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Sunday Confessional: I Blew It!

I just moved into a new city, alone, without a job and without any of my girlfriends, to start a new life after a bad breakup. I was having a really hard time getting a job and as hesitant as I was to ask for help, I gave in and let my mother's best friend pull some strings to get me an interview with her company.

The night before my interview, my neighbor invited me out with a bunch of his buddies. I knew I should have stayed home and gotten a good night's sleep before my interview, but I didn't want to pass up an opportunity to finally go out and meet new people -- so I went. I ended up having a great time but drank entirely too much alcohol on an empty stomach, a sure fire recipe for disaster. I got home past 2am and ended up getting sick all night long.

I slept right through my alarm clock in the morning, but jumped out of bed to get ready for my interview. Needless to say, I was incredibly hung over and probably reeked like a bar. My head was fuzzy to say the least and I completely bombed my interview. I left feeling mortified that I not only represented my self in an unprofessional manner (very much not my style), but I felt like a poor reflection of my mom's best friend who helped me get the interview. I know it was a stupid decision to choose a night out on the town over a potential job offer, but is what I did forgivable?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 9 years
its not like u did it on purpose. but if u were that wacked u shouldnt have gone for the interview. and if u really wanted to go, u shouldnt have gone with ure neighbor. but it is understandable and forgivable. just dont repeat it
Jeng112 Jeng112 9 years
You're having a hard time in a new city. It's understandable that you would jump at the chance of some socialization. Send a thank you note to both the interviewer and the person who pulled some strings. You really should have just called to reschedule, but there is no good to come from just beating yourself up about this. Just learn from your mutiple mistakes, and use better judgement next time.
shouldbeworking shouldbeworking 10 years
Rough patch in life. Live and learn. Forgivable.
AmorFati AmorFati 10 years
Dumb as hell, and completely forgivable. Even the woman who set up the interview should forgive you after a while. Live and learn. An expression of contrition to your benefactor is appropriate, though, just so long as you can make it sound sincere.
apsara1 apsara1 10 years
Forgive yourself but learn from it. really the thing is - you blew your own chance at what might have been a good job, so take a lesson from that. Your mom's best friend may think less of you -deal with that - it's the consequence of your actions - act in a less-than credible way - expect to lose credibility. hold your head high, move forward and be more circumspect. You gave a justification for going out - I'd stop thinking about it in terms of needing to justify it (wanting to meet new people) - you made a bad decision, accept it, but you aren't a bad person for it - mistakes are what make us stronger and better in the end, and we are all human.
AZ-Mary-Mary AZ-Mary-Mary 10 years
I was thinking the same thing cubadog. When I recommend someone professionally I expect them to understand that I'm putting all of my hard work and hard earned reputation out there for them and I would be SO pissed to hear that someone disrespected my generosity. I say not forgive, it doesn't matter whether they knew you were hungover, you disrespected someone who was trying to be helpful. Life happens and 90% of the time I say forgive, but not this time, sorry...
Mantis Mantis 10 years
You live, you learn. Totally forgivable
noelleteresa noelleteresa 10 years
forgiveable but dumb ass hell, but you probably tel yourself that enough. I would try and pretend it never happened and avoid the company again at all costs. Bounce back and land an awesome interview tomorrow
paulinhadrp paulinhadrp 10 years
We all have done something stupid that we regret. It was something not very good for you professionally and also for your mom's friend's reputation, but they could always think you were having a difficult day, or week or whatever... I forgive you.
cubadog cubadog 10 years
I can tell you why I said not forgive because she put her Mom's best friend in an awkward position professionally. More than likely (I have been in this position) you go to bat for someone and they take it for granted by assuming they will just get the job or behaving irresponsibly. I take my career very seriously and when I recommend someone for a job to help them out I expect them to take it seriously!
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 10 years
