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Sunday Confessional: I Looked Up My Boss' Personal Info

Sunday Confessional: I Looked Up My Boss' Personal Info

It happened at work while I was working in the Files Department. My job was to put personal documents into personnel files. This job is the worst job ever, and out of complete boredom, I did something stupid and morally wrong. I looked in the personnel file of my boss. I just couldn't help myself -- I have had a schoolgirl crush on him ever since I started. I saw his name staring back at me and my curiosity took hold. I found out where he lives, and sadly, his wife's name, where she works, their kids' names, etc. Just as I was about to get to his medical info, he came in and saw me. I am still not sure if he knows it was his file I was reading, but nonetheless, I am panicking.

I am so ashamed -- what I did was so stupid and now I am on the verge of depression and I can't deal with the guilt. Please forgive me!


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Womenfest Womenfest 9 years
You sound sorry, just don't do it again.
aluna86jh aluna86jh 9 years
I say it's forgivable and if he asks then be like "well I was filing these papers and yours came up with it. I looked and I shouldn't have and it won't happen again." Then don't do again and move on.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
i think its unforgivable, i dont like snoops, especially at the office
zoomusicgirl zoomusicgirl 9 years
it was wrong, but you weren't doing it maliciously! just don't do it again!
marthalilian126 marthalilian126 9 years
I don't think it's forgivable. I'm sorry, but the thought of someone going through my personnel file for their own amusement definitely skeeves me out. More often than not, you are assured that this information will be accessed when necessary and relevant, not just by some random who happens to be given the JOB of filing. And to think that you might have even gone so far as to look into his medical file, had you not been caught red-handed, is just unforgivable. I think your company better have an HR session about the confidentiality of information!
Lorrie30 Lorrie30 9 years
I definitely forgive u.U fessed up what you did,now its time to forgive yourself.
SugarFreak SugarFreak 9 years
Oh my gosh...definitely forgive. It was definitely not right, but how many people give in to curiousity and end up doing something that is wrong? Don't beat yourself up too much because stuff happens, but if it really bothers you then at least you know you won't probably do anything like that again! I would definitely forgive you.
Trixie6 Trixie6 9 years
Forgive. Seriously...Get over it. You looked at your boss's file - BFD. Keep the info to yourself, don't do it again & cut yourself some slack.
7kimba7 7kimba7 9 years
I chose forgive BUT I am concerned that you said you were "about to get to his medical file." The thought that you would have read his medical info sends me major red flags. Please be careful.
Stella10 Stella10 9 years
who cares it's not like you were stealing what do they expect when they ask you to put away personnel files. . . . Seriously!
Jeng112 Jeng112 9 years
If they can look up all of your personal information when they hire you....background checks, credit history ECT...I think knowing he is married is only fair. As long as your not blabbing it all over the office I think you're good. Don't worry you are not an aweful person. The only way he could know if you were doing something wrong is if you looked really guilty and startled when he came in.
whtevjenny whtevjenny 9 years
I agree with all the others that said it's not such a big deal. Just don't do it again - you're human! Many people would have done the same thing.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
Ah, the crush! Just be mindful not to repeat the action. Hopefully he didn't suspect you're reading his file. Then again, if it's just general information, he may not even care that much...
nessabum nessabum 9 years
i forgive. it's snooping, but i've done it before. and it seems like you're already beating yourself up pretty bad.
ClaraBow-It-girl ClaraBow-It-girl 9 years
Perfectly understandable. Sometimes a girl cannot be held acount able for her actions , when she has a handsome boss
tracyb107 tracyb107 9 years
Just do not show up at his house
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
Just don't make a habit of it. They obviously trust you enough to deal with the personal files, but it doesn't sound like you're the kind of person who would take advantage of this information.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
doesn't sound like there was anything very interesting to see. whay are you depressed over this? i suspect that basically every person who files has taken a peak or 2. doesn't make it right, but it's hardly worth spending any more time worrying about it. move on, don't do it next time.
Marci Marci 9 years
I say forgive. You only read his file, and since that's what you're filing, you're sort of entrusted with all that information. If you shared any of that information with other people, THAT would be against policy and just wrong. So as long as you didn't and don't do that, I say, let it go.
jennifer76 jennifer76 9 years
I don't know. I forgive because you do seem to realize what you did was wrong. But, you're actually lucky he came in before you started going through his medical info. That's such an invasion of privacy! I would be really ticked if someone was poring over my confidential medical info because they were bored and curious. Like someone else said, personnel files are closed for a reason. The company obviously trusted you to respect that and it sounds like you will do that next time. One last thing, though - whether or not your boss knows it was *his* file you were snooping into, it doesn't reflect well on you that you were violating a co-worker's privacy like that.
i-am-elle i-am-elle 9 years
Let it go. We're ALL curious, it's natural. Just try not to do it again! I know you wouldn't want people reading your personnel file either! Hehe.
kimberley kimberley 9 years
I would say forgive. You are obviously feeling guilty over what you did, and it seems pretty clear from what you wrote that you looked into his file out of curiosity, not malice. And you wouldn't do anything with his personal information (or anyone else's), and it's clear you won't do it again, so I say forgive. Personnel files are closed files for a reason, and it sounds like you take that fact seriously. Good for you!
MamaD MamaD 9 years
Definitely FORGIVE...I was never a fan of not knowing who I'm working for!!! I think employees have the right to know! They find out everything about us, or at least as much as they can so I think it goes both ways! I had a friend who recognized an employer (he owned his own business) on a law enforcement website!!!! And he wasn't one of the good guys!!! She gave notice and looked for a new position the next day!!! Had she know she would have never taken the job!!
Hope5 Hope5 9 years
Forgive!It's not like you're stalking him!
SweetPeasMom SweetPeasMom 9 years
I don't think it's bad at all. I mean, all of those things are something he'd probably tell you in conversation anyway the longer you work together. It's not like you were getting all his account numbers and passwords or anything. Totally forgiveable!
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