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Sunday Confessional: I Snooped in His Medicine Cabinet

My guy friend had an early holiday/housewarming party on Friday night. He wanted to keep everyone downstairs since the upstairs was a mess, but there was a long line for the bathroom so I asked him if I could use the one on the second floor — he obliged. It's a split so the sink and shower is in the room next door to the toilet. When I went to wash my hands, I didn't bother to close the door — I assumed I was alone up there. There was no soap by the sink so I opened his medicine cabinet to see if I could find something to wash my hands with. I didn't find any soap, but I did find numerous pill bottles. My curiosity got the best of me and just as I picked up one of the bottles to read the label, my friend walked upstairs to check on me.

In a stern voice he asked me what I was doing while simultaneously snatching the pill bottle out of my hand. He told me to get out of his room so I ran downstairs, grabbed my purse, and left. I clearly made one of my dear friends feel incredibly uncomfortable and violated in his own home and I feel terrible. I've been calling him nonstop to apologize, but he won't return any of my messages. Can I be forgiven for snooping in my friend's medicine cabinet?

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macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
I say forgive! I think he did overreact to her snooping, and I think that YES, she was doing the wrong thing, but just as easily she could have picked up the bottle to look behind it. I mean, for goodness sake. It's a bathroom cabinet. Who cares? If I don't want something found, I'll hid it more carefully, and if it's in the bathroom cabinet, it's fair game for snooping IMO!
cubadog cubadog 8 years
I am also one of those that could ever understand why others find it acceptable to look through someone's medicine cabinet. It is rude and none of your business. Like someone else said soap is always below not in the medicine cabinet. He needs time to forgive he let you use the upstairs bathroom because he trusted you, you violated that trust and now you have to live with the wrath!
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
u invaded his privacy. when u saw the pill bottles, u shouldnt have picked it up and checked what he was taking. instead of doing that u couldve asked him. it sounded like he wasnt such a close friend. medicine cabinets are pretty personal. u really shouldnt have dont that. try apologizing when he cools down though. he will forgive u in time
Kaleighna Kaleighna 8 years
undecided.. I would bet she snoops again..IF it were such an accident, why did she pick up the bottle of pills when she opened the medicine look for soap!!! To quote her "My curiosity got the best of me and just as I picked up one of the bottles to read the label, my friend walked upstairs to check on me." JMO.. but, her friend has a right to be somewhat upset.. she violated his privacy while being an invited guest...
lawchick lawchick 8 years
There is no under-sink cabinet in one of my bathrooms... so I wouldn't think it was strange for someone to look in the medicine cabinet in there for soap. I would not keep pills I would be embarrassed about someone finding in a medicine cabinet in a bathroom guests use. I don't think it's ok to snoop, but since we know it's so common, and it's not totally implausible that she was legitimately looking for soap, I voted forgive.
CUPCAKEchatter CUPCAKEchatter 8 years
FORGIVE. You've learnt your lesson and he overreacted. I understand that it was wrong of you for snooping around but all of us are curious in different ways. Its obvious that you know you've made a mistake by apologizing and if he refuses to contact you; I believe that waiting is the best thing to do since you've done everything you could. Plus, it wasn't very nice of him either to ask you to get out.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
It's his home, he should've been able to keep it wherever. No one can come to your home and question your motivations. "How dare you keep your stuff in your home out in the open or where i can find it?" Oh really?
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
I don't think you should have left! That probably made it even worse for your friend.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
p.s. why keep private medications out in the open like that? I keep mine in a Clinique bag in my bedside table drawer. There's always a chance someone will snoop there, but they're much less likely to. Anyway, people open cabinets when they're in your house - expect that.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I wouldn't do it to anyone. I have been through my friends stuff, but I was allowed to, and they have been into mine with permission. They can look through whatever I have, and if they need it, like lotion or something, feel free to use it. I would be okay if someone did this to me. I understand curiosity, and I wouldn't keep anything horrendously personal in the bathroom anyway. Plus, with two bathrooms, I control where you go -- so it's not like you'd be in my bedroom going into my master bath anyway. If someone snooped in my 2nd bathroom, they'd be horrified to find -- nothing. Anyway, I wouldn't do it to anyone, because I just truly do not care enough.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
^ You do know that doesn't always work? I've had people go looking under my bed and go through stuff. I kept a little box with personal belongings under my bed in a spot where you have to really really reach under to get it. And well, I ended up putting the ban finger on my room where cousins are concerned. If it's someone's personal stuff no matter where the hell you are, don't go snooping. If it has to be "opened" leave it closed. No excuse. Do onto others. Everyone's making excuses but when in that same spot I'm sure you wouldn't like it. What're people really looking for in medicine cabinets, aspirin? It's still not yours, ask if you want to snoop.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
