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Sunday Confessional: I Ruined Her Wedding Dress

Last weekend I was in my best friend's wedding. As her maid of honor, I took her wedding dress home with me for safe-keeping while she and her husband left from the reception straight to the airport for their honeymoon. The next night, feeling slightly down and a little goofy, I got the silly idea to try on her wedding dress. I admit it wasn't a smart idea but at the time I really meant no harm; I just wanted to see what I'd look like in it!

I pranced around in it for a bit, but since my friend is a few sizes smaller than me, it was extremely tight and I had to take it off. Stupidly, when twisting my torso to unlatch it, I managed to rip the back seam. Completely panicked, I tried to get it off me as quickly as possible and ended up tearing a large portion of the bodice, which was hand-beaded! The upper portion of the dress is now destroyed, and I'm not sure it's even repairable.

She gets back in a week, and I don't know how I'll bring myself to tell her. This dress was literally created just for her; she even gushed about passing it on to her future daughter. My guilt is overwhelming right now, and I'm terrified of how upset she'll be. Is there any way I can ever be forgiven for destroying one of her prized possessions?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
u knew u were bigger than her and u knew that she wanted to pass it on to her daughter. u tried it on inspite of that. u shouldve known better. u knew that shes smaller than u (size wise) and u shouldve known that u would end up tearing it or damaging it somehow. it wouldve been different if it was just a random dress. but its not JUST a dress, its her wedding dress. get it fixed. tell her the truth, apologize. and get it mended, fast. if it cant be mended, clone that dress. and u have to pay
BKNYGal BKNYGal 9 years
I think she would have freaked out if it was before the wedding, but since it's after, she probably won't be that upset. I say call her first and let her know you were curious about how a wedding dress would look on you, and got carried away. Let her know you want to pay to repair it and see what she says. Continue to say sorry a million times. Also, don't try to get it fixed without letting her know first, what happens if they mess it up further?...then you have to explain that one too! Good luck!
Ms--Anonymous Ms--Anonymous 9 years
I agree with everything you said Asia84!!I'm crazy too so I would suggest the same thing to any friend who did that to me b/c if I notice there would be nothing short of a nuclear blowout!!! But to the Poster your guilt will eat you alive and honestly you NEED to tell her b/c you deserve to be punished with her anger at your careless curiosity....if you knew it was too small why try it on? Forgiveness will come...eventually just give her some time!
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
My best friend, who got married last summer, entrusted me with her dress. First off, we're not the same size, so why try it on??? why try it on anyways??? you've never worn a ball gown before??? second, regardless if she has already worn it, it's still a very expensive investment. her dress was $7,000 . . .I ain't the b*tch trying to pay for it to get fixed. Babes (my best friend) had hand beading too, and i was there making sure that ever bead was in the right place, and that the design was right . . .this is a precious commodity. you don't just try it on to see how it looks. i forgive you, but if it were my dress (mind you, i'm half crazy) it's best you get it fixed and hope i don't notice.
MissChita MissChita 9 years
I did say I would not forgive, but seeing the fact that I'm already married (if I was in this situation), then I would get over it. I would forgive anyway, because it just the right thing to do. But you better believe that I would be pretty upset considering she (my friend) knew the dress wasnt her size and it would not fit her anyway! That was stupid on her part (but the person obviously already knows that). So, on that note, just go get the dress fixed, and tell your friend the truth. Like I say, good thing she is already married so, she has no real need for the dress at this moment....
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
You're a weirdo! what a stupid thing to do. It's someone else's wedding dress!!! ugh.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 9 years
I know a lot of people are saying "wow, I can't believe all those people said not forgive," but it's NOT just a dress. She obviously put a lot of thought into it and wanted to pass it on to her daughter. It's obviously incredibly special. And her friend was completely lacking in any sense trying on something she knew to be too small. I'd be soooo pissed off. Definitely pay for the repairs, but if it were me, I'm not sure I'd still want to be friends with someone that careless with such a special possession.
designerel designerel 9 years
i wouldn't ruin her honeymoon. wait for her to get back, sit her down and tell her exactly what happened. then tell her you are going to take it straight to the dressmaker to get it repaired. if you replace it i'm not sure it will mean much to her, so i hope it is repairable. she is going to be very upset, esp. after mentioning that this is a dress that she wants to pass on to her daughter, and that it was created esp. for her... it's not like you can pick up another one at david's bridal. just hope that it can be fixed.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I can't decide. When you out the dress on you knew it was too small. It needs to go directly back to the dress maker and let her make the determination of what can be done. Sometimes things look worse than they actually are and sometimes they really are ruined. You need to be honest with her and be prepared for her to be extremely angry with you. If it was made just for her I am guessing it was not that cheap. Be prepared for it to cost you a small fortune.
