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Study Finds Old-Fashioned Etiquette No Longer Impresses Women

Modern-Day Gents Can't Rely on Old-Fashioned Tricks

Opening doors, pulling out chairs, and walking closer to the street are all nice, gentlemanly gestures, but they don't actually help a woman out. The modern gentleman has had to adapt and acquire a whole new set of skills. Now their old tricks seem inadequate.

A new study found that women value gestures like filling gas tanks, cooking dinner, taking out the trash, and uploading songs on iPods more than traditional, courtly gestures. Yet I wouldn't call performing household duties or doing thoughtful favors chivalrous acts. I'd call them just what people do in relationships. Working ones anyway!

Would you rather he update his old-school etiquette with useful acts of kindness? Or should this new gentleman do it all?

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betty-kraker betty-kraker 6 years
i have been with my guy for 7 years he has opened a car door for me maybe 3 time never pulled a chair out and does not take out the trash shoot he will go pay for my gas but wont pump it most of the time he leaves me to grab stuff from shopping i wish i know how to get him to do just a few of them things
secondstar secondstar 6 years
I'm a young 23, and consider myself modern/forward thinking, but I still like a gentleman. I've had a few conversations on the topic, and it seems most girls still like a guy who "was raised right". I just can't help myself but smile when a guy opens a door for me.
bransugar79 bransugar79 6 years
My husband does all kinds of sweet things for me. I don't consider them old fashioned, just considerate.
inlove23 inlove23 6 years
Totally agree with everyone one esp. postmodern. It's really a shame that it's a "thing of the past". I actually get offended if a guy doesn't hold a door for me, it doesn't happen often but it still annoys me when they don't. I think the best man would be someone who combines both old school and new school tricks =)
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
I think "old-fashioned" (I hate that they are considered that!) gestures are sweet. I wish more men did things like that.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I'm a big believer in both traditional and modern chivalry. My boyfriend pulls out my chair for me and also takes out the trash. Just like I cook him dinner and help him write cover letters.
Camarogirl67 Camarogirl67 6 years
I worked at a law firm once, and a young associate who worked there was from the south, and when we would have lunches or meetings, any time one of us gals got up from the table, he would stand up from his seat while we left. At first it was odd to us, but it was actually kind of sweet looking back.
starbucks2 starbucks2 6 years
I think, opening doors and pulling out chairs is sweet and will never go out of style!
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