You know, I don't understand why anyone would say "not forgive." I mean I do but seriously, people make mistakes all the time. You are obviously have your stuff together. I can tell from reading your column and the fact that you said being unprofessional is not you. One little mistake along the way is not a big deal. The interviewer (I'm assuming has never met you before) probably had no idea that you were anywhere different from your norm. And if you blew it somehow, you could totally chalk it up with your mom as just being nervous. Either way, you will find another job (a little confused about that, isn't dearsugar your job? :) ). If it was meant to be, then it would have happened. I forgive you ;)
vmruby vmruby 10 years
Forgive......Definitely not the smartest thing you could have done.Make your apologies to your mom's friend and move on. No one's perfect and we've all been guilty of making the wrong choices at some time or another in our lives.Hopefully you have learned your lesson. My guess is that you did. Good Luck!!! :)
LuckyGrl-83 LuckyGrl-83 10 years
I say forgive... but I hope you learned from this experience... :) Good luck on your new adventure! :hug:
partysugar partysugar 10 years
There will be other job opportunities, just explain everything to your mom's best friend and maybe she can help you figure things out.
cubadog cubadog 10 years
I agree with Stefsprl. Not forgive... Your Mom's friend pulled strings to get you an interview and trust me word got back to her that the interview was less than stellar. Definitely apologize and let her know that you know you screwed up. Next time you might want to stay home so the temptation to drink too much is not there!
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 10 years
ya live and ya learn!
stefsprl stefsprl 10 years
I picked not forgive, only because you never said anything about apologizing to your mom's best friend. If you apologize to her then I would say forgive...I think it's the right thing to do after she pulled strings at her company to get you the interview. I'm sure if you explain things to her she would understand, and you'd probably feel better about the situation, too! :)
Megg21 Megg21 10 years
I was hung over on the job interview I went to and it was hot as hell that day and I ended up getting the job. Sometimes things are worse than they seem because obviously alcohol is a depressant. All you can do is take a lesson away from it. I understand that you probably got drunk because you haven't gone out in a long time and sometimes when you're around a new bunch of people you just get so nervous that you drink more than you normally would. In the end, I think it sounds like you're feeling a bit sorry for yourself and that is what you need to get over. I moved to a new city when I was 19 in another country, had no friends there, no family, just a desire to do something different and it sounds like you have that desire too. Don't forget why you moved there, pull yourself together and go job hunting! Good luck!
princess_eab princess_eab 10 years
You're the only one that suffered because of this (unless word gets back to your mom) so just consider it a big mistake and don't do it again. Social networks are very important when you move, I totally understand.
spacebear spacebear 10 years
I agree with junebug. I also hope you made some friends that night...they might be able to help you find another job interview somewhere. If the topic comes up with your moms friend, just apologize sincerely. And congrats on being brave enough to move out on your own.
junebrug junebrug 10 years
Totally forgiveable. If you showered and brushed your teeth (one presumes:) before the interview, you probably didn't reek. They probably have no idea and may not even have noticed that you were off. If for some reason you did act still drunk and it gets back to your friend, just apologize and tell her you had too much "Liquid courage" the night before. I'm in a new place and haven't made friends either. I know it's tough. I disagree with the poster who said you needed to move back. One bad job interview doesn't mean you can never show your face in your new city! If this is your dream to be where you are, stick with it. Sometimes we all need an adventure and to do something for ourselves. Chin up. It would be nice to never make mistakes, but I have yet to meet anyone who has their own halo.
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 10 years
Yep, you just need to forgive yourself and I hope you learned from this. You could have gone out for a few hours and get the best of both worlds but sabotaged at least one of those worlds. Anyway, good luck finding a job and next time don't get hammered the night before!
muchacha muchacha 10 years
To me this just shows a lack in maturity .. but it's forgiveable, if you learn from this experience.
lemuse20 lemuse20 10 years
Forgiveable. Though it's going to be one of those "wincing" memories that's going to be reeeeaally hard to forget.
Jennifer_2sugar Jennifer_2sugar 10 years
It really depends :?
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