fall in love with whoever she wants? All I see on that site is the concept of obedience to parents, and then obedience to husband. Never able to make a single choice themselves. I feel really bad for those girls...
zeze zeze 6 years
who is to say who is being brainwashed, we are all always being brainwashed - we are taught we have to look a certain way, dress a certain way and act a certain way to please society - how many anorexic girls are out there or girls addicted to exercise beyond the norm and plastic surgery because they feel worthless unless the look that way due to the pressures of society. I do not at all agree with this lifestyle, I am a career woman who is totally commitment-phobic (I will admit) but I HATE this superior attitude people have, as if they are so smart and in charge of their own will, while anyone who chooses to be different is brainwashed. It's all a crock, we are all brainwashed by different sources and thats ok - otherwise we wouldnt have any connection to one another if we weren't influencing each other. And you know what, these people's lifestyle, so long as it is not truely forcing and abusing anyone, I say good for them. Who am I to judge what is better, my 80 hour work week and no time for anything else, or their relaxed schedule with spent with a close extended family? It is really not that hard to imagine someone wanting that life over mine and yours, so maybe we should stop being so snotty about how high and mighty we are just because we've been brainwashed by the majority rather than the minority.
GTCB GTCB 6 years
Christian extremists like this make me laugh out of pity for them and their dim worldviews. One could go on and on and on about wackos like the Duggars and whoever this audiobook is for. But then I think that at least our religious nutbags on this side of the ocean aren't suicide bombers and look pretty harmless in comparison.
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