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Sunday Confessional: I Embarrassed My Boyfriend at Work

My boyfriend and I communicate during the work day over instant message, usually just to check in and say hi. He's been working some really long hours and it feels as though we are two ships passing in the night even though we live together. In an effort to keep things spicy, we often times IM each other sexual innuendos and it's really been helpful during these busy days to keep the romance alive.

We made dinner plans, just the two of us, Friday night. Before leaving work, I IMed him and went into short but explicit detail about how excited I was for our night together. When I didn't hear anything back, I just assumed he was away from his desk so I logged off and went home. When he got home later that night, he looked furious. Apparently he was giving a presentation and his computer was hooked up to a projector in front of his entire team — they all saw my IM. He went on to tell me that I had embarrassed him and made him look unprofessional, but I meant absolutely no harm! I was just trying to tease him before our much-needed night together, but he's beyond upset with me. Can I be forgiven?


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KCLea KCLea 8 years
That was totally his fault! He should've signed off when he was giving the presentation.
keiraz keiraz 8 years
hoooow would u ever know?? like, smell around and feel that he's now giving a presentation? like supernatural? loool even when a boss or a colleague takes a peak at my pc(with no need of a projector too) I completely shut these programs down or at least log out til they leave.
tinyspark tinyspark 8 years
He screwed up by not closing the IM program, but hey, he's human. Trust me, you WILL laugh about this someday. Maybe not soon, but someday!
Mamis03 Mamis03 8 years
It was definately his fault!! He just took out his frustration out on you. It's easier to blame someone else than yourself. You did nothing wrong!! He'll get over it.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
oh come on. its not like u did it on purpose. give ureself a break. and ask ure guy to let it go. its clear that it was unintentional. and he shouldve signed out if he was going to that meeting. i blame him
magalaya magalaya 8 years
That's ridiculous. He's probably just mad about it for now but will cool off later...because really, it's his fault..he shouldn't have been logged in while giving a presentation!
Leanne1078 Leanne1078 8 years
Agreed! Completely his fault, and it's lame of him to blame you...
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 8 years
Okay, it's totally his fault. He didn't have the common sense to either let you know he'd be doing a presentation or just shut down his IM altogether. BUT seriously?? Neither of you should be using explicit "talks" while on work computers...nothing you type is private and everything can be used against you later.
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 8 years
why have i heard this story before? Has it been posted here before or is it just an interwebs surfing story? either way, it's his mistake for not turning off the IM client.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
It's his fault, if he was giving a presentation he should have any personal forms of communication shut down. You had no way of knowing where or what he was doing at work at that exact moment.
kristyy kristyy 8 years
Hahaha - I wonder what your message was. ;) But yeah, it's his fault for not turning IM off. I quickly log off whenever my boss is around just in case he comes up to me and wants me to show him something on my computer. You would think he'd know better!
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
Forgive! You had no malicious intent when you sent that IM.
Kelliegrl Kelliegrl 8 years
She should be forgiven since both of them engage in IM's on a regular basis at work. However, it's dumb to exchange private conversations on public computers that you know other people can get access to.
RaCheer RaCheer 8 years
I want to know who said "Not forgive"? She didn't do anything wrong. He should have logged out of IM before his presentation!
Sarana Sarana 8 years
Definately his fault, he should have shut down IM. The nerve to blame you!
baybelle baybelle 8 years
His fault - and he should get over it by playing the remorseful stud at work. Not every guy is lucky enough to get a girl sending him explicit messages on IM.
cosmiclatte cosmiclatte 8 years
Wow, it's pretty stupid to keep your instant messenger on when you give a presentation :D he should get over himself, I'm sure next week this'll be just one more funny story in the office hehe
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
Uh, it was HIS fault keeping his IM open while he was doing a presentation! ANYONE could have messaged him and said something potentially embarrassing.
CYL CYL 8 years
Muirena that's what i thought too..I though I have seen this post on Group Therapy or Confessions..only it was a guy someone had a crush on ..and not a bf? If it is a seperate case...the lesson for all..send those naughty things via txt msg..and turn off IM during presentations!
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
This exact post has been on here before...
candace87 candace87 8 years
Okay so, I think this is a fake post because I've read this story many times before, but anyway I'll give my response. First off, it is his fault, not yours, in my opinion. He should have had the common sense to shut off the IM and any other personal things he had going on BEFORE the presentation. In response to some other comments above.. someone or a few people mentioned they should "both" be fired..but it doesn't say anywhere that they work together. In fact, it doesn't say she was at work at all. And to the person who said "myspace surveys" and that.. sorry but I don't see a harmless "hey hows work?" im the same way as wasting an hour with "whats your moms name? what did you eat for breakfast?" myspace surveys. It's not like they were having a lengthy conversation that was taking away from his work time. It's the same thing as getting or sending a text during work. So, I put forgive. Although this isn't the poster's fault at all.
laura1jl laura1jl 8 years
His fault. HE should be asking for forgiveness
Coco-Aylese Coco-Aylese 8 years
who has their IM on during a presentation!!! and if this is something that the both of you regularly he would have liked on some other day if the week...HIS FAULT.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 8 years
How the hell were you supposed to know that he was givin a presentation? That sounds like a screw up on his end. Of course you can be forgiven, just give him a few days.
98769876 98769876 8 years
He is not being paid to fuck around. You wouldn't call repeatedly throughout the day just to see "What are you doing" "I wish you were home" "Click on the link, it's so funny!" It is disrespectful to go around your employers back by chatting online about non work related stuff. Just because people can't overhear you, it doesn't excuse using your/their time inappropriately. I'm not trying to be a nazi here. BUT, would you want to your employee pay for time spent sending raunchy love notes or taking myspace quizzes?! I think not.
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