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Sunday Confessional — I Canceled on My Blind Date

A co-worker of mine set me up on a blind date. I'm fresh out of a relationship so she was trying to do me a favor, but truth be told, she doesn't know me that well so I was a little apprehensive about the kind of guy she'd pair me with.

Once I got his name, I immediately searched for him on Facebook and lo and behold, I found him. He was an OK looking guy, but he was definitely not my type, and after reading through his profile, I knew that sitting across the dinner table from him would have just been a waste of time.

I didn't have the heart to tell my co-worker that I snooped on him and didn't like what I saw, so I called in sick to work the day of our date and gave him the same excuse. He's written me emails asking to reschedule, but I've ignored each and every one. I know I judged a book by its cover, but can I be forgiven for avoiding this guy simply based on his Facebook page?


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Allytta Allytta 8 years
maybe harsh... but depends. i think sometimes you just might luck out and the person could turn out to be so much better then you thought. i guess you weren't ready. sometimes ladies get so desperate that they'll take any date and that is not a bad thing. you have to kiss a few toads... that's how some of my girlfriends found their SO. they just went out with any guy and in two years they were engaged ;)
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 8 years
pff blind dates... you can email him you know? it is only an email "I don't thinks is a good idea to reschedule.". Well, now is kinda late, if the guy doesn't get by now that you don't want to reschedule, he's kinda dense. and next time if you don't want to "waste" an evening, say no to blind dates.
lovelie lovelie 8 years
I say forgive. I also do not think you owe him an explanation. You didn't just "blow" him off, you properly cancelled. Quite honestly, this guy must be pretty dense if he hasn't gotten the hint yet...seems you haven't returned any his e-mails? Maybe I'm cynical...I just experienced something similar. I went on the date, and it was miserable. Unfortunately, the guy didn't seem to think so, and he called over and over and e-mailed..uggh..finally I had to put my foot down. So I guess my advice would be that you don't have to e-mail him, but you should, just in case it turns into a more difficult situation.
sunshinepointe sunshinepointe 8 years
Like the others I can see you not wanting to go but "man up" (or is it woman up?) and just be honest. You're not in junior high.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
You called in sick to work b/c you didn't want to go on your blind date that night? Amazing. Simply amazing.
Smacks83 Smacks83 8 years
You would probably wouldn't feel that great if someone was doing this to you.
mlmoreno47 mlmoreno47 8 years
Not into him is not into him. She doesn't owe the guy or her coworker anything and besides, fresh out of a relationship may not be the best time to date someone by extention. If it didn't work out, which it probably wouldn't, it could be awkward with her coworker.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
she doesn't know the guy - she isn't obligated to email him back! don't worry about it.
lolak lolak 8 years
PS. you are not obligated to explain yourself to any one. People also need to take the hint and stop being so pushy. Tell them you thought it through and decided that flying solo is what is right for you at the moment and close all cracks at future sets for good so they don't keep asking. Also, be nice about it. good luck
lolak lolak 8 years
I think you know yourself better than anybody else and if you had a hunch then I believe you made the right choice. Maybe phone calls would work first if you do change your mind at some point. Anyhow, trust yourself first.
untitled1 untitled1 8 years
I said not forgive not because of canceling but because you're ignoring the poor guy. Just because he's not the type of guy you're looking for doesn't mean he deserves to be ignored when he hasn't done anything to you.
nylorac nylorac 8 years
this guy should take the hint and stop emailing you!
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
lol, i think you did the guy a favor. you don't sound like a very fun date right now. relax, one date does not a big deal make. forgive.
Marci Marci 8 years
I guess I see this from a whole different angle. If anyone judged me by my Facebook page, they wouldn't get even the slightest idea of who I am, so I guess I have a problem with you being so quick to write someone off. You may not look so great on paper either, you know. But the bottom line is that exactly waht Pistil says: You aren't obligated to go on the date. But be straight with them that you're not interested. Do unto others as you'd have those do unto you.
Pistil Pistil 8 years
Forgive. You're not obligated to go on the date, but just be straight with them. You're not interested.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
I said forgive because there's no law saying that you HAVE to go on a date with some guy your coworker set you up with. However, you probably should at least email the poor guy and just tell him that he sounds like a great guy but that you're not his type or that you're not really ready to date yet. Who knows, maybe you guys could email for a while and you'll find he's not so bad and maybe you might even decide that you want to go on a date with him sometime.
Bodhar Bodhar 8 years
I think cancelling is forgivable, though I think that the way you cancelled isn't forgivable. If nothing else, keep in mind that your co-worker has to keep a relationship with her friend! it's not just some random guy you're blowing off, it's the colleague who set you both up.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 8 years
i agree with almost everyone, forgive on cancelling, but email back and be honest that youre not ready for a relationship, etc
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 8 years
Heck ya! I probably would have done the same thing. You should write him back though and let him know that maybe you just 'aren't ready'
notinthemood notinthemood 8 years
I don't forgive the facebook judgment, or the stringing him along... you should have the decency to let him know you're not interested.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Forgive, it's your loss if it turns out his facebook wasn't representative of him as a person and you would have gotten along fine. MY facebook reveals as little as possible about me, you certainly can't make a judgement on somebody based on their facebook page.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
Just e-mail the guy, tell him you're not ready to date. Then tell your friend thanks but not anytime soon because you're not ready yet for any blind dates. Good luck.
DCRoamer DCRoamer 8 years
I say Not Forgive. How would you like it if someone did that to you? The least you could have done was told him beforehand that you are not ready... not to mention apologize to the friend who organized it.
LilLucyT21 LilLucyT21 8 years
you can be forgiven since your just out of a relantionship but you shouldn't judge his facebook cover as him. all my facebook info is just the rather bland/cover stuff, either email him saying your not ready or give it a shot with maybe just a drink that way you can scadattle quickly out there if need be!
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 8 years
Forgive, but just be honest with him. Respond to his emails politely telling him that you're just not ready to be dating.
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