I'll be honest, if I'm at a potential boyfriends house, I totally look in his medicine cabinet. (With the door locked and the water running!) Why? Because my friend found out after she had slept with a guy that he had herpes, and all she had to do was look in his medicine cabinet and find his prescription for it. So, while I agree that it is totally wrong, I have to say forgive, because I don't want to be a hypocrite now. But, I know I would be annoyed if some one was snooping in my house, but by letting them in I run that potential risk so I wouldn't yell at them to get out and never talk to them. So, I do understand why he was upset, but I think he overreacted and you should just apologize to him. If he is still upset about it then, well, I think there are bigger issues than you looking through his medicine cabinet.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
yeah, anything in a cupboard is pretty much going to be seen by someone sooner or later. Your friend overreacted in my opinion, as anything you don't want seen by the outside world should be kept in your bedroom.
Meike Meike 8 years
Sorry, not forgive. Maybe it's just me but I don't go snooping into anyone's personal business. It is an invasion of someone else's privacy. I at least hope I could hold all my friends to the same standard.
miss-leanne miss-leanne 8 years
Not forgive. You knew exactly what you were doing..
ann418 ann418 8 years
Okay, I misread the part where you asked if you could use the bathroom upstairs. My mistake.
ann418 ann418 8 years
Totally not okay. We had a friend that stole Ambien from us, so I'm a little touchy about this subject. If you confess and tell him why you did what you did, he might forgive you. You probably picked up a really embarrassing medication which is why he isn't talking to you. You invaded his privacy, even if you did have innocent intentions. He clearly did not want you upstairs, which is why he was checking on you, and he caught you doing exactly what he expected. Good luck.
candace87 candace87 8 years
Oh, and I agree with everyone who said you were definitely NOT looking for soap in the MEDICINE cabinet.
candace87 candace87 8 years
Undecided.. I would like to say forgive, it was just one bottle and you didn't even see what it was.. but, then I thought.. what if he HADN'T walked in on you. you could have full out searched his cabinet. He didnt want anyone upstairs, trusted you enough to go there, and you broke that trust. One thing I cant STAND is when people go through my medicine cabinet. Mine make a loud-ish noise when you open the door so whenever I hear that when someone's in my bathroom, I know they're snooping and I get ticked off, so I can see why your friend is angry.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 8 years
Forgive- but I have to say you really had no reason to look at the prescription bottles, obviously! When I was in college, I had left a prescription bottle in my handbag, and left my dorm room for a few minutes. When I got back, my roommate and her bf were arguing, because he had decided to snoop through my bag and see what prescription I was taking, and she got mad at him. Yep, I was taking a medication to treat my very first UTI! What fun for me to have that awkward little fact revealed to everyone in his frat, even though he pretended to be embarrassed of his snooping ways at the time. And I highly doubt your friend is a pillhead. People keep old prescription bottles if they don't finish them all, or have multiple medications for many reasons. I certainly do and I'm pretty healthy, but I've already gotten a little TMI here with the medical history. I also highly doubt you were looking in the medicine cabinet for soap, seriously, lame excuse. Eeeveryone knows soap is under the sink. Sheesh.
jessie jessie 8 years
forgive...and do the right thing and call and apologize for invading his privacy.
missangelique999 missangelique999 8 years
I said forgive, but I think it depends on the level of friendship. If it's a best friend, or really good friend that you've know for YEARS, I don't see why they wouldn't forgive you. It might take some time, but it will happen eventually. Innocent snooping isn't a very valid reason to end a friendship, unless someone got hurt in the process, which obviously isn't the case. He's just embarrassed and probably a little angry that you were going through his stuff. I think this is a time to dig up that well-used cliche "Put yourself in his shoes"..
glampop20 glampop20 8 years
It wasn't intentional but a lot of people do it intentionally all the time. If he has something in his bathroom that he really didn't want someone to see then he should have removed it before he was having a party. If the RX was that bad, he shouldn't have it in a bathroom that someone other than him would be using. Innocent findings like these happen all the time! I say forgive!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Uh, FORGIVE! I'm more worried about why he didn't have any SOAP in his bathroom!! geez!
margokhal margokhal 8 years
TwistandShout: about the "under the cabinet" thing: I had inserted "typically" before that whole phrase, but I took it out before posting because that hasn't been my experience, and I (probably wrongly) assumed that that's just how things are. Pretty much every house/establishment I've ever been to or been in has put things like that under the sink/somewhere separate...or they've left the medicine cabinet partially open so that a person could *see* the soap or whatever might be needed. Even so, he wasn't expecting anyone up there to begin with, so he probably didn't feel the need to hide personal information like meds - or make sure the soap was in stock. @_@
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