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Sunday Confessional: Busted On My Blog

Dear Sugar,
I blog often and I blog openly. Unfortunately, recently it has caught up to me and what I've written came to bite me in the butt. After taking a weekend trip with my in-laws and becoming highly frustrated, I decided to let it all out on my private blog.

I've never had a problem with anyone in my family reading my blog, so I didn't think to make my post more private. I actually feel like it's my one outlet where I can be truly open and honest. But to be fair, what I said was pretty hurtful.

In a recent passage one late evening, I called my brother-in-law's girlfriend a nasty troll. Sometimes I just find her to be very inconsiderate and at this particular time I was frankly very ticked off. I really do like her, and my comment was inappropriate and immature. I regret posting it and hurting her feelings.

To make matters worse, she has found the post and confronted me about it. I apologized to her because I truly don't think she's an awful person and I wanted to let her know that what I was feeling was just a heat of the moment kind of emotion. Do you think this is forgivable? Venting Vicki

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AmorFati AmorFati 9 years
Not forgive. Blogs can be fixed so only certain people see them, and comments like that belong behind a filter. You should have known better. If it's on the Internet it's as good as on the front page of the New York Times. It may be old-fashioned, but I don't follow the current custom of thinking one can say anything, in public, in the guise of "venting" and expect to be forgiven. Words hurt and go deep. If I were called a nasty troll, I'd have a hard time believing a person thought well of me in reality. This's easy to overrate the significance of blogs in the bigger scheme of things. Personal blogs are mainly of interest to people who know the actors, despite what one hears about the influence of the blogosphere. The vast majority of people in the world have no idea who the nasty troll is and don't care. So the "not forgive" is to scale--it has to do with the people you've wounded and the fact that other people, however small a number, got to see you expressing unkind thoughts about them in a potentially very public venue (that's the real humiliation, even if nobody ever does see it). To start with, you can take down that entry.
pinkangelmonkey pinkangelmonkey 10 years
forgive. like she never said anything nasty about anyone else! and if she really is a troll she probably has said things about you. she is just rubbing it in your face since you got caught but im with the boogie on this one. dont sensor yourself! you wrote how you felt to vent so you wouldnt hurt her feelings but she is a snoop so you got screwed. just make sure you make your blogs private! hahaha :kiss:
cherrygirl77 cherrygirl77 10 years
There is nothing better than writing to get those negative feeling's off your chest. So don't ever feel bad for the way you feel. I have wanted to say worse things than that to my sister in-law, I love her but she drives my nuts sometimes. Sometimes I will write a letter to people when I am mad , even if I don't give it to them it makes me feel better to get it out.
Sica Sica 10 years
Forgive. _____________________________ "Amor vincit omnia"
LaLaLaura LaLaLaura 10 years
My mom found out I got a tattoo when I was 16 from reading my blog. Oops. People have to get over it; you're allowed to vent. She could have just as easily overheard you talking to somone. However, being a blogger (I was one for 5 years), you have to remember than anything you publish becomes public record of the internet for anyone to read. I always spoke in vague generalities (my friends would know who or what I was referring to, but anyone else would have been left in the dark). Like, I would blog about "people" who did certain things, not "my bitchy sister in law".
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 10 years
OOhh--- a toughie. The reality is though, that people could stumble across and read your blogs at any time. It sucks to be conscious of this, especially when you feel that your blog is the ONE outlet to all your frustrations. Just think: Whats done is done. It happened for a reason. The only thing you can do now is try and figure out why it happened the way it did and see how you can fix it (although trolls DO take alot of convincing...) haha.
inertia inertia 10 years
I think you were lucky in this case. She'll probably forgive you eventually if you apologize enough. But the point is, a public blog is public, and if you can't deal with the possible real-life repercussions of something you're writing, you shouldn't post it. There are people who've lost their jobs (or worse) because of comments they unthinkingly wrote in their blogs. It could have been a harsher lesson, so learn from it and be careful in the future.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
I give props to the phrase troll to this website... little snicker... FORGIVE!
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
oh boo-hoo for miss sensitivity. if she doesn't like what you wrote maybe there's a reason; as in hits too close to home? people get irritated with each other and then they move on. unless you gave her real name and home town i say forgive. she's free to blog as she wishes as well. why should it be okay for her to act like a troll but not for you to be mad and blog about it?
eleven11 eleven11 10 years
Hopefully she will forgive you...I just don't know. I think if I read something like that about me, I'd have a hard time FORGETTING that it was written. Maybe she'll be a better person than I... Good luck!
ShimmerBronze ShimmerBronze 10 years
ya we all so stupid things, and that could be one of them. just make sure next time to keep your feelings about family members on the DL ShimmerBronze--.
Cheena Cheena 10 years
Totally forgive because not everyone is going to get along with everyone else splendidly. There have been many times that this has happened to me, (not the blog thing but my heated vocal opinions) and of course I did what you did, apologized but stated the fact through my eyes and things were fine, a little uncomfortable at first, but never the less fine... You have a right to your own opinion and are free to express it..
honey31 honey31 10 years
Forgive life is to short to hold grudges.Life is like that we say things that we dont mean to say but when a person is hurt or angry at that moment they they say things.I know someone who lives in my building who had a fight with her cousion.They threw nasty words at each other and one of the girls walked off in anger.Well the next day my sister and I find out that the girl who walked off angry was killed while hitchiking on the highway to head back home to B.C.The other girl blamed her for her cousions death because of their nasty fight and insults.That is why we need to let go of the hurt and forgive because we never know when it willbe our last day on earth.
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
pretty much everything is forgivable. That really isn't a big deal, unless you're the type of person who never is completely honest with people. My family and I all speak our minds to each other and others, we try not to hurt peoples feelings , if someone asks me what I think about something that has to do with them and I know my opinion in my mind,and you can count on it being what I 'really' think...maybe good maybe not... I might first say, 'you SURE you want 'my' opinion.? I mean I know you said you were 'busted'....well, isn't this something you would tell her to her face or no? I mean she had to have done something that annoyed you enough to call her a ?troll?
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
I vote forgive. This is a scary thing, and I'm curious how she found it. I don't want to make the same mistake. Good luck, and I'm sure she'll find it in her heart to forgive you. Best of luck to you.
JK-Boogie JK-Boogie 10 years
your expression is your expression...dont sensor yourself
flutterpie flutterpie 10 years
nasty troll ROTFL, sorry thats funny. what i would do is explain to her "look sometimes i think you can be very inconsiderate and sometimes i get very frusterated. instead of me confronting you on my feelings, i decided to write my emotions down in my blog. i am sorry you got offended and i am sorry if i hurt your feelings and i promise that in the future i will discuss my emotions with you like an adult." and in the future privatize your blogs ;)
Midnightkiss4u09 Midnightkiss4u09 10 years
I don't think you were being rude....just honest ;)
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
But wait, it was your PRIVATE blog? How'd she see it? Was she a part of it or did she get on to your computer and read it? I chose forgive btw. You apologized and you were just venting.
Masqueraded_Angel Masqueraded_Angel 10 years
Aw, I hate it when you're discovered like that. I know I would DIE if any of my family members got a hold of some of my blogs. Eeek!
rocketgirl rocketgirl 10 years
You made an unfortunate decision, but since you apologized and admitted you were in the wrong, it's definitely forgivable. Good luck bringing everything back to normal!
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