Skip Nav
10 Easy Ways to Get the Spark Back in Your Marriage
What Would the Disney Princesses Be For Halloween? This Artist Puts Them in Costumes
Romantic Comedies
25 Movies For a Hauntingly Hot Date Night In

Sunday Confessional: I Can't Believe He Did That While I Was in the Shower!

Sunday Confessional: I Can't Believe He Did That While I Was in the Shower!

I have been dating this amazing guy for about eight months. We don't live together, but we spend a lot of time over at each other's apartments. We've got a great open relationship where we talk about everything, but about two weeks ago, he took our closeness a little too far.

I was in the shower and he came in, which wasn't a big deal. He sat down on the toilet - he sometimes pees like that, so I didn't think anything of it. But then I smelled something and I said, "Babe?" And he said, "Sorry, I really had to go."

I totally freaked out. I mean going #2 is a private event, and not something you need to subject someone else to. I told him that wasn't cool at all and I am still completely grossed out by it. I don't even want to take a shower in front of him anymore for fear that he'll drop another bomb. I don't even want to bring it up to him because talking about bathroom stuff just makes me cringe. What was he thinking?

It was such a turn off that it's kind of ruined our sex life. Should I forgive him for this dirty deed or ditch him?


bawp125 bawp125 9 years
Everybody poops!!
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
Seriously, if he's the guy you see yourself with for a long time if not the rest of your life then GET OVER IT! every one destroys the bathroom, if you gotta go then go. If your not that into to him then good luck with that! lol
swtsunkisses88 swtsunkisses88 10 years
the way i see it, things do happen. I guess it depends how bad he really had to go... and how many bathrooms there were...
happygurlo_11 happygurlo_11 10 years
Forgive him.....and I have a feeling that you don't truly love your bf....if you love him, this would not be that big of a deal...
ummmidkman ummmidkman 10 years
this poster is an idiot. lol
ummmidkman ummmidkman 10 years
wow fucking get over it. you are ridiculous
ambermarie ambermarie 10 years
haha uhm, i actually think he should ditch youuu, people who expect to be and want to be in a long term relationship dont react this irrationally over such little things
higgydt4 higgydt4 10 years
Everyone poops...forgive the poor guy for pete sakes! It's nothing to get mad over.
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 10 years
I honestly cannot believe all the commenters who say they can't even pee without someone walking in on each their own, but hello! Isn't that why you close the door? Maybe you should teach your kids to respect when a door is closed and knock. My parents have been married for 30 years, and they've never even peed in front of each other. EVER. Again, it is NOT just "expected" for you to accept because you're in a serious relationship...
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 10 years
No, this is NOT something that "comes with the territory" of a relationship or marriage! Some things shall be kept private no matter if you've been dating for a month or have been married for decades! That's disgusting, and I don't blame you or being grossed out. But this is a forgivable offense. Tell him point blank that if that ever happens again that you would gladly hop out of the shower to let him go. Seriously...ew.
calygirl calygirl 10 years
Your kidding right? Getting upset over something like this just shows your not mature enough for a real relationship. I'd say your way to high maintenance. Everybody does this and after 8 months of being together you should be ok with that. Grow up!
Marci Marci 10 years
As the saying goes, shit happens. Normally, pooing is private time. But since this is real life and things don't always going according to the script, everyone needs to be able to improvise. When ya gotta go, ya gotta go; and he had to go. I agree with everyone else. If you really are planning a future with this guy, you'll have to get over this kind of thing.
MiyabiNa MiyabiNa 10 years
umm...get over it. People poop. It happens. He feels comfortable enough to do it in front of you so feel special. My bf does it all the time...I joke about it sometimes but oh's whatever. Now I don't do it in front of him...but he feels comfortable enough to do it in front of me so be it. Guys are gross sometimes, you should know that by now...
ria25 ria25 10 years
It sounds "dramatic" and's just taking a shit and it happens sooner or later in a relationship ...but it should happen LATER. The fact that you are that grossed out shows that the level of intimacy for you is nowhere near being able to take a shit in front of/in the same place as each other. If you have question whether or not to dump him for this, you probably should.
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 10 years
oof.. I WANNA say forgive, cos its 8 months.. and well it must be pretty serious.. But ew. seriously.. FIRMLY tell him that cannot happen again. Ever.
DCStar DCStar 10 years
I don't understand how you can have sex with someone, but be uncomfortable with them using the toilet in front of you. IMO, sex is much more intimate! Talking bathroom stuff makes you cringe? We're all just human, and it's a fact of life. Everybody poops! Maybe you should read that book :)
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Forgive. Assuming you only have one restroom, everyone's comments are right on. If you gotta go, you gotta go!
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 10 years
Dude, you crap too. And if he couldnt hold it, what would you like him to do? Its going to happen. And guess what? I might happen to you next. There are worse things. SNORE
KaseyGirl KaseyGirl 10 years
honestly, you gotta forgive him. for one, he is only human and humans do go #2, even our boyfriends. but i do see your point in being so weirded out by it. guys have a really weird thing about going, they really are not discrete about it. they are almost like puppies, when you gotta go, go! my boyfriend will go anywhere, anytime. we will go out to dinner and if he needs to go, he goes. i will be sitting at the table alone for 15 minutes while he is doing it. he will go in the nastiest truck stop bathrooms, or even when he out working in the fields (his parents own a ranch and he helps out on it sometimes). i find it so weird and sometimes really offending!
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 10 years
i think you need to change your thinking on this subject. get upset about somthing worth it. just change your thinking.
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
Forgive. We have all been there and done that where we just can't help it! If there is only one bathroom available and you are taking your sweet time taking a shower - then oh freaking well. I am not saying it was a perfect moment - but it is nothing you should break up with him over....just next time LOCK THE DOOR!!
tati33 tati33 10 years
:ROTFL: cubadog!!
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 10 years
Wow whoever wrote for this advice is completely immature and heartless. Its his place, he had to go. Everyone poops dear, deal with it.
LadyP LadyP 10 years
Oh forgive the poor guy! Especially if that was the only bathroom in your house! When you gotta go, sometimes you can't wait! Just tell him you'd appreciate it if he didn't do it anymore b/c it grosses you out. I don't think he realized it would bother you so much.
krampalicious krampalicious 10 years
forgive. could be worse: i had a boyfriend who masturbated on the toilet once while i was in the shower after we had just finished doing the deed.
Luxurious Bathroom Updates
Bathroom Updates to Make When Selling a Home
Christina El Moussa's Crystal Bathroom Tile
Lessons From a DIY Bathroom Reno
From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds