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Summer Fling Guidelines

The Real Deal With Summer Dating

We're happy to present this post from our friends at YourTango. It's that time of year again . . . but is it time for another Summer fling?

Summer 2013 is officially in full swing. Hot, long days combined with warm, flirtatious nights constitute the perfect recipe for a sultry Summer romance . . . Easier said than done, right?

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we’re left with high expectations of Summer love due to movies like The Notebook and Dear John (thanks a lot, Nicholas Sparks) and, of course, Grease!


So what exactly are the guidelines for finding a Summer fling? Is it possible to turn a casual hookup into a relationship? Lucky for us, we got some expert matchmakers to spill the unwritten rules of warm-weather dating.

1. You may be "the one," but probably not "the only one."
After one or two (or, OK, maybe three) pretty pink cocktails at your best friend's wedding, you believe you have found your Prince Charming. You two totally hit it off, and the sex was mind-blowing. But NYC-based matchmaker and dating and relationship coach Rachel Russo forewarns that a girl should never assume a casual hookup will lead to a relationship . . . especially in the Summer.

"The likelihood of a casual fling can be higher because many people meet on vacations, hookup, and realize a relationship wouldn't work out of paradise due to distance, diverse lifestyles, etc."

Sex, no matter how hot, does not equal love. But, if a casual hookup is more up your alley, just make sure to check your feelings at the door.

Keep reading for more tips!

2. Summertime and the living's easy . . .
As opposed to the cold-weather months, Summer is a much more relaxing time to date. Celebrity matchmaker Talia Goldstein reveals there are far fewer pressures for singles this season.

"Scary holidays like New Year's and Valentine's Day are long gone, so dating is much more relaxed. There are tons more activities going on in the Summer that make it really easy to ask someone out too."

As scary as it might sound, Summer is also the ideal season to ask a guy you just met to jet off on a weekend getaway or even come as your date to an upcoming wedding.

"This time of year, singles are in a great mood and don't take dating too seriously," Goldstein says.

3. Change your status to "offline."
One thing to keep in mind during the Summer months is that online dating could become more difficult.

"Online daters may not only be less likely to receive messages, but they should expect a slower response time with people going away on vacations or hooking up with others," Russo says.

It's obvious where the men are: golf courses, boardwalks, pools, sporting events, beaches, etc. Stop hiding behind a computer screen and go outside to have some fun!

For more guidelines, head over to YourTango: The Real Deal With Summer Dating

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