Marni7 Marni7 9 years
Forgive! Its not like you had any malicious intent when you were trying it its after the wedding..I would wait until after she gets back from the honeymoon (no need to stress her while she is away) then tell her you are sorry and you will fix it.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
"popgoestheworld - how can you call fake on this post? what does that even mean?" It means I think that someone fabricated this "confessional". You know, like, made it up. I obviously could be wrong, but after reading it, that was my hunch. Unless Dear confesses, we'll never know. I'm not losing sleep over it.
Nina_79 Nina_79 9 years
Do you know where she had it made? They would be the best people to fix it. If yes bring it there and ask them to repair it. When your friend comes home you can tell her what happend and hopefully ad that it is being mended as you speak. Don't tell her on her honeymoon, it would probably put a serious damper on her mood and only worsen things. When she comes home is an early enough time to tell her. Maybe you can also buy her flowers as an apology gift.
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 9 years
popgoestheworld - how can you call fake on this post? what does that even mean?
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I also agree with jaxon!
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I completely agree with Beach Barbie!
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 9 years
get the dress fixed... if you can i definately said forgive though. its a dress!!! and it was an accident! anyone who said not forgive has got to be a heartless heifer. for real dear... its no thang.
yadiet yadiet 9 years
I was undecided on this one. this is a tough one!! Only because a wedding dress is a very high thing on a womens list. Due to the fact that maybe your daughter might wear it one day. I say get it fix now!!! Find out who made it and take it to them.. Hopefully you friend never finds out and you get her dressed fixed.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 9 years
At first, I thought "not forgive," but then I thought if MY best friend did that, I'd be pretty annoyed (but then I would probably laugh really hard at the thought of her in my wedding dress) but if she was extremely apologetic and offered to pay for all the repairs, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. This is AFTER the wedding. BEFORE, I would NOT be as accommodating!!!
jaxon jaxon 9 years
I cannot believe so many people said not forgive! It a dress!!! Not her first born...I truly believe this is why marriages many people are caught up in the possessions and whoopla that comes with a WEDDING and not focused in a marriage..Who says the daughter she may or may not have would even want to wear her wedding dress if the child to be even gets married? to get it fixed and apologive profusely. If your friend lets this come between you guys then she is really not a friend to begin with... There are many things that can ruin friendships material possessions should NOT be one of them
missyd missyd 9 years
I would rip you apart limb by limb and burn your organs. LOL. NOoooo! Yes it is a really shi**y thing you did, but to totally end the friendship? probably not. I'd be miffed for a bit, and yes expect you to fix it PERFECTLY, but I wouldnt go so far as to never talk to you again. You must have been close; you were her maid of honor.
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
Pay for a high quality repair job! Then apologize like hell. Good luck to you and I hope you don't lose a friend.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I would: a) expect you to pay for full repairs on the dress and then b) never speak to you ever again Get it sorted!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Forgive provided that you pay for excellent repair of the dress. You broke it, you fix it. Truthfully, I believe the dress can be repaired.
Meike Meike 9 years
Maybe she sucked in her gut. *shrugs* Well, if the topic is true, I vote forgiveness because it is a material thing that can possibly be fixed by the same designer/tailor who made it. Tell your friend what happened and that you want to have it fixed at your expense. I still can't for the life of me understand what the appeal is of trying on another's friend's wedding dress. If you too curious for your own good or desire to get pretty'ed up for a couple hours, go to a bridal shop but after you get a free make over at Saks.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I'm calling FAKE on this post for a number of reasons. Mainly, if her friend is a "few sizes" smaller, and the dress was literally made for her, there is no chance you'd get that thing zipped up period. Sorry but everyone knows how fitted wedding dresses are. And to myladybloom, a lot of things in this world are sexist, and telling someone, anyone, to "man up", is not even on the radar. If you are going to be PC patrol, at least choose a battle worth fighting.
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