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Sunday Confessional: Bride-to-Be Is Attracted to Someone Else

We're scouring the juicy (but anonymous!) secrets posted on Truu Confessions and letting you weigh in. One engaged confessor is having feelings for another guy!

I'm about to get married. I have very strong sexual feelings for a co-worker. I don't want to cheat. I don't know what I want to do.

Do you think this is a big deal?

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ali321 ali321 7 years
Well, then don't cheat. I mean it's normal to be attracted to other people, but it's not worth the love of your life. So if your fiance is worth anything then let this go. You can fantasize all you want. It's only a big deal if you think you would actually give in to it in reality.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 7 years
Being in heat like a dog over a co worker while you're supposed to be getting married isn't funny or cute. It's just stupidity.
staple-salad staple-salad 8 years
I think it's safe to assume that people will find more than one person over the course of their life sexually attractive. What matters is what you do about it. If the woman doesn't think she can go on without cheating, obviously she's not ready for marriage. If she thinks she can handle the feelings without cheating, then she's mature enough.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
Gah, stupid crap...reposting: A quote I heard from a friend years ago: "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love."
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
=\ I miss the intimacy of DearSugar >_< Anyway...heard this quote somewhere. "Don't leave the one love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave the one they love."
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
I think this is definitely a question of degrees. To what degree is she attracted to this other guy. And while I can gree that being married doesn't mean your dead it shouldn't be all that common that you develop crushes on other people. We are all human and I'm sure find a variety of things attractive in many different people, but once you find a person worthy of spending your life with you tend to find that other people aren't quite as tempting because you are happy with what you have. If this sexual desire is so tempting that you are thinking that your only recourse is breaking it off with your fiance or cheating then definitly breakit off. Cheating is just not acceptable especially when you've alreadytaken this much time to thikn it through and are aware that you have other options
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
I agree with cherryblossom.
smaine07 smaine07 8 years
you should probably rethink who you are marrying and if that is what you really want....having feelings like that for someone else is kind of a big sign that maybe you aren't ready!!!!!
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 8 years
Boring. Being in a committed relationship doesn't mean you don't notice anyone else again or develop crushes, all it means is that you are committed to your partner not to act on those feelings.
cleegiants cleegiants 8 years
i think that it might be normal to have a 'crush' on someone, but lusting after someone else sexually shouldn't be part of a healthy relationship. plus, i think the fact that this bride feels that she needs to confess anything at all indicates that she thinks this is something beyond a harmless crush.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
if you think you will never be attracted to another persaon because you are "married", think again. marriage isn't all hearts and rainbow ponies, it's messy stuff. when you are married you will put yourself second and your spouse first. if you don't want to do that (pass up any possible booty) please stay single. marriage isn't about just love. it's commitment, believing (even when its really hard) and trusting that when you get to the end of your life you will look back with the other person and be able to say "we made it and it wasn't always easy, but it was really good".
amynick3 amynick3 8 years
Crushes are normal, and if you love your husband to be, you won't cheat, period.
janneth janneth 8 years
Get out now. Run don't walk. Crushes and attraction when you are about to get married? No no no. Ideally you should still have a little crush on your groom.
almost-famous almost-famous 8 years
there's going to always be another person you're going to encounter that you think is "hot". There have been so...many marriages failed because a spouse cheated, only to find out the person they cheated with weren't worth the wild. Heave the messenger...don't risk it! p.s. How would she know the penis is as good as her future hubby? dear god!
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
Crushes are normal. Don't cheat and stop thinking about this co-worker sexually. Control yourself and your fantasies.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
You didn't cheat. Everyone gets crushes. Calm down.
angelbaby2 angelbaby2 8 years
bring back the old sunday confessionals. this one and this new website stinks.
Marci Marci 8 years
Only she knows what the feelings are. If it's strong chemistry and she'd love to do the nasty with him, that's one thing. If it's an emotional pull towards this person, then she might want to rethink the marriage. That being said, people get married, but that doesn't mean they're dead. So having crushes on people even while married is pretty normal and there's nothing wrong with that. It's acting on the crush that's wrong.
medenginer medenginer 8 years
Your having strong sexual feelings for a co-worker. That's a pretty bold statement for you to make and that's not just a harmless day dream fantasy. You say you don't know what to do and you don't want to cheat. It's time to take a hard look at this relationship to see why you feel what you do and figure out if your really ready for marriage.
nikkisoda nikkisoda 8 years
Agreed cherryblossom!
cherryblossom cherryblossom 8 years
This girl is getting married and is therefore being faced with the rest of her life with the same person, I think that it is a normal human reaction to develop crushes on different people over the course of your life its all in how each person acts on it that determines the way the rest of things go in each situation. I don't think this person should feel guilty for something that isnt in their control, and i think its possible that its just a phase, we are all human after all no?
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